I am a virgo female. Two of the three most devastating relationships of my life have been with aquarius's. The first one was my first serious boyfriend and I was his first girlfriend. We dated for two months and everything was wonderful, we got along, had a good time, great discussions. Then one day, out of the blue, he told me that he'd spent the entire night thinking about our relationship and where it was heading and ultimately we didn't fit together. He broke up with me and never wanted to speak to me again. This took me more than a year to get over.
My next relationship with an aquarius was two years later. In the interim I'd had an awful relationship with a gemeni (awful in the sense that we did not get along, fought all the time and hurt each other). I met this aquarius and we immediately hit it off; he was very interested in me. We dated for a couple of weeks and then had a long distance relationship for about two months. Long phone calls, emails, IM's, we were getting to know each other and getting along very well. We seemed to share values, goals, everything. Both of us agreed though, that we should take it slow. I was scheduled to return to his region in a couple of months and we'd date and take it from there. I get back to the region and we go out once and have a good time. Then he asks me out again, we go out, and he breaks up with me. Tells me that even though he's attracted to me and I'm better than he remembered and he really enjoys spending time with me, ultimately he doesn't think we match up philosophically, so it's better to end it now. Even though he'd said we would always be friends, after that day he never wanted to see/speak to me again. This was less devestating, since I'd gone through the drill once before, but it still hurt a lot.
Then I dated a virgo, which in comparison was so much easier than an Aquairus. Even after we broke up, we managed to stay good friends.
Now another aquarius is very interested in me. On the one hand he seems very cool and I would like to get to know him. On the other hand, I don't want to set myself up for another big hurt. The problem with me and aquarius's is that everything seems good, everything goes well, I'm feeling confident about the relationship and then BOOOM it's over. I never see it coming. How can I date someone when I'll never really feel confident that they're not going to come to me one day and break up with me. Both of my previous aquarius boyfriends broke up with me at the end of what had been (in my mind) a nice evening.
So should I date him and try to keep my heart reigned in. At some point in every relationship one has to make herself vulnerable. I find myself avoiding him (and other aquarian type guys) out of fear. This particular guy has been more persistant than the others, which is why my subtle avoidance isn't working as well. Is it fair to reject someone just because of their sign and because they remind me of ex-boyfriends who hurt me? The same things that attracted me to my exes are what attract me to this guy.
I guess the real problem with my previous aquarius relationships is that I have no idea what went wrong, so I never got closure. In a way, I haven't gotten over either of them, since my last memory of them was of their being great and then dissapearing. Before I dated the second aquarian I had this discussion with myself and ultimately decided that I should give the guy a chance. I see how that turned out.
What should I do?
Should I date another aquarius?
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