How are Aries after break-ups?

8/22/2006 12:07:32 PM | More
VirgowithalittleLibra

male

Hello my Aries friends...I have a quick question for you.

My story is this, I've been dating an Aqua girl who has Venus in Aries (in other words she loves like Aries do).
We broke up a week or two ago...mainly her decision because "she wasn't sure that she could give me the time I needed"

We live in two different cities but only 2 hours away from each other.

Ever since the break-up we've been e-mailing each other and she has called me often...she still asks me questions and for what I know she's not interested in anyone else (of couse that's what she says).

She's still very protective with me (i.e. I had to cancel a trip with a girl she doesn't like (the girl is just a friend but has liked me for a while) bc I was afraid to lose any chances to get back with my aqua/aries girl).

She knows I'm NOT interested in being only friends right now. So I told her to please not misslead me and to consider my feelings as we keep in touch, bc I'm not doing it to become friends...she heard that and she said she would be always honest with me (whatever that means).

So, we've been talking on the phone about random things, our lives, etc...but we had a little argument 4 days ago (I haven't answered her calls ever since then) because she doesn't seem to make any effort to come see me...or for me to go see her...

Ever since we broke up, weeks ago, all I want is to be able to see her and be near her again...to talk and make things work...and I know she still cares...and I try to play it cool and not bring up the subject at all...but she knows I want to see her...and all she says is "maybe this Sunday"...and I'm always the one asking "when we would meet again"...

She has this careless attitude that confuses me, because then at times, she flirts with me and tells me she can't wait to meet my family...and she texts me when she works...using endearing words...

I'm so confused right now.

I haven't answer any of her calls for 2 days now, because I don't know what to do...I don't know much about the Aries sign at all...and that is supposedly how she loves when she loves...so if any of you could give me some inputs about what is good to do after a break-up and if you think there is still hope...would be great.

I don't want to ignore for too long, but I want her to realize things a bit too. I feel like I've made things always so easy for her...but how much without contact is too much? Would I lose her or would that help her to miss me?
8/22/2006 2:28:40 PM | More
ingo

hi id just like to say - ur gals an aqua, NOT aries! her characteristics will be more aquarius , more so then any other sign that is there in her natal chart.

The suns influence is always more than other planets.if u do want to get into the details then check her moon and rising sign ; they influnce quite a bit
8/22/2006 3:29:07 PM | More
tupeline

female from Germany  

Sun: Aries Rising: Capricorn Moon: P

no matter what her sign is, but to me it sounds like she's playing with you. don't give so much about what she says or writes, her actions are what is important. and her actions so far have been...nothing. she doesn't make an effort to see you, she doesn't make an effort to take your relationship to the next level. i don't want to be the devils advocate, but i think your chances to get her to be more serious about your relationship are slim to none.
8/22/2006 4:03:08 PM | More
AriesLovesVirgo

female

Female Aries Confident Me

Well,

If an Aries made the break up, we can be careing of your feelings but very distant. I have never met an Aries that went back on their word, unless for undieing love.
If they said it once, don't expect for them to say it again. If you didn't get the impression that things were over the 1st time they told you, they won't waste their time with you afterwards.
If you beg, crawl, scramble, and pleade to get back with them. It's the most UNSEXY thing they'll remember about you. About how you begged and grovelled for them. If you stand your ground and get in there face, lay it all flat out...kind of like a business deal...they'll respect you.

Personally after a break up. I am one cold cookiemonster, if I was given reason to be cold though. If it was a mutual break up, the two just went there separate ways I can "almost" be friends. I've seen that it's very rare for an Aries to be freinds with an X, unless he/she is the one that broke em down and put them in the corner in the first place. In that case, yes we'll check in on time to time to make sure that the PERSON we "once" loved or cared for is still ok.
We don't like to be enemies, but if you made it that way. Be prepaired for one TICKED off Aries.

We're not very nice, if your not very nice.

I guess Im just nuts, hard day.

ALV
8/22/2006 4:07:58 PM | More
VirgowithalittleLibra

male

ingo - i know she's aqua, but her Venus planet is in Aries, which for what I understand represents how she loves or she acts when she's interested in someone. I've heard the moon represent how you feel once you stay in a long-term relationship...so that's why I asked here, because her Venus/love planet is in Aries...but I'll keep on checking the other boards too.

tupeline - thank you so much for your comments!
yeah, you are right about words vs. actions...and even her words are so vague right now.
i have decided that it is in my hands to take actions too, so i won't contact her back until at least a week has passed by...maybe by then i'll feel better and talk to her, i'm sure by then she may dislike me, bc she gets mad when she doesn't get what she wants....so that has been always my fear...to lose her....but i deserve to take some time off too...to think because even though i'll continue missing her maybe i'll realize i'm also done with the relationship...who knows...

all i know is that i need some time, at least close to a week to know how i feel and what i am or i am not willing to do anymore.

i'm just kind of exhausted and very dissapointed at the way she's taking for granted our 1 year relationship right now...there are so many factors...like the distance and her work hours...but for goodness sake, if AT LEAST she would TRY...to at least show the same desire to see me...to work something out a bit harder...

sigh.

anyways, thank you so much tupeline. i'll take yoru words with me and keep you posted =)
8/22/2006 4:35:43 PM | More
tupeline

female from Germany  

Sun: Aries Rising: Capricorn Moon: P

" i'll take yoru words with me and keep you posted =)"

aww, thank you. and please keep me posted. i hope i'm wrong and everything will turn out fine for you both

8/22/2006 4:41:08 PM | More
VirgowithalittleLibra

male

AriesloveVirgo -
I'll remember the unsexy part lol
Yeah, I stated my point of view, that's why I'm kinda bothered that she keeps on leading me on right now, if truly she only wants to be friends, because I clearly said to her to not contact me if that was the case...
So unless she didn't hear that well (and I'm pretty sure she did) then I don't see why she would be calling and talking everyday unless she wanted to get back or at least see where this is going, but unlike me, she doesn't come with a plan...so in return I feel like she's not making any efforts.

But I'll remember what you shared...thank you. I'm just also very unsure that I'm up for another round with my aqua right now, even if she would say yes...
I don't know.

Virgos try and try when they love, but we also have our limits...and so I'm getting there...if not there already...do we'll have to wait and see what unfolds this week...

Aprilbaby,

Thanks for your comments too.
I only cry once every five years I think, lol, but I defenitely feel things deep inside.
I do agree with life being too short though, I just posted something somewhere mentioning that just a second ago.

I think the only way for me sort out my feelings is by stepping back a little...to look from the outside what all this is all about...
But once I do realize a bit more, I'll hopefully move in the right direction to keep living my life with or without her...
Part of me, really missed her, we'll have to see...

vll
8/22/2006 4:55:34 PM | More
tupeline

female from Germany  

Sun: Aries Rising: Capricorn Moon: P

"i'm sure by then she may dislike me, bc she gets mad when she doesn't get what she wants..."
oh dear, sounds like an aries to me lol
8/22/2006 5:26:49 PM | More
AriesLovesVirgo

female

Female Aries Confident Me

VirgoWithLib-

Ah complicated!
I know quite a few Libras and they are nothing but the best party hosts ever! They are so full of life and zest but there are dark sides to every side.

If you told her that you want it all or nothing and she knew this is exactly how you felt BUT she is still trying to talk to you. THen she's treetrunking wtih you, or she wants to see what you would or could do without her. She's probably testing you, seeing who you'de go for after her or if you would at all. LIke I said she is weighing you out from time to time. Do you like being weighed out? Does being put up high and inspected bother you at all?
She's probably in LIMBO, deciding what to do with you. If you haven't heard back sooner then later, you can expect that the answer will be complicated. How long have you two been involved? How did you meet? Is she the sweet Libra or the chatty Libra?
What is it that is making you stick around? Why are you answering her calls, wasn't it YOU who said that it's ALL or NOTHING?
I don't really think that you meant what you said. All or NOTHING means, exactly that.
You either answer her calls, or don't. It depends on you, and the decision you so called made.

I don't see that your ready to let go, your all or nothing was mearly a threat to get her to react. She hasn't reacted, so your in waiting to see her reaction. How long can you wait? It might be a while, she isn't being bothered with you at the moment.
I can "as a woman" see the only reason why she would continue to call each day, as a way for her to check in on you...she's probably lonely...maybe away from you..she hasn't met anyone yet...she is still hanging on to a memory of you.

All these questions:
I'm trying to help. I mean no offense. So just reply and I'll reply back.

Big Kiss!

ALV
8/22/2006 5:57:40 PM | More
tupeline

female from Germany  

Sun: Aries Rising: Capricorn Moon: P

"I don't see that your ready to let go"
that's the impression i have.
8/22/2006 11:42:22 PM | More
AriesLovesVirgo

female

Female Aries Confident Me

yeah

Well VWL- I'm check in again tomorow to see what'cha have to say. Looking forward to it.
I'm off for the night.

ALV

8/23/2006 9:57:52 AM | More
ingo

go to www.cafeastrology.com.

They focus a lot on venus signs, they apparently think its more important than the sun.
8/23/2006 10:10:44 AM | More
ingo

aprilbaby

"Usually, I think we cry for a few days, curse you out, and then move on and never talk or think about you again. Life's too short."

that aptly summarises the aries character. beautifully put!

ALV

i dont quite agree with what u said "I've seen that it's very rare for an Aries to be freinds with an X, unless he/she is the one that broke em down and put them in the corner in the first place"

from my experience i have found that all the arians i know have always been friends with ex's. After all the cursing and crying is over , then i think friendship is back. But theres NO romance there! generally i dont think we ever rekindle feelings with our ex's.

Tupeline

loved what u wrote. Actions are what count. And virgowithlittlelibra (whew) tupelines absolutely right here, think about the astrological aspect later, first look at it practically.

8/23/2006 10:43:15 AM | More
VirgowithalittleLibra

male

AVL, ingo, and tupeline...

You all are great!

Btw, the girl I'm talking about is aqua but with a Venus in Aries. I'm a Virgo with a Venus in Libra.

Venus is the planet that show us "how we love" or "want to be loved" supposedly.

I don't know how "Aries" love, so I'll do some further investigation...but feel free to share any thought if you would like. How do you guys love?

As far as my situation with my aqua girl...yeah...is confusing.
You all are right about me not being ready to let go, maybe I am a little more than before...and it is also so true about ME being the one who wanted all or nothing at least for a while.

I just didn't want to jump into the "friendship" boat too soon after we broke up, bc then I thought I'd have no hope to get back w her you know...

The only reason why I kept on talking with her was, bc I thought after I said what I said, her calling back meant...that she wanted to get back with me.

Because I said clearly "please don't call me if you only wanna be friends, I can't do that right now, maybe after a while, but that is not how I see you right now"...and then she said okay...

Next I knew, she was calling me, so how would you take that?

So in between those calls she would call me baby and honey...like she used to when we were together.

However, she kept on asking me if such and such knew we broke up...meaning, she kept on bringing the fact that we weren't together...so I was like..."hmmm"...and then when I tried to talk her into seeing me...she would make any efforts to set a date...so...now I'm REALLY REALLY confused about what we are or are not.

I know we have broken up...but I don't know what she's trying to do. Either fool me into being her friend little by little (bc she clearly said she doesn't want me out of her life one day) or if she's trying to get back with me, but she's taking her time...bc maybe that's how she does it?

I don't know if I should be blunt at her and ask her...or I should wait until she's ready to meet? I just don't want to be played...but I do still have some little hope for us...I miss her...

If it would all come to moving on though, I would, I guess I just want to feel like I tried and did everything I could...
8/24/2006 2:33:00 AM | More
bittertaurus

I hav venus in Aries and wanna agree with a statement that someone made, I hate it if I cant have something that I thot was mine. And if I have feelings for my ex, I wouldnt be happy just being frens with them. Instead I would try and find out if they are still into me after the break up and things like that. But mostly people who I am done with, I am done with.

I think astrology or no astrology, You should just call her and meet up or something and tell her clearly what u feel about the two of u. There can be a lot of confusion and senseless mind games with the kind of situation u are in. Like u are on these boards, she may be soemwhere else asking ppl advice. So I would say, speak clearly and end the heart ache.

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