clingy cancer ? but they behave sooo aloof...

10/21/2005 7:50:02 AM | More
taurusgirl

Misty---

How to get a Cancer man in 3 steps:

1. Intuition
2. Dignity
3. Magic

Okay... it's not as simple as 3 steps (especially since these steps are really complicated when you think about them), but this is basically how I did it and I'll explain: 1. Follow your gut. Cancers require a LOT of inuition because when they express one mood it may really mean something else (almost like breaking a code... withdrawal = disappointment, silly = happy, etc...). This requires a LOT of patience and not everyone can deal with the nonsense! 2. You need to be true to yourself. Cancer's want a girl they can respect and cherish (a princess) so you need to respect and cherish yourself and BE that girl. If he's not treating you the way you deserve then move on. 3. Deep down Cancers are romantic, dreamy people and there needs to be an element of magic in a relationship with one. Some form of serendipity, a prophetic dream, fate, faery dust, SOMETHING. Despite all the challenges I had with my boyfriend there always seemed to be an outside force that drew us back together. Maybe it's because Cancers are SO complicated that they NEED an outside force to ever get together with anybody!

Good luck. Just know that the only person you can control in a relationship is yourself.
10/20/2005 6:16:14 PM | More
misty

female from aussie!!!  

4 your sake... haha im pret

hay taurusgrl how long roughly did it take 4 him 2 cum round? and how did u do it? were u just there all the time or did u do it through friendship first.. id really like to know
10/20/2005 5:42:11 PM | More
taurusgirl

My Cancer was aloof until I broke through the shell... it took a LOT of work and I had to disappear at one point (I felt unappreciated), but once he realized he was in love with me his personality made a 180. I honestly couldn't believe it would happen but it did. Looking back I think he was scared because when he loves he loves hard.
10/20/2005 2:22:15 PM | More
cafrella

Yes it is quite a job to figure them out, but I think i can do this!
I can be sensitive, I find myself to be very intuitive... i can almost read his mind sometimes... if i can do that, I think i can handle him... it will take some getting use to that's all...
10/20/2005 2:08:41 PM | More
jabbarsher

I m amazed , do cancerians actually feel hurt at such innocent , unintended slights.... like cafrella's pesto example??............... is this real??

and is it true that if they are hurt.... they will not give a reason as to why they are hurt.... and just ignore and avois and all that..... whewwww!

and Daemon - by aloof i mean..... not calling for days, being very personal one day, and joke about it the next day ( thats so insensitive) ......

oh migh its a task to figure u guys out....

10/19/2005 7:48:56 PM | More
mr.crabby

33 years old male from Canada  

No.

No, just let it go, it'll get better.

10/19/2005 3:17:46 PM | More
ABCR2

28 years old male from US  

.......................7/4/1986.........

Could be. Maybe not, though. You could talk to him about it.
10/19/2005 3:12:19 PM | More
cafrella

Yeah they can be clingy and then aloof...
Just this Monday that just passed, my little Cancer comes in to work and he's all happy starts asking about my weekend and I tell him what I did, and he tells me he made Pesto and I sort of cut him off and started telling him about my recipe for Pesto and without asking him about how his weekend was... and without noticing it... he didn't say much and left my office... but i realized after that i had MAYBE not given him the chance to talk and didn't show interest in his weekend... but it was too late... he turned aroudn and spent time throughout the day talking to another coworker, a friend of mine which he doesn't like so much and rarely speaks to her... but he ignored me all day, which was probably a message for me? and we're Wednesday and he's still avoiding me...
I didn't do any of it on purpose... but
I guess he's hurt?
Feels rejected?
10/19/2005 2:00:34 PM | More
Kupo

male

I'm a Moogle hear me roar. MoOoOo

yeah we only share with those we deem "worthy".
10/19/2005 1:54:13 PM | More
Daemon

HA HA U WILL figure us out? WAS dat a question or answer? BUt explain aloofness,people say dese words aloofness clingyness... if u explain then u would find ur answer. Our shells are like shields until we yes us feel secure,or see dat u are worth it den u will see da best in us.
10/19/2005 1:48:27 PM | More
Kupo

male

I'm a Moogle hear me roar. MoOoOo

It's just a shell.

10/19/2005 1:05:15 PM | More
jabbarsher

every where i read that cancerians are real clingy...... but then in many of the the posts here i reAD that the cancerian boyfriends behave more aloof than clingy..... this is also true about my cancerian man....

u guys are soooooooo complex and confusing

any comments cancerians

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