Capricorn Men?

wildorchid
i have been "seeing" a younger (I'm 40-he's 32)Cap for a little over a month now and i have to say..all these replies have been very helpful! this is the slowest i have ever gone in a relationship, he has the patience of Job! its frustrating many times but i just keep reminding myself that i really want this guy and i want this to work, so i am willing to be a patient as i need to. he also will close himself off for a day or two, but i know he values his quiet time. it helps that we live next door to each other so even when he wants to be alone, i can still get a peak at him. on days that i think he is wanting alone time, i leave him be, then he ends up coming over to get a hug or a kiss, its so cute!
BeoWulf

Cap men are like Bruce Wayne/Batman. To the world, they present the millionaire/playboy attitude. But there is a deeper side to them. Only those who are close to them (eg, Alfred, Robin, Commissioner Gorden) know that they are extremely loyal,protective & dedicated to their loved ones.

krobe03
You have to be very challenging and not let him have his way about EVERYTHING! Don't give in to everything he wants because his man objective is to control. I would mentally give him the control because they do make good decision but you have to be in control of the emotional aspect of the relationship. Let him be the "head" of the relationship and you be the "heart. If you want to keep him you are going to have to bow down to giving him the control but he makes pretty wise decision. Just don't give him COMPLETE control over you.
krobe03
With spelling corrections!

You have to be very challenging and not let him have his way about EVERYTHING! Don't give in to everything he wants because his main objective is too have some form of control. I would mentally give him the control because they do make good decisions but you have to be in control of the emotional aspect of the relationship. Let him be the "head" of the relationship and you be the "heart. If you want to keep him you are going to have to bow down to giving him the control but he makes pretty wise decisions. Just don't give him COMPLETE control over you and be a bit exciting to him from time to time. It will keep him on his toes.
krobe03
I have read over you ladies post and I have been with a Cap man for 11 years now. I had to leave him alone for a short period of time and I say short because HE made the break up really short.

I ask him ALL the time why does he stay with me and why can't he let me go and he states " I am the most challenging one he has met". Be a challenge. Don't bow down to his every want and need.
confusedcancer
Is it normal cap behaviour to totally ignore the person you are supposed to be in a relationship with?
Sammy 1
My cap ignores me, he ignores me then he comes back eventually acting very loving as though i am the only one in the world, I suspect he ignores me when he focuses on his work as it is a massive part of his life. If he weren't so loving to me when he returns then i would have removed myself from him a long time ago.
Sammy 1
he has ignored me for weeks on end at a time, but he does come back and when he does I always wonder why i was so worried in the 1st place - then he dissappers on me again, i just try and give him space
confusedcancer
My cap has ignored me since his birthday a month ago. He no longer acknowledges me at all. We started dating last year and then he did the disappearing act, so far he has been gone for 9 months. What is the best way to deal with this? Do I ignore him too?
Sammy 1
Well, I have been "seeing" mine for just over a year and the longest he ignored me for was about 3 months - it was terrible, i would walked past him and one time he litrally put his hands over his eyes when i walked passed him, it hurt so much... So i ignored him thinking that he would then speak to me but this made it much worse.

After the 3 months he came back out of the blue really loving and friendly - he turned on his charm and then treated me great - then went missing.

After our 1st date we did not date again for 8 months despite the fact that I would ask him every now and again if he wanted to come out but he kept telling me he was busy. When i used to see him out and about he used to look at me with such love in his eyes that I just knew that he would come back.

After the 8 months he came back to me all loving and treated me like I was the love of his life - he then went missing again for a few weeks then he came back telling me that he can not wait to see me and that I am his fantasy etc..

I am sure your cap will come back to you - i have become used to his behaviour - I know I deserve better but when he dies come back to me he makes me feel amazing.

I would love to give you some advice confusedcancer but i am in exactly the same situation with my cap also - I would not ignore him if i were you.

W
Sammy 1
I am sure your cap will come back to you - i have become used to his behaviour - I know I deserve better but when he dies* come back to me he makes me feel amazing.

Sorry that should read does*

Sammy 1
However, I work full time and study so I do not have too much time myself so the cap guy suits me just fine as he is a complete workaholic - I miss him though but I am very focused on my career so can understand his triats as he is so similar to me it is untrue as I am a leo
krobe03
No, I wouldn't say ignore him. He will not be interested in you if you TOTALLY ignore him. Cap men love to make you happy. A Cap man who is truly in love with not leave you. He will not let you leave him either. You have to be open and vulnerable and let him take the lead in the relationship but just don't let him have full control over you. What I mean by having full control over you. You have to work and have outside activities other than him. He really doesn't want you to expect him to be with him ALL the time but you surely have to be married to yourself. You have to love YOU first and foremost. Always be happy in spirit and never revengeful or spiteful that will not work. Ignoring him will only make him withdraw away from you.
CapGal
Some of you women on this board continue to surprise and iritate the daylights outta me. Why do you put up with/allow men to use you so much? Doesn't matter his sign....How can a man ignore you for so long.....3, 6, 9 and more months, yet you continue to fool yourselves, thinking that you are in a relationship with this guy? Obviously the guy is using you. Come on ladies, you deserve a lot more love and respect than that. Do yourselves a favour and kick these guys to the curb. Men will do to you only what you allow them to. And please, do not make excuses for these guys selfish actions, by telling yourself and this forum that "oh, I dont mind cuz I dont have much time myself" If you didnt mind, you wouldnt be wasting your time telling yor stories here. When 2 people really care about each other, they will MAKE the time. I have used the "too busy" excuse myself, cuz it is so convenient. So be wise and when faced with such siutations, make sure you take care of # 1, which is you.
Sammy 1
Thanks CapGal - you are right, I know I shouldn't allow myself to be treated like this by any man,
I come on to this board as it helps me see sense when I actually read my posts back and listen to other peoples comments :-)
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