Posted by FoxGlove
Hmmm... tough situation. First of all, I don't think that the OP had decided "ok, I'm going to fall in love with a married man and cause myself tons of emotional pain" -- it doesn't work like that -- so how 'bout we nix the judgment and name-calling. If she's attracted to him, she's attracted to him and she can't change that. It's what she decides to do about it that counts. Same thing with him -- he can't help how he feels -- it's how he ACTS that counts. So far, I don't see that either of them have done anything wrong. He's actually said he wants to do the right thing, and so far he has -- going as far as to turn down an affair. I think he showed actually showed respect there, to his wife and to OP. Now, whether or not they're going to divorce -- who knows? How he feels about OP now? Who knows? The way to find out? Ask him. One thing I believe about Caps -- you ask and they tell. Nine times out of ten, they're straight shooters. Good luck, OP.
I don't see any judgement or name calling. We are straight shooters and she asked our opinion, so we're giving it. I don't see anyone trying to make her feel like butter. We're just being honest and warning her. We have her best interest at heart!