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truecap
6/25/2012 9:15:37 AM | IP
truecap

45 years old female from Small Town, USA  

Sun: Cap Rising: Scorpio Mercury: Capr

Need advice from Caps who are with Aquas. I've been seeing Aqua for 3-4 months and things are rocking along nicely. Actions are speaking positively. We spend a lot of time together. I am developing feelings for this guy. So what I'm looking for is what to do and what not to do. The last thing I want to do is come on too strong. We are both guarded as Caps and Aquas are and both signs rely on actions to speak louder than words. Which is fine, but its nice to hear things as well. He seems to respond to encouragement and reassurances, but doesn't always respond to some comments I make such as when I tell him I will miss him - he works out of town a lot. Soooo, How did yall keep your insecurities in check? How soon is too soon to share feelings? At this point in time, I'm not sure how to proceed. Would like to hear from some who have already been down this road. Any advice offered will be much appreciated. What I'm doing so far seems to be working, but I'm just not real sure how to proceed. I would like more reassurances from him. I have Scorp venus; he has a Cap venus - I'm afraid the passionate side of scorp will overwhelm him. lol!.

I know a lot of yall are with Aquas - so thanks in advance!
tiki33
6/25/2012 10:06:21 AM | IP
tiki33

female

Oxytocin, when it’s got you hooked on

3/4 months is TOO SOON to develop feelings, STOP IT, stop doing that and you'll be fine. Cap Venus is really hard to be in love with because they can be really cold in the love department and you'll feel STARVED for love and affection and intimacy.

Stop being the boy in the relationship, it can make men especially a Cap man feel UNSURE and INSECURE about you, it'll all go down hill after that, so back up, let it breathe and inevitably he'll begin to EXPRESS intimacy and you can then be on the RECEIVING end of his love, right now you are beginning to appear NEEDY, I don't believe you are needy but the sign you're dealing with is good at CREATING feelings of love but not great at expressing them, GIVING him intimacy too soon or FIRST can HALT all forms of expression on his end so wait it out, it'll probably take about 6 to 7 months for him to develop real feelings and even longer to express his thoughts. If you're in a REAL relationship with him it should come, if it's an imaginary relationship well it may never come so before you fall make sure it's REAL.

Patience and a whole lot of it.
truecap
6/25/2012 11:36:04 AM | IP
truecap

45 years old female from Small Town, USA  

Sun: Cap Rising: Scorpio Mercury: Capr

Come on Tiki! You always give good advice!

Thanks Capgirl!
leilaxxlovez
6/26/2012 6:45:15 AM | IP
leilaxxlovez

female from Namibia  

Dreamer @ heart yet I'm too earthy to b

My aqua started talking marriage at 4 months lollzzzz

I don't really understand why you're trying to play this by some rules you know...u wana know what to do from this point...but why not just let things be natural...?

When I began dating aqua, I only really developed feelings for him 6 months down the line...in all honesty. I feel as if you have this idea of where you guys are supposed to be at right now...so get that out of your head. Every habit you have from past relationships...everything you have learnt...don't put it in this relationship...this is a whole new world baby girl!lol

Be yourself please...don't be needy when you FEEL u want to be. Be yourself...focus on seriously getting to know him as a person, rather than this being some emotional outlet for you...focus on building trust with him...cap venus, I really feel that he might not be one for expressing himself...but these are things you sit down and talk about...ask him a couple of things...like 'what is the most likely thing to stop you from having a relationship with someone?'all that stuff...

I don't know...but I refused,from the beginning to go at his pace...but I made room to get to know him and compromise after a while...you cannot hold your horses everytime it seems you are pushing him away, But u cannot act on impulse, or on a whim...be you, be yourself...if u wana tell him u miss him, go ahead, I don't really know when missing someone meant u are needy, it doesn't mean that, it means u enjoyed his company and wish he was there with you. Be rational, but at the same time...do not act on impulse...be trusting. Trust that there's a time for everything...and right now, at 3 months...just relax...developing feelings is normal,it happens, there's no proper time frame to do that! Keep it steady...and within time, you will know if what you feel really is the real thng...trust, be yourself,be rational...and focus on getting to know him. May be this is a different approach, since im aqua venus and he's aries venus...but his cap moon meant he was SLOW...and I got fed up at one point, n he didnt understand what was going on at all...until we really talked n listened to each other...which is something I feel you NEED to bring into the mix...4 months is the perfect time to talk about these things before your feelings really begin blossoming. Talk...nothing wrong with it at all...it might be a different approach then he's used to,but it will really get you guys bonding
truecap
6/26/2012 9:17:37 AM | IP
truecap

45 years old female from Small Town, USA  

Sun: Cap Rising: Scorpio Mercury: Capr

Thanks yall.

I know its not love at this point - but it is definitely more than infatuation. Starting to see the real person and the more I see the more I like and respect. I'm guarded myself, so I won't be exposing the above thoughts to him anytime soon! lol! We spend a lot of time together, but I also still do my own thing and hang out with my girl friends and he knows this.

I am not really trying to play by rules, but just wanted to see how other Caps dealt with the sometimes fustrating Aqua nature and all that entails. Any advice helps! Thought it would be nice to hear their experiences and compare them to mine.

I am being myself -- thats all I know how to be. He seems to want me around a lot - and thats a good thing!

tiki33
6/26/2012 11:47:32 AM | IP
tiki33

female

Oxytocin, when it’s got you hooked on

True I don't feel you are needy, I feel the need to say that again but when you are the ONLY ONE expressing intimacy you can begin to feel needy so to ensure you don't go down that path, LIMIT how much of yourself you give away intimately, this isn't about playing by rules, it's more about UNDERSTANDING how GIVING too much can CREATE feelings of neediness INSIDE OF YOU when you're the only being open.

To keep yourself feeling BALANCED and ATTRACTIVE inside ease back on the forms of affection, this isn't about not being able to express a thought or express an intimate feeling, it's more about understanding what you're doing and why you're doing it and how it all effects YOU, this isn't really about the Aqua, pace yourself so you won't feel like you're the only one giving emotionally in the relationship which creates all kinds of problems.

We Aqua's tend to be quite cold in the beginning if we are not sure, there are times when I've been full on into a guy and there are times when I'm not sure because I have other options or I'm too busy thinking or too busy babysitting my thoughts so I can EVOLVE to care about developing a real relationship, being aloof felt very comfortable for me because we need to THINK about you FIRST before we fall in love, in the beginning of relationships we can be aloof, stand-offish, not all Aqua's are this way but given that he has Venus Cap he'll appear quite cold but as long as he's forthcoming, initiating contact, taking you out, basically DATING you then you can be sure at some point he'll warm up to treating you more like a girlfriend.
truecap
6/26/2012 2:29:08 PM | IP
truecap

45 years old female from Small Town, USA  

Sun: Cap Rising: Scorpio Mercury: Capr

Thanks Tiki! You make a lot of sense, as usual.
Metoo
6/27/2012 6:41:32 AM | IP

I would say tc, dating an aqua is not for the faint of heart. It is hard work on the heart.
You never adapt to them fully as they are ever changing.
Their very nature of air is so tricky for us earthy gals and it can bring about insecurities you never knew you had.
For me, mine was more of a friendship than a true relationship, but I learned to try and stay taking his words at face value, not analyzing too much and keeping it light.
Its gonna be ok, you have a good soul and he sees that.
I know you need the temperature check from him. It will come in time.
Patience is another thing you will need to not.lose your mind.
Lastly his actions more so than words will tell u what you need to know.
xo
StoicGoat
6/27/2012 7:23:38 AM | IP
StoicGoat

male

Mr. Capricorn/Aqua cusp with lots of Aqua in his chart and Cap Venus says you should most definitely take Tiki's words of wisdom to heart. There really isn't much more she could tell you. Well done, Tiki
truecap
6/27/2012 9:25:12 AM | IP
truecap

45 years old female from Small Town, USA  

Sun: Cap Rising: Scorpio Mercury: Capr

Thanks guys! This really helps!

 

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