Capricorn friends with benefits

Roxanne1324
This a long story, just a warning.

My Capricorn male coworker and I started sleeping together last year(I am a sun Aquarius, moon in Sagittarius). We hadnt known each other very long, and we had both just moved into town. We get along really well, but being the commitmophobe that I am, I suggested we just have sex, no strings attached. Well, that worked for about eight months, when suddenly I found him bringing me around his family more and more. One day his sister said that she thought he liked me, which I thought was funny so I told him about it. He got very defensive and said "don't listen to her, don't worry she doesn't know what she's talking about". I laughed it off, but suddenly he began to obviously pull away from me. We became more benefit and less friend. It was enough of a wake up call for me that I may have feelings for him. It's been a few weeks and he's started being more open with me again, but he still is hesitant to bring me around his family. Why was he avoiding me? Does he have feelings? Should I tell him how I feel about him? Are Cappy men typically good at FWB? Keep in mind, we DO work together...Capricorn men are IMPOSSIBLE.
aquapiscescusp
Who cares what he wants, what do you want?
BeoWulf
I don't really think this is about being a Capricorn or an Aqua. More like a general male-female FWB issue to me. However, I do agree with the following:

Posted by Metoo
Seems to me he wasnt thinking about it, just going with the flow, happily spending time with you...then you made him think....


I too think he was just going with the flow and now you put him in a spot. You need to take the pressure off him. Simply tell him that you're ok with either taking it further or continuing with the current state, ie, you're flexible & take whatever comes. That way, either decision from him is ok with you.

james tate
NEVER GET BREAD
WHERE YOU GET FED
james tate
PUT MORE SIMPLE
DON'T treetrunk THE PEOPLE YOU WORK WITH
truecap
Talk to him and make the decision together how to proceed.

I agree with not messing around at the office. However, that's pretty redundant now, it's already happened. So perhaps, begin there with the talk and discuss the effects and affects of the FWB and work and relationship then veer it off to the status and what he thinks and what you think about and then how yall shall proceed. That way its not putting him on the spot, focuses on the relationship and not about yalls feelings so much.

See, caps are big, big, big into career and don't want anything to jeopardize their work reputation or their means to a living. That's why I suggest starting there. Takes the pressure off of "feelings".

Tread carefully, though, don't talk him out of the relationship by bringing up the jeopardy part. Just be honest with your true thoughts on it.

CanceritaBonita
He's probably pondering the pros and cons to your situation. Work is pretty darn important to Caps and he is definitely thinking through all the possible outcomes and how best to proceed.

He will most likely keep pulling away until you make the decision to not be friends or pursue any type of relationship (makes him NOT the bad guy-he won't want to hurt you if he really was beginning to like you)
CanceritaBonita
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Posted by james tate
PUT MORE SIMPLE
DON'T treetrunk THE PEOPLE YOU WORK WITH

Ding ding ding! I knight you tate the sensible!


Lol!
james tate
GREAT TRAMP STAMP
CANCER
CanceritaBonita
Posted by james tate
GREAT TRAMP STAMP
CANCER


I've read that before Tate!





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