why are Capricorn guys so complicated?!

vir22
Posted by truecap
^^ I like that. Come right out and be direct. Don't be scared, what is it going to hurt? Can't be any worse than it is now can it?


very true, I am usually a blunt person. The thing is most times he's physically distant when he's watching me like a hawk...
truecap
^^ I like that. Come right out and be direct. Don't be scared, what is it going to hurt? Can't be any worse than it is now can it?
vir22
Posted by Metoo
You sit next to him? This advice might seem obvious but just in case....Just a polite friendly "good Morning"
The rest of the day remain detached from him and have the most upbeat work ethic you can. Stay busy no small talk or chit chat...
Believe it or not...he Is watching and listening to EVERYTHING you do...trust me.
Even when it might not seem so, he is.



You are so right. Now that I've been distant he watches me like a hawk, it scares me a bit haha. I just dont understand why he's being so distant. It's not that hard for him to tell me that he doesnt feel the same.
vir22
He is immature, he doesn't know what he wants. When I told him that I like him, he didn't answer so I assumed that he wasn't interested but then he acts as if he nothing happened and asks me how my weekend was and makes conversation with me. When he acts cold, I distance my self from him and then he comes back and he makes an effort to talk to me or watch me from afar.

Why couldn't he just tell me straight up what he wanted after I told him I like him. Aren't capricorns supposed to be straight up? Do I have a chance with this guy?

Would it be bad if I asked him casually why we're being so weird?
Langvad
Doesn??t apply to all of us caps If u pursue me and I like u, I will be yours. I love girls who take initiative
Caplove
Posted by vir22
well we're not coworkers, infact we're students and I have been quite detached for the past week and I think he has taken notice.

He greeted me when he saw me and sat facing me and I greeted him back but made no effort to start a conversation.
He looked extremely confused when he was watching me walkaway. Yes I did look back when I was walking away haha. He has this anticipating look too, as if he expects me to do something. He has not contacted me at all in the past month but we've exchanged words here and there in person. Is he just not interested anymore or am I just being confusing?


I would keep doing what you're doing. Be polite and friendly, of course, but don't make an extra effort to converse with him. He is the one that should be doing that, not you. You already put yourself out there on a limb. If he's interested he will try a little harder to strike up a convo.

vir22
well we're not coworkers, infact we're students and I have been quite detached for the past week and I think he has taken notice.

He greeted me when he saw me and sat facing me and I greeted him back but made no effort to start a conversation.
He looked extremely confused when he was watching me walkaway. Yes I did look back when I was walking away haha. He has this anticipating look too, as if he expects me to do something. He has not contacted me at all in the past month but we've exchanged words here and there in person. Is he just not interested anymore or am I just being confusing?
SureShotCap
I am a leader. I look for leaders. I make followers into leaders. Even leaders follow leaders... Are you a leader???
vir22
Posted by Metoo
To the OP. Here Is a little hope...twice now in my life Cap male friends turned into a heated romance.
Once I got excited and responded the same answering every text, being available and initiating conversation the sharp decline would begin and the icy behavior would set in on with the cap male.
Its very confusing and leaves you just standing there with you ares up wondering where did I go wrong?
It does something to you, and your self esteem because you cant seem to forget that things were SO good and that when they are in their HOT phase they make you feel like a goddess and you want more of that feeling and for him to keep pursuing you that way.

So in both cases with my friends turned lovers who went cold on me...my only saving grace Is I am a cap, so I naturally will become cold to when I sense distant behavior. I shut down, hide emotion and move on with cool grace. In both cases I still saw these men at work...and MY behavior of not speaking, texting, but rather smiling, interacting with others, keeping busy and with a calm stable relaxed demeanor...well, it had BOTH men make a Uturn and chase me again.

I think then they see a new challenge. They see you in a new light and they are like heeeyyy I thought I had her nailed down and all into me and Look! she is moving on. This is sexy to them as their ego expects you to be upset and trying to win them back. Now they see grace and character and they question themselves why THEY were so quick to dimiss you.


He only likes the challenge, but doesn't have any interest in taking it further?
Thank you SO MUCH. you've practically expressed everything I've felt throughout the past 6 months. Why are they so complicated? I thought they wanted it straight forward.

I like him so much, but I guess after all I was only a goal that he had for self amusement.
I see him everday and infact I sit next to him, so its hard to avoid him or be distant without it being obvious.. or should I just be all out obvious?
vir22

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CapriLady
Posted by xxoommmxxoo
We are difficult because we are insecure in love. Security is everything to us. We are also afraid of being made to look like a fool. A pride thing if you will. HOWEVER once you have us and we are secure that you are sincere in your intentions with us and we can be secure and trust you, the awkward weirdness will stop and you will see an extremely loving and vulnerable person emerge.


Good point. I can relate.
CapriLady

"His coldness makes you cold. Your coldness keeps him shielded. There's a vicious cycle here. So, stay friendly. Stay warm hearted. Be open, but don't be clingy or come across as needy. Give him space and time to process. He will either step up or he won't, but I wouldn't waste time or sleep worrying about it. You did a brave thing and you shouldn't feel bad or embarrassed or beat yourself up over it!!!

*fingers crossed he comes around*"

I really like this point from Truecap. I think it addresses Capricorn "shielding." Warm and friendly might get you through. It's important to be true to one's own feelings, and it sounds like you have taken an action based on your feelings. Right now, it's a bit uncomfortable while you wait and see what happens. Either way, you will come out a stronger person. Best of luck as well!
truecap
Don't beat yourself up! You're come out of this a stronger person. Andgoing through pain builds character. I'm so sorry for your hurt.

*hugs*
vir22
I hate to admit it, but this hurts so much. Its not even a fact that he doesn't care, but it's my brain telling me its over and its better to be hurt now than later.
I feel like I messed up. I really regret doing some of the things I've done, I think things would've been different....

vir22
yup, its over. He doesn't care.
It was amazing while it lasted
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