Gemini and past relationships

. You always have insightful info. I don't thing it's a Gemini thing, a Virgo thing, a Cancer thing, etc. It's a MAN thing. He was MALE before ANYTHING else. That's something that happends to men in general. If a man wants you, he's coming for you, & he WILL make an effort for you, regardless to what his horoscope sun sign is. A woman was blessed with gut instincts which never fail. She truly knows when a man really loves her or not. She simply feels it. You just know.

candi3bb

8/4/2012 3:02:38 AM | IP

27 years old female from Los Angeles, California

Do you know what I would answer to someo

but not all gemini's are like that. some made those mistakes, and learned how to handle their life properly and gain integrity!

candi3bb

8/4/2012 3:01:57 AM | IP

27 years old female from Los Angeles, California

Do you know what I would answer to someo

feelings will stirr up..Questions to why he left me. comparing to his current love (which he will have one) and he'll try to come to me as a "friend" but to only fool himself. going back and forth. ANd if i get back with him, he'll have another previous lover around..unfinishe dbusiness or did it poorly and REPEAT>

candi3bb

8/4/2012 3:00:01 AM | IP

27 years old female from Los Angeles, California

Do you know what I would answer to someo

OMG same with my previous gemini ex. however, i was the one he "chose" his friends would say its out of guilt. and just because he is caring. it killed me that overall he chose to lie to me and be honest with her. that was my answer..through the fluff talk. sweet nothingness. Generally, i learned that a gemini wouldn't necessary go back to an ex..its more about closure and ideas they haven't done or explored..if he left for selfish reason or did something bad with the former..he would 'logically" try to get out of it.but emotionally is different.

what i learned is...every gem will be different in the manner of speaking. however, the core is pretty much consistent across the board. is..

to know the absolute truth of the gem in ones life..you'll have to be patient and analyze between two of the twins ideas..comments..actions. WHAT THEY DONT DO is your answer. not what they do. makes sense?

kindness, care, fun, loving, attentive, encouraging, sweet, romantic words/actions can mean a lot when measured to virgo.but with a gemini man that is just their nature. Being a gemini moon myself i find men to get confused with the way i am...hot and cold...thinking im "interested" when im sitting there confused as to what i did to make them feel that way. Im assuming its the same with gemini men...women dont understand why they do and say the things they do while conflicting in other ways. its fairly easy to tell what the truth is within a gemini...if you ask them a direct question and they dont answer your question then that is your answer

for example, do you see long term with me?

if a gem responds: I really like you, but i dont know where i am going but i would like to pursue it.
(truth: he just doesn't see it with you. but doesn't want you to leave him because of it. so...he'll neither give a definite answer)when a gemini doesnt give you a definite response. like the example..you'll find your answer.

if you find yourself sitting there wondeirng why hes so sweet blah blah blah when you guys are together and during the rest of the week hes barely there or non-existent..well..THERE YOU GO! thats your answer. he isn't as into you as you may think..even if he can persuade you into staying longer

I would have to say...YES..generally they can be. my ex was always looking towards the past with regrets..work.friends.love. repeat.

im pretty sure my gemini ex is doing the same motion...dating...moving forward..then one day he'll see me again and feel

tiki33

8/3/2012 11:46:24 PM | IP

female

Oxytocin, when it’s got you hooked on

Posted by Wynter
*puts Heartbreak Kid on to do list*

Yes you must! It's a funny movie (least for me it was).

Wynter

8/3/2012 11:17:35 PM | IP

female from Jupiter

Sagittarius

Typical Domino response. It doesn't have to be the correct response, it only has to be the opposite.

Wynter

8/3/2012 11:09:29 PM | IP

female from Jupiter

Sagittarius

*puts Heartbreak Kid on to do list*

tiki33

8/3/2012 11:07:26 PM | IP

female

Oxytocin, when it’s got you hooked on

+1 Nefer, Nefer as always is keeping it 100 and it can't get anymore realer than that.

tiki33

8/3/2012 9:40:42 PM | IP

female

Oxytocin, when it’s got you hooked on

"I go through stages of missing him, then hating his guts and crying with rage."

Sort of like his ex-girlfriend, now you know why she's the unstable one in the relationship.

Sounds like you and his ex have something in common.

"because he dumped me via text like the coward he knows he is"

I can only imagine how he dumped his ex (most likely the same way), could be the reason why she showed up at the door sobbing & begging for some kind of resolution, seems like you & the ex have something in common, in love with a manipulative power hungry Gem on your hands.

"That's it. First girl he had relations with in over 5 years. Strange, isn't it?"

This is one of those lies that took me aback for a second, OMG run for your life, don't look back or you will be on pschoactive drugs.

Reminds me of that movie Heartbreak kid Ben Stiller (Eddie) sees a beautiful woman Lila getting her purse stolen and Eddie tries to stop the perp unsuccessfully of course, the perp was frothing at the mouth like a real nut job telling Eddie to back off, little did Eddie know this would be his FATE some day, the reality is this so called nut job was STEALING HIS OWN WALLET BACK lol and Ben stiller (Eddie) thought he was saving her, rescuing her from the big bad perp only to learn later that the frothing mouth perp who desperately tried to steal her purse was her ex attempting to reclaim HIS OWN THINGS--WALLET & KEYS but of course it's too late, Eddie has fallen in love & married the REAL nut job.

Point being, you can't go by appearances, this woman (the ex) most likely is the sane one and the Gem is the nut job, you dodged a bad situation so instead of feeling hurt, SIGH RELIEF that this crazy ass person is torturing her not you, you only got a month--try 5 years, you'd be a total wreck too.

tiki33

8/3/2012 9:36:13 PM | IP

female

Oxytocin, when it’s got you hooked on

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tiki33

8/3/2012 9:34:46 PM | IP

female

Oxytocin, when it’s got you hooked on

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westside

8/3/2012 8:57:33 PM | IP

19 years old male from Tennessee AMERICA!

an obvious gemini,i write poetry and rea

doubt is what would and sometimes makes me act like the guy in OPs description. perhaps that is what hes going through.

Wynter

8/3/2012 7:50:01 PM | IP

female from Jupiter

Sagittarius

Agrees with Nefer. +1

Nefer

8/3/2012 7:34:14 PM | IP

41 years old female from Michigan

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

On the contrary, Domino.. it wasn't a personal attack.. and if you knew me at all, you'd know that.

BUT.. let's see if I can clarify this a bit..

1) Mary doesn't know this guy, not really. Not after a month. He could be a total nutjob, and it hadn't shown itself yet. What DOES show itself is the way he behaved like a PUA and a Narc, actually CREATING these "deep" feelings and longing in her.. this was an INTENSE courtship.. then the cooling off.. now the pulling away.. all designed to get her to fall impossibly deep, to CREATE within her a feeling that she'd do anything to have this wonderful guy back... (what probably comes next.. he slowly comes back around, "missing" her and "needing" her, she's the "only one who understands".. she's the "only one he can open up to".. and eventually trying to have her hanging by a thread, accepting his crumbs.. so he can have his cake and eat it too, and not have to give up EITHER woman.)

2) Why does this scenario seem likely to me? Cuz he's got a "crazy" ex. One he was with for FIVE YEARS.. one who is SO off the deep end for him that she bangs on his door crying, and he can safely tell his NEW girl that his OLD girl is a lunatic. But how'd she get to that point? Generally with a lot of help from a wishy-washy emotionally unavailable marker that keeps her dancing like a puppet for years (and already said he hadn't had sex with her in all those years -- wut? I mean.. truth or a lie - that's some crazy butter right there!)

3) ALL Mary knows is what he tells her.. and he blames the "crazy ex" for everything.. including HIS OWN PAST CHOICES, and INCLUDING his CURRENT CHOICES with Mary. See, it's not HIS fault, it's someone else's.

4) Maybe Mary is the lucky one now.. she only had him for a MONTH, got a SMALL TASTE of what he can do to a woman's emotions, the highs and the lows and the intense yearning.. now, can she imagine FIVE YEARS of it?.. and how her mental and emotional state might be by the end of that?? butter, in that case.. she could EASILY be the next one banging on his door, freaking out. And then SHE'S be the one he calls a lunatic .. to his NEW girl.. while he ONCE AGAIN lays all the blame for HIS CHOICES on the EX'S feet to make the NEW girl feel sorry for his plight and want to help and comfort and love him.

So my advice remains... get perspective from him, Mary. SEE that a relationship THAT fast/hot is not normal.. you're lucky to get out relatively unscathed. Last girl wasn't so lucky. :c

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