Gemini behavior

9/2/2010 9:37:05 AM | More
eric11

male

I have question about an old gemini friend. Two years ago I use to be good friends with a gemini women. She and I called each other three times a week and we talked about everthing under the sun. Well one day we had a bit of a falling out over something stupid. In hinde sight it was my fault. I thought she was excluding me from her life when in reality she was just making other friends which of course gemini's do.

After a few months we talked about it over the phone, but nothing really got resolved. I knew something had changed in her. One day another friend of mine said we had a falling out. That meant to me that the friendship was over but I sort of laughed it off because I didn't think our argument was that serious. He advised me to talk to her about it which I did.

However when I tried, she accused me of misconstruding his words, which was further from the truth. I was only trying to save our friendship but she thought I was trying to start in argument. Of course our exchange was over email not in person.

At that point I was somewhat hurt by the response and stopped talking to her altogether. I think I deleted her from my FB and went my own way.

Over the months I started to miss her but I was too afriad to try in contact her. But one day I got the nerve and wished her a happy birthday. She responded with a warm greeting. From there we started emailing each other again. After a month of this we agreed to meet up for coffey. Realizing how sensitive in nature our relationship had come, I knew I had to avoid any talk of the last year. I wanted to start fresh, especially if she was giving me a second chance.

By this time I was a changed person and I wanted to show her that.

Anyways we met, but she brought a bunch of friends with her, some of them that didn't like me. I felt really nervous. They asked me alot of questions about my life and what I was doing. I answered them of course, but when I asked one in returned, I didn't get anywhere.

At the end of the meetup I said goodbye but my friend didn't turn to say anything. She walked right out as if I wasn't there. I guess my question is, what does all this mean? What should I do to prove I am a better guy?
9/2/2010 9:38:06 AM | More
eric11

male

I made a typo in the second sentence. I said women whan I meant woman.
9/2/2010 9:41:01 AM | More
eric11

male

Sorry for my poor grammer. I should have used spell check.
9/2/2010 10:56:56 AM | More
GlamGemini

I've went through the same thing but with a Sagittarius lol.

We argued over something stupid and didn't talk for a long time... but now we're best buds again!

Anyways, if she's agreed to meet up with you that means she still DOES want it to work but maybe doesn't trust you yet.
Geminis are very sensitive about their true friends, and we're not as cold as we seem.. lol
Shes just acting a bit cold and bringing all her friends to keep it light until you can warm her up and earn her trust and affection again.

Anyways, keep on working at it but don't come on so strong and don't bring up the past lol, just look at it as a new beginning !
9/2/2010 12:26:32 PM | More
misslissa

41 years old female

leo rising, gem sun, cancer moon

hey Eric

from the sounds of it, she got hurt in the process too, but we don't like to let on that we did. i think, she might have been really offended that she was talked about behind her back and possibly felt... betrayed. at least, this is how i would feel in the same situation.

as to your question, it sounds like there is a trust issue and only time will build that trust again. just be you and she will see the new you, in time.
9/3/2010 4:59:21 PM | More
eric11

male

Thanks ladies for the feedback.

Melissa I didn't talk to her behind her back. We had mutual friends at the time and sometimes we inquired about each other. It was never in a negative sence. I am sure she did the same to me. The only thing I don't understand was why she turned what was a simple hello to a accusatory email. I don't know if it's a gemini thing or just her thing.

In any case I would like to show her the true guy if she gave me a chance. I am not certain I will get that chance though.

GlamGemini

There is a bit more I didn't tell. You see she is a Christian and I use to be. When I told her at our last meeting that I left the faith, a part of me wondered if she felt I betrayed her again.


9/3/2010 5:17:01 PM | More
GlamGemini

Hmm well first let me ask you this.. How far do you want to get with her? How serious about her are you?

9/4/2010 10:58:20 AM | More
eric11

male

I was only friends with her, so I guess I just want to good friends with her again.
9/4/2010 11:22:14 AM | More
GlamGemini

Okay well all I can say is keep on working on your friendship, if she feels bothered by the religion thing then I'm sure she will bring it up..
Though she really shouldn't be bothered as it is your right to choose your faith...

Just remember to not bring up the past, don't come on too strong and know she's testing you to see if she can trust you again..
She showed up so that's already a great sign, a Gemini won't bother to just waste their time for the heck of it lol
The coldness will eventually wear off and you guys can be a happy rainbow buddies again!


I'm in a fight with my Sag friend again LOL!
9/7/2010 10:25:15 AM | More
eric11

male

Okay thanks GlamGemini!
9/22/2010 10:52:28 AM | More
HappyCappy

26 years old male from Kaneohe bay, Hawaii  USA  

Rising Sign is in 23 Degrees Scorpio S

i left the faith too haha. if shes a true christian there should be forgive and froget...but trust takes a while to build again. work at it. im sure she doesnt want you completely gone either.


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