How I can have my leo man forgive me

12/12/2011 5:36:48 PM | More
Arieswoman70

Hi, I am hoping someone can help me with my leo man.
I was in a great relationship with my leo man, we got along great, we had no problems as a couple. We love each other deeply and I know for a fact we are both misearable.
My leo man was torn between being happy with me and having a child of his own. I am UNABLE to give him a child and started feeling very guilty about it. I knew he wasn't going to make this decision himself, so I decided to take myself out of the equasion. It was the hardest thing I have ever done and I regret it. It's been almost 3 weeks and he will not talk to me. I never had the chance to explain myself, and why I made that decision. Not even an hour after we broke up, I received a text from him stating, "you know I love you and I always will. I am NOT dissappearing, I just need time to heal".
If he would give me the chance to explain, I know he wouldn't be hurting so much. I want him back , and am willing to do ANYTHING to help him have a child of his own, that we can raise together. He speaks very highly of me, I know he misses me and is hurting as much as I am. I tried texting him, calling him and writing him a letter. I am getting no response from him. What can I do, please, can anyone help me????
12/12/2011 7:20:14 PM | More
enfant_terrible

28 years old male from United Consciousness of Yugoslavia  

Leo Sun. Taur Asc. Cancer Moon

You're taking this children-thing way to seriousely. It sucks that the two of you can't have children, but unless he is ridicioulesly fascinated by children it shouldn't matter. I'd pick the love of my life over children any time. After all, a loving and caring family starts with the love between a man and a woman (that's right, gay people suck lol!) and that's also what you leave behind. Love.

If my future girlfriend couldn't have children I'd definitely be willing to "artifically inseminate" a woman that we've both chosen. That's the closest you can come to actually determening who and where your child comes from. Now I know there are other problems to take into consideration in this scenario, like if the woman in question changes her mind, but that's an other discussion altogether.

And we also have adoption. I don't think I'd ever want to adopt a child, because (a) I'm not that into children, (b) I'm really not that into other people's snots, and (c) I just don't think I could give it the kind of parental love it really deserves. I would care for it but that would probably be it.

And what do you mean you never got a chance to explain yourself. Just text him and explain why you've broken up... if that is what you are trying to explain. At least he'll read it, if he takes it into consideration is an other question altogether.
12/12/2011 7:54:48 PM | More
Arieswoman70

When i ended the relationship all I was able to say is what is I take myself out of the equasion? His wall went up and he didn't hear anything i said after that. i've tried texting him, but i am getting the silent treatment. He will not talk to me. I have no clue how to get through to him.
12/12/2011 8:24:29 PM | More
ninjamu

31 years old female

Ascendant: Aquarius Sun: Leo Moon

Well you should have just discussed it but now you have to wait it out. Leos are a stubborn, fixed sign and are immovable. While leos have their flair for drama, they do not deal well when others create it for them. As a leo myself, I would be angry just knowing that all could have been solved if you had just spoken up about your feelings. I hate being drug through the coals when a few exchanges of words would have sufficed.

Anyway, there's no point in waiting by your phone. Sit tight, stay busy, and it'll come together when he's ready.
12/13/2011 8:52:06 AM | More
Arieswoman70

Thank you to everyone. I am unable to have another child. I had a complete hysorectomy in March, so there is nothing I can do to fix it. I do have a 5 yr old son from my previous marriage. I would have no problem adopting a child, but he wants a biological child. I can't say I blame him. I truly and deeply love him and I know he is hurting as much as I am. I just would love to be able to talk to him. He has completely shut me out. I have made several attempts to try to talk to him. He knows I love him deeply, so I guess now I have to just sit back and wait?? It's hard dealing with this pain, and it feels like part of me is missing ever since we broke up.
12/13/2011 10:12:31 AM | More
Arieswoman70

We were looking into a sarrogate mother, but it is over $100000.00, and not everyone can come up with that kind of money. At least we can't. I am very close to his Mother and from what she is able to understand, he really won't open up to her either, he is convinced I walked away, which is so far from the truth. I thought I was doing the right thing, and I really regret it now. I just wish he would talk to me, his silence is killing me. He told his Mother he would have never left me. I wish he would have told ME that. Any advice on how to get him to understand mine were good intentions??? Thank you everyone.

12/13/2011 7:30:17 PM | More
BigGirlPanties

female

Its no longer about you. Stop expecting him to come around when you want him to. You hurt him. umderstand that. Stop expecting him to react, respond when you want. Let him go, if he is meant to be yours, he will come back. If you have made proper amends to the best of your ability, you have done it right. Be loving, not demanding.

I am a Leo, my best male friend is also Leo. We are very sensitive and loyal...when our love isnt, we hurt badly. Give him the gift of time and healing in the manner he wishes.I wish you good luck.
12/13/2011 7:39:50 PM | More
Arieswoman70

I do understand, and if he read my letter, then yes I was able to explain. You said to be loving, not demanding, I got that too. How can I let him know I care if he has blocked me out completely. I feel terrible for what happened, although my intentions were good, I screwed it up, royally. He is very vulnerable and I hate the fact that he thinks i did this to hurt him. I was trying to help. He didn't want to make a decision, and my life was in limbo as well, I really thought this would have helped. I know he needs time, but I'm afraid that if I sit back and wait, he may think I don't care.

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