How to reawaken Leo women's interest?

karki
I am a Sagittarius in love. I met this Leo girl back in April, we kicked off immediately. We used to have a loads of fun. She was exactly the girl I wanted. So, one day I tell her I LOVE HER, she tells me SHE NEEDS TIME. She had a very bad relationship in the past and she is scared of commitment. Also I was going study Australia in a month back then. But I planned to stay 6 months more. It was supposed to be awesome times now, but the things have not been the same. When we meet, we enjoy time with each other. But past 45 days, she looks disinterested. She is completely honest with me, does not give a butter to any other guys. But we hardly meet, talk in a phone once in a blue moon and she rarely replies my text. Either she is busy at work, sleeping or she is sick. Still then she calls me her special friend. She has recently developed hatred towards MEN. I don't understand what to do? Why are the things not the same as in the past? Once she told me, even if she is in love with me, I will never know.
So, just two days back, I tired to meet her and tell her everything I feel. But the same old story, she got stuck at work. I get pissed off and send a confronting message and everything I wanted to tell her. She calls me the next day, I tell her I am busy. Now today is the 3rd day, what should I do? Call her? Wait for her to call? Fight for my love or JUST MOVE ON?
seraph
Posted by Jynja
A Leo woman will only respond to higher authority than hers. You see how she commands respect? Yeah, her subjects bow to her, but her lover (future king) can hold his own and be a "man." She needs a firm (note: not abusive) hand and a knowledgeable partner. If you can rise to fit that need, she'll be kitten to you.


Excellent point. And this prefaces what I'm going to say.

I'm a little torn about what to tell you. The healthiest thing for you to do would be to walk. At this point, as Jynja pointed out, it's pretty much done.

But, if you're really after her - and sometimes we need to feel we've covered all the bases - then you can *try* to start over. But it will take time and discipline. The kind of time and discipline that *could* be put to better use on yourself, or on someone else more in tune with you.

You ceased to be a challenge, and you became a pain. You were too available. you came off too needy and you lacked self-control. You were no longer a commanding presence in her life. That's a *big* no-no. I'd tell you to move on, and consider what happened a lesson. Sometimes life throws us a valuable seminar in the form of "other people." And we learn, and we apply our learning to the *next* opportunity.

Cease any and all communication with her asap. Don't even be there for her as a friend (provided you *do* want something more.) Tell her *you* are busy, that *you* have this or that to do and "maybe some other time." But do it naturally, like she was one of your buddies that you would say no to. That's always easier, than viewing her as someone intimidating.

If you want to have something different with her than you do now, you'll need to "do" different as well. Keep this up for a few months. Resist the urge to spill your heart out to her. Then, once that time has passed, begin with casual but interesting messages to her. Suggest subtly, but remain somewhat aloof. Get her out for a coffee. And *then* work some magic. if by *this* time it' still not where you want it to be, then leave it. Walk away before the situation overcomes you. I'd still recommend leaving her be. Do note that putting all this time in to making her your focus - after all that - wouldn't be healthy unless you had a casual attitude about a potentially unsuccessful outcome. But just in case you don't want to let the matter go, then the last thing I'd want is for you
seraph
(continued)

. . . to twist in the wind with your emotions, without any clear plan.

So, pull back, work on yourself, and revisit the idea of a relationship (by starting over) a few months from now. But do your best to approach it with more balance than you're thinking about the situation now.
sadlioness
Posted by Jynja
Dearest Karki, it seems your Leo woman is not crazy about you - she's not in love with you. You were relegated to the friend zone from the very start and now that you're in love, you've "messed" things up. Don't get me wrong, she still likes you as a friend, but you're not her lover.

Avoiding you is the only way she can hope not to hurt you. Well, not too badly.

Now, what to do is entirely up to you. A Leo woman will only respond to higher authority than hers. You see how she commands respect? Yeah, her subjects bow to her, but her lover (future king) can hold his own and be a "man." She needs a firm (note: not abusive) hand and a knowledgeable partner. If you can rise to fit that need, she'll be kitten to you.

Otherwise, you could accept friendship and hope for better days. If that's too much of a difficulty, walking would likely do you both good, too.



This is absolutely spot on!
karki
Posted by seraph
(continued)

. . . to twist in the wind with your emotions, without any clear plan.

So, pull back, work on yourself, and revisit the idea of a relationship (by starting over) a few months from now. But do your best to approach it with more balance than you're thinking about the situation now.


thank u for the answers. but ignoring her, won't it make her angry? i guess leo are annoyed when ignored, isn't it? She says "I and my cousin are only her two friends". what should i do in this case if she needs a friend?
sadlioness
Ignoring her will make her notice you, she'll wonder why you haven't been in touch, what you are doing etc.

If she needs a friend she'll reach out, if friends is what you want then fine (she'll be off again once you've "fixed" her).....but if you want more than friends you need to stop coming across as so needy, she'll eat you alive.
karki
Posted by sadlioness
Ignoring her will make her notice you, she'll wonder why you haven't been in touch, what you are doing etc.

If she needs a friend she'll reach out, if friends is what you want then fine (she'll be off again once you've "fixed" her).....but if you want more than friends you need to stop coming across as so needy, she'll eat you alive.

i did a great mistake expressing myself too early, for that i feel like an idiot. Before I had only two months, as I was going to Australia, so expressing myself was necessary back then. And even before that she did described her ideal man, which was exactly me. When i was going in July, she wanted me to stay for 6 more months. I did everything thing right, showered her with the gifts she likes, I used to sing her to sleep, even sketched her image, pampered her, never took her to cheap restaurants and always gave her the best time. And yes, I m a very confident, smart and good looking guy (i guess so). Never had a rejection by a girl before. But this one is different, she makes this arrogant guy very soft. And I know I have messed things up telling her I LOVED HER early and I want to fix it, but i don't know how. The reason, i have a posted in this forum. I don't want to be just a friend.
sadlioness
Stop being so accommodating towards her then. Seriously, we need a challenge to feel like we've "won" someone, if it's all too easy we find it difficult to properly respect you as a man, and we NEED a man.

Calm your passion, play it cool and be less available and more aloof. It's the only way to alter her perception of you.
karki
Posted by sadlioness
Stop being so accommodating towards her then. Seriously, we need a challenge to feel like we've "won" someone, if it's all too easy we find it difficult to properly respect you as a man, and we NEED a man.

Calm your passion, play it cool and be less available and more aloof. It's the only way to alter her perception of you.

absolutely spot on. She used to tell me that its not possible that i can be such a good guy. I must be faking something. There must be something wrong with me. But all this time, it was real me. We Sagittarius are quite straight forward, honest and sincere. Being a best friend to the one we love is in our nature.
sadlioness
Yes but you gave it to her too easily, which is strange because you sags are usually a nightmare to pin down to commitment. But you see, this is what makes you appealing, the chase and the work we do to win you. You haven't made her work for it, so she won't view you as a serious options for anything more than friends.

This sounds awful I don't mean it to offend, but she probably views you as weak and needy. You need to change that view before you can turn the situation around....and that is to make her chase you! Otherwise she'll emotionally use you without even realising, it's a not so nice trait we have sometimes.
karki
But I will stay away from her I guess. This will make me feel better and easier to move on. If she feels for me, she won't let this friendship end that easy or If she gets annoyed and doesn't care, we cannot force someone to love right? I will have to find love somewhere else. Thank u very much guys, I will keep u updated. If there is any improvements.
sadlioness
Just play the game, the advice people have given you is sound.

Let us know how it goes and good luck!
karki
one last question, if she does realize she is losing a friend? how much time it might take a her?
karki
* how much time it might take her?
sadlioness
I'd say if you don't have her chasing you within a month to give up and move on.
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