Leo man and bad break up. Will he come back?

Alex1234
I was dating that wonderful leo man and went abroad to work. Long distance relationship is difficult and he did not come to visit due to administrative problems. To hurt him, I made up a fake boyfriend and one night stand...I regret so much. He said he needs time to think, but no news since 8 days. Will he come back if he loved me?

Thanks
Alex1234
thank you for your answer.

well, i was jealous and not easy going due to problems on my side and I really love him.

If he realizes he misses, will he call?

If I don t hear from him in 2-3 weeks, should I consider that our relationship is really over???

cheers
Alex1234
Indeed, I am a virgo.

I worked abroad for the last five months and he was supposed to come and visit. At the last minute he could not come due to a problem and since I've been mad, awful to him, made up a boyfriend, called him 13 times when he wouldn't answer. He asked for space and I declined asking for a straight answer. He said it s over and messaged me two days after saying he wanted to meet when I d be back. Then I declined saying I was not not a puppet he can play with. Since NO NEWS!!!!

Now I'm back home and he knows it and I miss him terribly.

After my awful behavior, will he come back or chances he s moved on??

Thanks
Alex1234
Many thanks for your answer.

Even if he loves me, is there any chance he will sleep with someone or go on date?

Aurora, how long did last his "time to think" period?

Should I expect contact within a month?
Alex1234
Should I call him despite I said I wanted to move on and agreed on the break up or wait for him to maybe realize he still loves me??

I'm so lost..
Montgomery
Posted by Alex1234
Indeed, I am a virgo.

I worked abroad for the last five months and he was supposed to come and visit. At the last minute he could not come due to a problem and since I've been mad, awful to him, made up a boyfriend, called him 13 times when he wouldn't answer. He asked for space and I declined asking for a straight answer. He said it s over and messaged me two days after saying he wanted to meet when I d be back. Then I declined saying I was not not a puppet he can play with. Since NO NEWS!!!!

Now I'm back home and he knows it and I miss him terribly.

After my awful behavior, will he come back or chances he s moved on??

Thanks


Disclaimer: Jynja's probably right.

But this has not been addressed to my satisfaction-- '... he was supposed to come and visit. At the last minute he could not come due to a problem'

What was the 'problem'?

I would have been LIVID and CRUSHED, so I'm finding it very hard to blame you for acting out-- you did it poorly, yes.

But what a disappointing, mindtreetr*nking letdown that must have been-- especially after God-only-knows how much anticipation must have been building up on your part.

Don't let him minimize that-- based on the magnitude of your response (made up a one nighter), this pretty much ripped your heart out.

Confess what you did; apologize for lying *only* and tell him why you did it-- but don't put yourself at his mercy too much.

Unless there was a death in the family, or an injury, or some other kind of *legitimate* emergency (in which case my advice would be FAR different), I truly wonder what constitutes an "administrative" emergency.


Posted by Alex1234
Should I call him despite I said I wanted to move on and agreed on the break up or wait for him to maybe realize he still loves me??

I'm so lost..


If I understand correctly, the last thing he heard from you is 'I'm not your *@!#* puppet!'-- there's only so many ways that can be taken. For him to call now would be-- very un-Leo.

*IF* that was the last thing you two said to each other, then yes-- YES. The onus is on you.


And don't make butter up like that, again... lol. It's probably going to be alright.



Alex1234
Thanks.

He didn't show because his passport expired and he realised a few days before flying over.

I really don't want to call. Will he or simply move on if he does not hear from me?
R1g0rM0rT1s
Posted by Alex1234
Thanks.

He didn't show because his passport expired and he realised a few days before flying over.

I really don't want to call. Will he or simply move on if he does not hear from me?



you're asking questions that no-one here can possibly answer irrespective of astrology. have you heard the expression 'the course of true love never runs smoothly'? sometimes even if things are meant to be, obstacles and challenges are thrown in its path and ultimately you are left with no other option than to sit back and leave things to fate. if something's meant to be it will be....which i realise isn't a great answer from your point of view but really there's nothing you can do or say right now that's gonna affect the outcome.

it's easy to panic and imagine that if there's too much distance or silence between you that there's no hope of a future together and it's during that time of panic that we end up doing stuff that can drive the other person away.....cos our behaviour isn't representative of who we are and what we feel...we're just clinging on to something or someone for our own needs.

don't let this dominate your life. try and let him go in your mind and focus on you. yes it will hurt and yes it may take some time to truly let him go but if you do and he comes back, you'll know it is meant to be but you have to stop wanting him like your life depends on it. it's not healthy and not productive and the only person who suffers is yourself

when i first met my ex husband, i was devastated when he ended it after a few months to go back to his ex girlfriend. i remember thinking 'i have two options...i can stay at home and be miserable or i can carry on like nothing's happened'. i did the latter and eventually got my man. it wasn't a game to get him back...i was just putting myself first.
Alex1234
You're oh so right and family and friends told me the same thing.

I just expected so much from this relationship. I truly believe we're a great match. So I booked a holiday, got in touch with friends and old friends. Really, I am the priority.

As far as I understand, he came back to you. Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? And how long did it take for him to come back?

Montgomery
Posted by Alex1234
Thanks.

He didn't show because his passport expired and he realised a few days before flying over.

I really don't want to call. Will he or simply move on if he does not hear from me?


If you don't want to, then don't.

I'm guessing that's instinct, which is correct 9.99 times out of 10.

If he moves on, then let him-- not renewing a passport is a lame-ass excuse.

That should have the first thing he did.

Alex1234
True. I guess love is blind.

Besides I made his life hell for 3 months after he did not come I can't blame him for leaving.

Just thought he would call after cooling off but as he mentioned many times, he does not let things bother him and moves on easily.
Montgomery
That should have *been the first thing he did.
Alex1234
I love him no doubt but I fear rejection if I call him.

I've done enough bad things and I guess he does not call because he does not want to.
R1g0rM0rT1s
Posted by Alex1234
You're oh so right and family and friends told me the same thing.

I just expected so much from this relationship. I truly believe we're a great match. So I booked a holiday, got in touch with friends and old friends. Really, I am the priority.

As far as I understand, he came back to you. Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? And how long did it take for him to come back?



almost 2 years!! it was slightly different in that we were in a band together and so had regular contact but he had history with his ex and we had none. in the end, like i said, it was meant to be and so it happened....even though he's now my ex LOL!!! we were together for over 20 years and had two beautiful kids together and for that reason alone, it was meant to be.
Alex1234
I assume you're right. But you kept seeing each other as you were in the same band. The situation is slightly different for us.

It's been now 10 days and it feels like 2 months.

Anyhow, I should call but don't feel like doing so. Don't want to appear desperate and if he already moved on, I will look ridiculous.
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