are leo men emotionally fickle?
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|Hello all, |
My leo man and I, have been together for 5 months long distance. In the first 2 months, he would initiate conversations, write me, call me. Then it slowed down more and more. I understand he is a very busy man, I have always remained patient, contacted him and patiently wait for his response. Every time we talk, he is so sweet and says such affectionate things. My notes to him are all affectionate and supportive, I often tells him he is the only man I want and he tells me he wants to share his life with me. Though his hot and cold behaviour makes me feel he doesn't like me very much. I ask him if he actually wants to be with me sometimes.. he said if he doesn't want to, he would tell me. It seems like it is always me, going out of my ways to contact him, to wait for him, making myself available to him.
He is suppose to visit me in July, we often talk about how excited we both are. However July is THIS SUNDAY! I have not heard a thing about his travel dates! The last time we spoke was on the 18th, sweet conversation, everything seem to be fine. I sent him an email requesting his travel dates on the 20th, he didn't respond. Another email on 22nd, asking if everything is alright with him and with us..., then another one on 23rd to tell him I am upset to learn my best friend is leaving potentially for good, then another one on 24th updating him on other aspect of my life and asked if everything is ok, if I have upset him in any way, and if I am still his girlfriend. I told him that I still consider myself to be because he hasn't said No. After all my notes, not one reply... its almost like he has disappeared off this planet.. I feel ignored and neglected. I can't understand why. Usually even if he doesn't write back, I still see him logging on and off of chat a few times a week, but last week, I didn't see him logged on at all! I begin to think maybe he has blocked me... I can't understand why he is ignoring me. It is breaking my heart...
I know relationships can't be forced, people fall in and out of love for no reason all the time. I would understand if he decide not to be with me for whatever reason... but I need to know! I need him to tell me that... not ignored then disappear forever! I need some kinda closure! I don't know if I am still in a relationship or not.. I hate being in the grey area. I can't move on to date others without knowing if I am indeed single.
Maybe I am being a paranoid scorpio... maybe he is gone
|Oops... double posted by accident! |
To avoid confusion, I hid one of them.
Please reply to this one.
|Don't put all bread in ONE basket......if U don't wanna starving to death when you lose the only one basket.|
same as dating, especially...online dating, U should not date only one at a time...
Give yourself multiple choices...then there would be more probability for you to find the right one.
And there would be better results if no sex involved too early!
|I am a one man kinda girl. As long as he is on my mind, and i still feel i might be still his girlfriend, i cannot look for others.|
I am not interested in others even if the opportunities come. In fact, i am not capable to. I am an attractive girl, i get hit on regularly.. But all i want is him, all i can thick about is him.
I know i am silly to think or feel this way but i can't help it. This is torturing me!
He said he love me, want to share his life with me again just on the 18th!
Its sad to think it was all a lie and he didn't mean a word. I can't understand what is happening!
|OK, just quit already. You've created a bad case of IYHS...In Your Head Syndrome. Breathe. First of all, quit calling and writing. This man hasn't had to work at anything with you...you've served it up on a silver platter and fed it to him. He's a Leo for pete's sake...they expect this sort of thing. It's all easy on the phone and text, but when it comes down to spending money, time and stepping up to the plate to execute, then it's a different story. The main thing here is that his actions are not matching his words. Key with men. Actions HAVE to match words. |
Don't say another thing about anything. Don't call him, text, email...nothing. Let him make the next move and it will have to be signicant. Make sure his actions are backing up his words, and from what you tell here, they aren't. Leos expect the attention. Everyone gives them attention. Right now, you are like everyone else giving attention. Step back. Don't be so accessible to him. Don't ask questions. He may be busy, or going through a tough time...you don't know. And because all this is ld, you really don't know what's going on. Chill and go do something for yourself. Remember two things.....relationships are like a teeter totter...gotta have balance. And silence is the best communicator.
|My Leo was very hot and heavy in the beginning, but we live about 30 minutes apart. I was guilty of being very accessible to him, returning his texts and phone calls immediately, and initiating some of the times we would spend together. I backed off almost 100% and he still calls and texts, but not as much. Thing is, he's got some major stuff on his plate and can't focus on me anyway. So what does backing off tell a guy, that you're not a nutcase and you can handle your emotions around him. Guys are FREAKING AFRAID of losing their freedom in a relationship. Don't ask where he's been, give him plenty of space to take care of his stuff. Right now, you've caged him in with all the attention, and now you're wanting to know when he's coming to see you. Don't do it. If you play your cards right, he will come back to you and be appreciative of the space you gave him. Key here is to continue to give him space. The more space you give, the more attention you will probably get from him. But you have to reverse the power. Right now, he has all the power and you have none. The person who appears to care the lease in a relationship has all the power.|
|And if you think for a minute that this is "playing games", it's not. This is the way men think and it's real. No game playing here.|
36 years old female
Posted by callmegenesis
Sounds JUST like this Taurus Sun w/ Leo Moon I know. DAMN!
|Genesis. Marry me?|
And on another note.. I've found I think more like how people describe 'men to think like'.
|my daughter has aries sun/scorp asc/leo moon.........omg, i fear for my life on a daily basis, i have to keep her sweet or i suffer big time, lol.|
huntress: i think like a bloke. men find it hard to understand. i've got four brothers and i was such a tomboy my dad said i was 'the son he never had' LMAO!!!
OP: if he fails to respond to one email or text, why send more???? keywords: elusive and exclusive. you're a scorp! be a bit more mysterious and try not to fall into the trap of 'bigging him up' in your head cos he's giving you the run around cos you'll develop an unrealistic view of him which will only hurt YOU. caution. stinger.
don't worry about what he may be thinking or feeling...that's for his head to deal with. you just have to turn down that scorp intensity a few thousand notches cos irrespective of sign, it can be too much for someone to digest lol.
|Teheh, twas a tomboy too. Mom had to call poison control too many times after my exploring adventures.. admittedly, I never feared snakes. Actually I never cried over anything as a kid.. except when really stressed.|
I can imagine it was an honor to teach his little girl how to kick ass.
|My Leo wrote back tonight!!! |
He apologise for being away, didn't get a chance to send me a note, tired, more busy as usual, receiving more training for his career. He also said he is thinking about me.
So..... Do I write back tonight???? Tomorrow??? in 2 days?? More?? (I don't know what is the "correct" thing to do anymore!)
Posted by 321654
the "correct" thing is to do what's right for you. personally, i would ignore him. men say allsorts to get themselves outta the butter.
|....and don't get scared and think that if you ignore him, he won't bother trying again cos that's the point of ignoring him. you can only judge his actions or non-actions (made up word i think) and not anything he says. if he's bothered by your silence, let him show it and carry on ignoring him until he's made it very clear to you that he's 100% interested. if this is the last you hear from him, good riddance don't you think??|
either way, it's time to seize back your power
oh and finally, DO NOT EXPECT AN EXPLANATION OR APOLOGY. he's a man. they just don't do them....not if confronted with having to in any case. men have to set the landscape for that kind of thing when they're ready cos if they are really into you, they will explain anything they know they should. beer is usually involved lol.