Are Leos self centered...?
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|* Not to offend anybody...just trying to understand a leo mind*|
Let me explain.. My guy went back and we have been chatting/calling every single day, it's the same routine as always. Last week he was so passionate, communicative, emotional, caring etc Now comes the weekend, we generally don't chat or call much over the weekend. Whole week he works very long hours and that's why I give him his space over the weekend where he can sleep long hours or go out and have fun. We some time connect, but not all the time. Anyway he told me that he will connect with me on Saturday night, but he is nowhere to be seen online. Didn't see him on Sunday as well. I called him today and found out that he has fever. He told me that he will chat with me later in the day, still no sign of him. What bothers me is that it takes a minute to log in and leave an offline message to let me know he is sick. I don't expect his attention or being selfish.
He has always done this. Whenever he is sick he never tells me, he disappears and I have to contact him. He doesn't think sometimes that maybe I am worried and would like him to let me know.
When I am sick I always let him know as I don't want him to think that I am ignoring him. So what you guys think? Do you guys behave the same way? Also, I show my concern and love, leave him alone and wait for him to contact me. I called him twice and left him an offline message. I don't act clingy, but it hurts me. He behaves like this only when he is sick, otherwise if he is traveling or unavailable he always tells me. So am I doing the right thing? Thanks
|*there is nothing offensive about your OP* |
Men are big, fat babies when they're legitimately sick-- Leos men are worse, imo, so it wouldn't surprise me.
How often do you get to see each other, irl?
How long have you been dating?
I don't see this as you needing to "give him space"-- I see it as you had a date, he didn't show, and you're left to worry if something bad has happened.
There's a difference.
If I've been dating someone long enough to consider a no-show a cause for concern, instead of just "ok, well I'm never going out with that guy, again"-- then I would tell him that I think he's full of butter.
It would not be ok after the second time, and I would probably ask for a doctor's note (I kid)-- but I wouldn't put up with it.
Making someone wonder if you're dead or alive, when in reality you're just inconsiderate, is one of the worst things you can do to another person.
That's my take.
|If I'm sick I really tend to not want to talk to anyone, I think being sick is something not important and I don't like bothering people with it. I also believe if I keep to myself and try I can fight the sickness faster, I wouldn't think anything of it. I personally don't keep contact well whenever something has me occupied, I haven't called my family in 3 months lol but I'm sure they know I'm not dead.|
Posted by Montgomery
Thanks Montgomery for your thoughts. Ours is long distance and different time zone. When it's morning here, it's night time where he is currently working. When we are together not a problem with him keeping his words, but the above mentioned issue bothers me sometimes. Couple of days back only he told me that I think he is selfish and I corrected him that he is self centered not selfish.
He seems to be in his own world when he is working or sick. I am getting used to it, but surely it bothers me.
Posted by JustALeo
JustAleo you just described him. He always seem to work through things on his own. I let him know that I am around and leave it to that. Most of the time I know about his whereabouts. If he doesn't share and I ask he tells me honestly about his plans. I just hope he is more considerate about people around him. He told me once that he envies me as I am so thoughtful and he is not. I was like work on it. It's easy. Lol.
I just wish he communicate when he is sick or having problems. We are so far and I worry sometimes when he does something like this. Thanks for your thoughts.
|Nah, that doesn't make us self centered, it's more like prideful and small things like being sick or having problems, we like to keep to ourselves. It's not as easy as your think for us, like sometimes I will try but there are so many times where I forget and when I get called out on it I feel like an ass. I don't mean to be like that, it's just how I am. To us we'll communicate for the hard things, when it comes to the small things we want to try and handle it ourselves so we can keep our pride. People tell me im a heartless because sometimes I don't have time to respond or something, but my real friends and family know how I am and they understand me|
|I don't think self centered...but I'm an aqua, what do I know about that lol. Leos, from what I have experienced and from what I see, are some of the nicest people around...genuinely caring about people they hold dear to them.|
Posted by feby16aqua
I agree leo are very adorable. So caring and loving, but above mentioned trait I feel like he is being self centered.
Posted by JustALeo
I agree with you and that's how he works through things. I have known him for years, but this always seems to bother me. I am scorpio so maybe being sensitive about it. I have never made a huge deal about it...mentioned it once.. He works like this so let it go, but posted here as I want to know what goes on in that leo mind.
|Ok...well he told you he is sick. And his behavior right now is supporting that. I would not give him any hint of a hard time over this...everyone handles being sick differently. Just let him know that you support him and you are there for him. When he recovers and is full strength, I am sure that he will find you. I would use this time to do other things you might need to catch up on...|
Posted by JustALeo
I think you are right it's about pride. I have learned to handle with care
Posted by feby16aqua
That's exactly what I do. I never act clingy. I show love, care and leave him alone. I just remembered one thing.. One time I got sick and I purposely didnt tell him as I wanted to know if it bothers him... Guess what he was pissed off as he felt ignored and not informed
|I know what's going on through my mind when I'm sick or busy...when is it over!!! lol|
Posted by sexyScorpion Whenever he is sick he never tells me, he disappears and I have to contact him. He doesn't think sometimes that maybe I am worried and would like him to let me know.
So, every time my partner is sick, he gets frustrated with my "nurturing." Apparently, it goes overboard - though I don't think so at all. I mean, what is a person to do about the man she loves, huh? Even now, when he gets a cold and I set off to make him soup or something, I hear a mile of complains... don't care though. Men hardly know what's good for them anyway. lol