Libra dumped me and skipped town :( wth

I know I know..another one. Ha. Well my libra and I were together only seven months. He was very difficult from day..12. Horribly insecure. But I loved him, and believed all his bs. He seemed to be intimidated...saying i was smarter and stronger and that bothered him. But also saying iw as perfect, or too perfect. I'm a Leo. And I loved him more than any other...he started most conflicts, I would calm him down. This transitioned into him manipulating me and holding the relationship over my head to exit convos. I eventually figured this out..and it made me very sad. I would get depressed bc I didn't understand why a loved one would treat me this way. I would do anything for him, he needn't manipulate only ask. I loved him with my whole heart and soul..I did everything for him..But then all this makeup breakup I of course started demanding answers to if he wanted the relationship. I went away for a few weeks..it was all I love you I miss you texts..then the day I got back we got in a spat and he dumped me. Saying "I love you forever" crying profusely on my shoulder mind you...and that he would come back for me. I get one I miss you text the next 3 days..then silence. We meet a week after..and he's a mess. quit his job, looks like crap. He looks at me with love and kisses me. We lied in the grass the whole day. Then he came over ..being moody and 'confused'. Tried to have sex with me (NOT HAPPENING OUTSIDE A RELATIONSHIPS). He leaves. Then next I hear, he's moved out of state to go live with mommy.

I'm heartbroken. WTH happened...then he said maybe i didn't love you i'm not sure. Oh wait, yes I did love you. Ugh. Took him a month to change our fb status. And now, no word. I wrote him a letter to ask if he'd moved saying i needed my stuff and closure. He wrote back saying yes, he just felt it was best he was with friends and fam..and he didn't feel closure was necessary. And that he left his stuff in storage where I live, and I'd get it "eventually" The tone of the letter was very very cold. It's as if he doesn't care. I'm so confused and heartbroken. I feel like he just used me up and threw me away. I still long for him, but question who he is even. We're still fb 'friends' ...do u think i should delete him? He doesn't appear to want to be friends as I have not heard from him. or face his mistakes. Idk , can anyone help connecting the dots. I sometimes wonder if he had a mental condition. he was violent at times. and always crying. I'm very sad.

leoliza

7/12/2012 10:57:53 PM | IP

27 years old female

Dream Machine. HTM

Might I also add..that we were very serious. He had wanted me to move in..flew me to his family, they knew all about me..there's not another girl..although I will say he has issues from his ex 7 years ago..she's married now. They finally chatted and mended the bad break. He just quit everything including me. Like I never existed. I loved this guy and we shared some amazing times. He said forever, and I actually for the first time wanted that. All my boyfriends have said that, but it freaked me out. I actually wanted forever with him

After he would always run I would get clingly and beg him not to. I feel ashamed of that now. But I loved him, and I didn't realize he was puppeting me. We Leos fight for what we love and will drop our pride to do so. Does he care? Is he hurting ...I'm so confused. It's the confusion that's not allowing me to move on properly. But I am moving on.

leoliza

7/13/2012 12:27:06 AM | IP

27 years old female

Dream Machine. HTM

He also still has a picture of me on his fb background...it's me walking through the trees with sunlight shining through. I still feel we are connected, and that he is actually mad at me. I don't get it :/ But I want him OUT of my heart OUT OUT OUT OUT OUT!!

LibraRose

7/13/2012 3:09:47 AM | IP

female

Sounds to me like he has some major psychological issues. You're better off outta there.

sweethearts

7/13/2012 7:37:56 PM | IP

female

Libra is like a swinging pendant when making up their minds on something. Yes we fall in love very fast and too easily or at least we think we do until we start to question what we are doing and that's when you will get the effect of our scales going up and down or the pendant swinging frantically..the fights we pick and the moods. That is us making an internal decision out loud, creating a noise so we can weigh up whether we are suppose to be there or not...

I think he decided that he wasn't in it with you or for you and as he said there is no need for closure, he's with his family and friends and he is looking after himself. Cutting you off is the way he is dealing with it all, unfortunately for you, because I know you are left after this whirlwind feeling empty!

leoliza

7/13/2012 8:07:35 PM | IP

27 years old female

Dream Machine. HTM

a) yea, he obv. has psych issues...and yes, i'm better off
b) he clearly decided he's not 'in it' or in nyc for that matter. more like he 'couldn't handle it' ..like he'd told me when he was crying and apologizing profusely
c) he's a total wuss and a baby. being a libra does not excuse his ridiculous behavior and i'm pissed! he wasted seven months of my life..and we very very dependent and took a lot of my energy!

he told me from day 1: he would mess it up 'like he always does' and that i was too good, and too smart for him...now he's showed me that's 100 percent right!\

while he's in small town city crying in his mommys lap i'm living it up and pursuing my career in the city. her name is on his bank account btw...he's 26. i don't really have any family and i live alone and take care of myself. i'm more man than he will ever be...which is sad.

do you think i should delete and block him from my fb? i'm usually not like that..it's mean, but he did me wrong. i'm out of my realm here. i'm usually on great terms with exs. he's not treated me like a human being. i loved him and he took advantage then didn't have the balls to communicate.!!!

leoliza

7/13/2012 11:33:23 PM | IP

27 years old female

Dream Machine. HTM

still, my heart is broken.

sweethearts

7/14/2012 1:30:01 AM | IP

female

it'll mend in time...

not everyone we meet is the right one. Sadly, Libra jumps in making it all seem so surreal and then runs out of steam... and many are left to pick up the pieces..

rockyroadicecream

7/15/2012 3:10:02 PM | IP

Unbalanced Libras are utterly ridiculous like this. I still have to deal with some of the crap from my ex once in awhile. While he's been written off for awhile, every time I see him, I can't help but wonder what the hell his problem is, especially after two and a half years of a break up HE initiated. Not quite sure where his butthurt stems from. :/

It'll drive you crazy trying to figure it out though, but after awhile you get sick of it and say to hell with it. They clearly have some internal crap to work on and it's not fair to you to continue to stay wound up in it when it's really no longer your problem. You've merely been an unfortunate soul who got caught up in their unbalanced swinging act - one which leaves many hurt and broken in their wake.

Libras are cool as friends, but batbutter crazy in relationships and matters of the heart when they're unbalanced. They can be very "me" centric when it comes to others' emotions. Sure, they're great listeners and great when they're not some immature, numb nut individual, but flakiness stems from a self centered outlook, which is what these bad apples tend to do.

Unfortunately, I have a feeling you will leave yourself wrapped up in this considering the fixed sign traits. It's fresh now and it takes time to go through the myriad of emotions involved post break up, but after that, do your best to move on. It's not easy because you will have an internal tug o war between moving on and STILL wondering what the hell happened, but you'll get to that point.

leoliza

7/16/2012 12:01:05 AM | IP

27 years old female

Dream Machine. HTM

So pretty much you are saying: unbalanced libras make no sense..and are selfish..so don't even bother trying to make sense of them?
I feel like he's resenting me...he's listening to all this 'it's over it was your fault you abandoned me' kind of music..which is ODD cause he abandoned me!!!! and he has my picture as his fb background. EXPLAIN THAT ONE! He's a jerk, and I will never treat anyone how he has treated me. It is an'internal tug of war' for sure. i want to move on. i don't want to feel for him...but i still go back in time..and the anger and how i feel i was wrong is binding me..the bitterness.
very disappointed. he strung me along..god knows how long.

i loved who i thought he was..but this person is ugly..and weak. i see him online everynite (i blocked him from seeing me). he's literally doing nothing. he didn't leave me for anyone but his own misery. and of course he's giving me no insight (as if he even knows!) I WANT HIM OUT OF MY HEART! NOW!!!!!!!!!!

leoliza

7/16/2012 12:02:57 AM | IP

27 years old female

Dream Machine. HTM

not to mention he still mirrors me. i create and post art. then he does the same. back and forth. i hate to think i'm actually inspiring this jerk. i want him to be miserable like he deserves. like i have been.

leoliza

7/16/2012 12:03:51 AM | IP

27 years old female

Dream Machine. HTM

he of course thinks i am 'doing great' cause that is the tone of my last letter. (only bc i wanted my stuff back). im sure he knows im somewhat pissed or he wouldnt be keeping such a distance

rockyroadicecream

7/16/2012 1:15:22 AM | IP

It takes time. That's all I can tell you. It's a crappy thing to hear, but it's pretty much true. I get where you're coming from though. A lot of the behavior I've seen from my ex doesn't mimic that of one who did the breaking up, just likes yours is doing. It's kind of ridiculous. It begs the question- why do it if you're going to be all butthurt about it?

But yeah, I'm pretty much saying that unbalanced = ridiculous and some of the craziest people you'll meet. The balanced ones are good people.

everevolvingepithet

7/16/2012 7:13:41 AM | IP

113 years old from Monkey Fonics,Facilitator,Smart Arse

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Posted by rockyroadicecream

It'll drive you crazy trying to figure it out though. You've merely been an unfortunate soul.

Libras are cool, fresh, and the myriad of emotions!wondering what the hell happened, but you'll get to that point.

That's about right.

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