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aquarius09
8/23/2011 11:21:56 AM | IP
aquarius09

female

Sun: Aquarius

I thought I make a forum to get all the ways to keep a libra from returning clarified because there are tons of those questions on libra forum where girls are saying that their libra ex popped up
Nefer
8/23/2011 1:52:34 PM | IP
Nefer

41 years old female from Michigan  

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

Well, sure - if there was unfinished business or he was deeply in love with her but something (immaturity, unresolved issues with another ex, family or money troubles, fear, etc) prevented them from connecting or staying together.. yeah, a Libra might seek out his ex, esp if the situation has changed or he realized he really loved her. These cases are rare though.

Cuz when a Libra is DONE (for whatever reason).. no, he doesn't return and he doesn't try again. He's generally thought it through a thousand times in a thousand ways and figures it's MUCH better off left alone and detaches and moves on. (They're very good at this!)

Many of them might come back later just to test the waters, see if the hatchet can be buried.. but not generally out of undying love.. more like wanting to make peace and still stay friendly with the exes, or feeling lonely and wanting some company/sex. The problem with this is that these exes that they check up on.. these women tend to misread his intentions and think he wants her back. But really.. if he was cheating and neglectful before, he WASN'T in love... and the odds of him being in love LATER, after months of silence.. very low. No, it's far more likely any later unexpected contact is to either make peace.. or to get some.
aquarius09
8/24/2011 12:46:51 PM | IP
aquarius09

female

Sun: Aquarius

Posted by Pecheresse
They're frigging comedians. They'll promise they've changed, and switch back to their old self once you've lowered your guard again.


I would say that's true for a lot of people.
aquarius09
8/24/2011 12:49:05 PM | IP
aquarius09

female

Sun: Aquarius

Posted by Nefer
Well, sure - if there was unfinished business or he was deeply in love with her but something (immaturity, unresolved issues with another ex, family or money troubles, fear, etc) prevented them from connecting or staying together.. yeah, a Libra might seek out his ex, esp if the situation has changed or he realized he really loved her. These cases are rare though.

Cuz when a Libra is DONE (for whatever reason).. no, he doesn't return and he doesn't try again. He's generally thought it through a thousand times in a thousand ways and figures it's MUCH better off left alone and detaches and moves on. (They're very good at this!)

Many of them might come back later just to test the waters, see if the hatchet can be buried.. but not generally out of undying love.. more like wanting to make peace and still stay friendly with the exes, or feeling lonely and wanting some company/sex. The problem with this is that these exes that they check up on.. these women tend to misread his intentions and think he wants her back. But really.. if he was cheating and neglectful before, he WASN'T in love... and the odds of him being in love LATER, after months of silence.. very low. No, it's far more likely any later unexpected contact is to either make peace.. or to get some.


But some of the other forums about libras returning stated that if they wronged somebody and that relationship ended on a bitter note, they do come back to peace things out. I would like to think that they would want to leave that person alone since they already caused so much harm, not to mention they would look really stupid coming back, no?
spica
8/24/2011 1:33:55 PM | IP
spica



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A Libra return is not some kind of rare sighting. Libs are sentimental, and usually prefer the old to the new. Good memories are what makes them come back. What keeps them away are bad memories. Also, they don't like insults like "feared me", "cowardice", "ounce of a brain".. unless he's a masochist, which some are, they are likely to stay away. Also, excessive authority imposed on them would make them happy they kept you at more than an arms length.

Contrary to the "confused" term, Libras do know what they want, but they are open to many possiblities. In the end, they will always follow their heart, no matter how long it takes. They don't rush, because things like love is timeless - they wait for the right moment and right time, and atmosphere.
Nefer
8/24/2011 2:15:01 PM | IP
Nefer

41 years old female from Michigan  

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

I'm not sure what part is confusing you, aquarius09. I'll try again...

Plenty of Libras disappear forever after it's over.. we rarely hear about those on DXP, what can you say/ask about someone that never contacts you again after a breakup? A Libra ex of mine from high school became FB friends with me a couple years ago (his sister is my Sag BFF for almost 25 years!) but he's never spoken to me or commented to me - I guess he's content with the fact that it's been years and I'm obviously no longer pissed he cheated on me and dumped me so long ago LOL.. We more often get the posts about "Libra ex contacted me again.. WTF?" for us to discuss and dissect.

Yes, a Libra man might come back later to test the waters.. even if things ended on a bad note or he really effed things up and is terribly embarrassed. A lot of people misread this and think the Libra is seeking a second chance.. in a way, maybe he is.. but NOT usually a chance at a relationship again.. more like a chance to smooth things over and salvage the friendship part they so enjoyed. Now, they will be watching your reactions.. and if you're still bitter, angry, not ready to bury the past and be civil/friendly.. probably another fade out, perhaps to try again later when they feel maybe enough time has passed that you might be over your anger. No, they aren't masochists.. they won't stick around for verbal abuse (even if the verbal abuser feels the Libra deserves it!).. but those sentimental creatures might try again, months later.

Libras do so like to keep the peace - and don't like people mad at them, not if they can help it. Both Libras and Aquas value friendships.. but where an Aqua can more easily detach from a friendship that serves no real purpose.. a Libra would much rather be on friendly terms with everyone. That's hard for an Aqua to grasp, I suppose.. I don't know many Aquas who would simply want to bury the hatchet solely for the personal satisfaction of not having an ex angry at them, like a Libra would. An Aqua would rarely face total embarrassment to hold out the olive branch to an ex they wronged, it's just not worth it to them and they'd rather leave things as they are. A Libra, he might ponder it, until he got up the nerve or thought it had been long enough.. swallow his pride, and reach out his hand.. knowing it might get a smile, and it might get a slap. Aquas usually can't/won't do that, they feel it's masochistic and stupid, just leave things alone!
Nefer
8/24/2011 2:41:56 PM | IP
Nefer

41 years old female from Michigan  

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

Mmm.. just thought of something.. my Libra's ex-fiancee (an Aqua he was with for 7 years).. the one who dumped him practically at the altar about 5 years ago.. SHE had been carrying on an affair with a co-worker for well over a year (they're now married).. it all came to light when she FINALLY got the nerve to call off the wedding (almost too late!) and TOTALLY threw Libra for a loop.. he never even imagined she would cheat, much less wait so long to tell him AND financially destroy him, leaving him with all these huge bills, causing him to lose the house and everything else while she walked away scot-free.

Now, this Libra man DOES like to stay on friendly terms with his exes. Not necessarily close buddies or hanging out.. but civil. Most of them, they could say hi and nod if the ran into each other, no hard feelings.. The Aqua is the only one who will not speak to him. He's tried periodically to contact the Aqua ex, just to test the waters... maybe she's too embarrassed over the way she wronged him so long ago.. she doesn't respond. She responded ONCE (to his Mother) about filing for the title to the snowmobile trailer that was still in her name. And she was very uncomfortable and barely civil the day they both appeared in court as witnesses over an insurance claim from years before (the Insurance co was trying to get the dryer manufacturer to be forced to reimburse them for the claim they paid to Libra/Aqua for the house fire.) It took her less than 5 minutes to start scowling and glaring at him. She just DOESN'T want to be around him. She doesn't go around hating on him or bad-mouthing him or anything like that.. he's just a chapter in her life that is CLOSED, and she isn't sentimental, has NO urge to reopen any of it or even be friends with him. Just not worth it to her, better off just maintaining distance and silence and moving on with her life.

So there's an example of an Aqua who figures it serves no purpose to risk embarrassment or a scene simply to "make nice" with an ex. And a Libra who still tests the waters, once or twice a year, just to see if maybe this time...
everevolvingepithet
8/24/2011 4:39:55 PM | IP
everevolvingepithet

113 years old from Monkey Fonics,Facilitator,Smart Arse  

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I dunno, some good points and some queefing
Nefer
8/24/2011 4:46:57 PM | IP
Nefer

41 years old female from Michigan  

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

Do Libras seem confusing to you, LibraLuv? They really don't to me.. but then again, I myself have some very contradictory aspects and have a lot of Libra minor planets.. but I am not baffled when someone (Libra or other) doesn't think/feel/react the way *I* would.. I accept it as a difference (NOT a flaw) and seek to understand. I'm big on understanding and compromise and allowing for personal differences, short on "black and white, cut and dried" one is all right, one is all wrong.. might be what makes me seem a bit Airy and get along so well with most Airs!
everevolvingepithet
8/24/2011 4:59:14 PM | IP
everevolvingepithet

113 years old from Monkey Fonics,Facilitator,Smart Arse  

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Posted by LibraLuv
Maybe it's the difference between the men and women in relationships. Because personally, I don't go back. I don't give up until I feel that I've done all I can. When that happens I'm done, and I don't go back.

That's common sense.
jmr3979
8/26/2011 8:21:03 PM | IP



Pisces Sun, Libra Rising and Moon in Leo

Hmmm my libra mate loves music owns a few guitars but he has never personally written a song and sang it to me or let me restate - he may have written a song for or about me but I don't know it exists. My Libra mate has written me two poems in a span of many years of us being together and the two poems were in lieu of gifts so he honored my wish instead of buying a gift gave me poetry and of course delivered on his time.

I find that alot of Libra's especially the males are really good writers. I find that something verbally unspoken can be written and expressed but the question is if and when the Libra will share it. :p
aquarius09
8/28/2011 4:10:44 PM | IP
aquarius09

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Sun: Aquarius

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