When Libras get upset or furstrated.

6/10/2010 11:20:19 PM | More
jsharck

the only one addiction I can think he may have is sexual addiction. Another reason why I left him. someone said it could be chemical. he never drank around me nor did we have a drop of any alcohol but some folks say the same as you. that he has the signs of it or something.
6/10/2010 2:50:31 PM | More
nicodemus

30 years old male from Arizona  

FWIW my dad was an alcoholic and a closet alcoholic (the worst kind) at that. Some of the descriptions of your exes behavior are extremely similar to how his were.

My best friend since second grade is recovering from closet alcoholism. He came too just in time for his baby to be born. His behavior was similar as well.

In my experience other signs are very smooth habitual lying with undertones of dilusion. Closet addicts act out when they have had to spend even small periods away from the substance to keep it hidden.

I am not an addiction specialist, just experienced with one particular brand of addiction. Your mileage may vary.
6/10/2010 10:30:10 AM | More
jsharck

Yes, this is the ex husband. I've been told by a few people that he may have some sort of addiction but we don't know. The people that told me are the one's that know him well but can't seem to find what it is.
6/10/2010 4:33:49 AM | More
nicodemus

30 years old male from Arizona  

It is a Libra trait to be passionate about ideals of moral and chacacter. The rest of it and the way he expresses it not so much. Does he have addiction issues? I would have to guess something either behaviorally conditioned like being exposed to an extreme enviroment growing up or something physiological like those with chemical dependancy issues exhibit.

I am guessing this example is like the your previous one where what he said when he went off on your child was extreme in comparison to the issue itself?

It is within a Libra's character to have a temper but the Libra temper is better described as long fuse, big bomb not short fuse at all.

It is also Libran character to go off ON TOPIC when they go off. We respond, even if in a startling way, to the specific thing that is bothering us. If we go off in a way that isn't accurate towards what we are reacting to then there is a much bigger underlying issue at foot.



6/10/2010 2:38:43 AM | More
jsharck

This is where I don't understand him. I know he wants balance and that is what attracts me to Libras in a crazy way. I get totally turned on by guys that are just working for the right equal balance either it be with total life in general or something that he is putting together, example: building furniture. sorry, can't think of a better example. The patience and the smooth character of a libra is another turn on for me and such a great asset. My ex has that.

BUT-the wack job out of no where temper is what gets me. He and our child just left a school affair after and he lashed out on our child in the car for no reason at all. This is at a child, not to me and the child doesn't do anything bad to him. I know when he is about to boil over and that is when he is very quiet and tense at the same time then BAM, the evil wack job attitude. There is something wrong with him and that is why I left.

So going from total smooth sexy Libra man of balance to total scales knocked over and twisted like a tornado hit it attitude just scares me. Maybe it's something that provokes him? Ok, absolute worst case, say I'm the one doing it but why did he do it to our child? He also lashes out on strangers if we are in public, say shopping and someone does or passes by wrong in his eyes he will go from that smooth attitude to clenching fist I wanna kick yo @$$ attitude. I know after hanging with this libra board that it's not a libra trait. It can't be but just wanted to check.

6/10/2010 1:03:20 AM | More
nicodemus

30 years old male from Arizona  

Posted by size zero superhero
depends on the situation. i don't react to difficult scenarios the same exact way. usually case-sensitive


I have categories. Some stuff falls into the anoying category, some into the needs to be corrected category so on up to the butter stops now or someone gets hurt category. I think this is true for just about everyone though, sounds to me like something put him a couple away from the top category.

Even though we project calm and collected we feel the same as everyone else does. Sometimes with Libra's you get situations where someone takes something too far with a Libra trying to compensate for an expected lack of emotional response.....sometimes they get more than they wanted. We are the kings of one step worse. When someone does something with the intent of hurting us we do something back with the intent of hurting more. One of the less graceful traits of the graceful sign.

Like LS has said many times. Iron fist, velvet glove. If the provocation pushes the right button, we will skip the putting the glove on step.

It is really hard to get us to go off. Either it has to be a really serious provocating event, or a series of events where the other party doesn't seem to get the message.....seems to need the concept forced for it to be absorbed.

Not justifying anything....I have no idea their situation....but this applies to Libras and might be useful info in the situation.

6/9/2010 9:25:14 PM | More
size zero superhero

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depends on the situation. i don't react to difficult scenarios the same exact way. usually case-sensitive
6/9/2010 7:23:27 PM | More
LibraSid

33 years old male from Upstate, South Carolina  

Posted by nicodemus


Thats what I'm trying to say. Either he is really screwed up himself or he is reacting to some very screwed up stimulus.


I am with you.

As to the question of if Libras can react this way... Nicodemus is right. He is either messed up inside or some extreme outside stimulus happened. We Librans yearn for "balance and harmony", it is very unusual for us to have "outbursts" like this unless the scales have tipped SO FAR to the other side. The old saying "drastic times call for drastic measures". It does not excuse the behavior by any means but it could explain them.

For instance, I am not a violent person at all, but I have used violence to defend someone who could not defend them self.
6/8/2010 1:31:58 PM | More
nicodemus

30 years old male from Arizona  

Posted by LibraSid
Posted by nicodemus
Posted by jsharck
I've posted many times that I at times regret breaking it off with a Libra since I miss him but this post is about my ex husband how is extremely violent. This weekend he treated our child the same way he used to treat me and our child is only 5 and the child feels so scared and doesn't know what to do. Our child just felt tired and he snapped at her, kept hitting the car and said that he wished that someone would kill me. I was wondering if that is a libra thing since my previous ex bf wasn't like that but had a tendency to be very picky about things if I did something wrong, example, place my purse or shoes in the wrong direction when I place my stuff down at his place.



Either he is a very screwed up person or there are some very screwed up aspects of your relationship. A normal Libra would only go off like this if there was some serious provocation going on, but a normal Libra wouldn't go off like that in front of their child at all....somethings missing.


A normal person wouldn't behave like that period. Forget the Libra thing for a minute. No one should behave like that, especially in front of a child.


Thats what I'm trying to say. Either he is really screwed up himself or he is reacting to some very screwed up stimulus.
6/8/2010 12:57:51 PM | More
-Foxhound-

50 years old from a bit further out then Mars  

I agree with LibraSid, this isn't normal behavior regardless of sign. This isn't a healthy environment for anyone including your Ex.

IMO start thinking "Safety".

Fox
6/8/2010 11:19:02 AM | More
LibraSid

33 years old male from Upstate, South Carolina  

Posted by nicodemus
Posted by jsharck
I've posted many times that I at times regret breaking it off with a Libra since I miss him but this post is about my ex husband how is extremely violent. This weekend he treated our child the same way he used to treat me and our child is only 5 and the child feels so scared and doesn't know what to do. Our child just felt tired and he snapped at her, kept hitting the car and said that he wished that someone would kill me. I was wondering if that is a libra thing since my previous ex bf wasn't like that but had a tendency to be very picky about things if I did something wrong, example, place my purse or shoes in the wrong direction when I place my stuff down at his place.



Either he is a very screwed up person or there are some very screwed up aspects of your relationship. A normal Libra would only go off like this if there was some serious provocation going on, but a normal Libra wouldn't go off like that in front of their child at all....somethings missing.


A normal person wouldn't behave like that period. Forget the Libra thing for a minute. No one should behave like that, especially in front of a child.

6/8/2010 3:44:29 AM | More
nicodemus

30 years old male from Arizona  

Posted by jsharck
I've posted many times that I at times regret breaking it off with a Libra since I miss him but this post is about my ex husband how is extremely violent. This weekend he treated our child the same way he used to treat me and our child is only 5 and the child feels so scared and doesn't know what to do. Our child just felt tired and he snapped at her, kept hitting the car and said that he wished that someone would kill me. I was wondering if that is a libra thing since my previous ex bf wasn't like that but had a tendency to be very picky about things if I did something wrong, example, place my purse or shoes in the wrong direction when I place my stuff down at his place.



Either he is a very screwed up person or there are some very screwed up aspects of your relationship. A normal Libra would only go off like this if there was some serious provocation going on, but a normal Libra wouldn't go off like that in front of their child at all....somethings missing.
6/8/2010 2:04:37 AM | More
jsharck

amethyst2002

That's about the recent Libra. the Ex BF. At this point if he returns he returns. I do seriously miss him but thinking more, I think it may be more the physical and for this leo that falls quickly may have gotten the two mixed up with falling if I'm making any sense here. Yeah, give this guy time and I feel that my gut is telling me that he feels burned and I'll let him be. I've given up on contacting him and let him come back IF he wants. If not I love him from afar. I walk away knowing that i had a wonderful time with him minus all the other stuff.

This original post is about the ex husband. I just wanted to know if going seriously crazy upset was a libra thing or just a malfunction with the ex husbands brain, in any case I know he's crazy and has no patience at all for anything.
6/8/2010 1:59:08 AM | More
jsharck

I've posted many times that I at times regret breaking it off with a Libra since I miss him but this post is about my ex husband how is extremely violent. This weekend he treated our child the same way he used to treat me and our child is only 5 and the child feels so scared and doesn't know what to do. Our child just felt tired and he snapped at her, kept hitting the car and said that he wished that someone would kill me. I was wondering if that is a libra thing since my previous ex bf wasn't like that but had a tendency to be very picky about things if I did something wrong, example, place my purse or shoes in the wrong direction when I place my stuff down at his place.

6/8/2010 12:04:53 AM | More
jsharck

How are Libras when they get upset and or frustrated?

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