Why do you people do this?

Doubt that has anything to do with his being Pisces. Sounds more like "immature male" antics to me. Also, guys don't seem to think broken dates are as big a deal as girls do. They just figure something came up, they'll reschedule, no biggie. Girls are more like, "Uh uh no way, buddy - TWICE now you've blown me off. Screw this!"

(We ARE talking BROKEN dates, right? Not standing you up or something -- two totally different things.)

10/5/2009 6:30:28 PM | IP

26 years old female

We are talking idk id say being stood up not broken dates. If he were to call me and say can we reschedule that would be a broken date and not a big deal to me. But having me wait for someone yea... not a cool thing.

Nefer

10/5/2009 6:46:14 PM | IP

37 years old female from Michigan

THAT isn't broken dates.. that's getting stood up... and people of EVERY sign do it (as cowardly and dumb as it is) it's not a Pisces specialty. Why do people do it? I have NO idea, but man, that crap infuriates me. At least have the balls to cancel and/or reschedule! LOL

10/5/2009 6:46:30 PM | IP

Why is it such a big deal?

Nefer

10/5/2009 6:53:55 PM | IP

37 years old female from Michigan

Getting stood up? Really? You're asking why it's a big deal? o.O
You are the strangest Pisces I've ever met, Loyalist.
(Or are you just being deliberately obtuse to be your abrasive, devil's advocate self again?)

Well, trust me, women probably get more pissed than guys do over it, but most guys ALSO would not like to be stood up like that, especially not twice by the same person. It's a blow to the ego... no one likes feeling like they weren't even good enough to call and cancel, much less go out with. It's very hurtful and insulting. And it's a courtesy thing... it's really terrible manners to not have the grace to cancel a date you've made with someone.

I can't believe I have to explain this to a PISCES, of all people. o.o

10/5/2009 7:07:56 PM | IP

Why she cannot keep communication with that man and know whats going on on his head?

P-Angel

10/5/2009 7:12:51 PM | IP

50 years old female from Planet Neptune

Posted by moon_eyes
Why do Pisces men make a date and break it? and then do it again?
I just want to know what is going on? After no 2 break I said THE END of this and moved on. Im a Cancer btw he was a Pisces. After i got a message about it I said gr to myself and deleted the contact because the man doen't even call to make a date he bloody texts me. Id love some 411 .

Nefer, if you read this .. it is talking about the contact that occurs during the making/breaking of a date. Nothing in here even suggests anything beyond that.

Once you make the insinuation that it's no biggie if it isn't actually being stood up .. she then retorts with her being stood up so she can attempt to drive her point.

However, this didn't come until after you made this insinuation ... before that, her words in the quote above are clearly referencing contact for a date. She even uses the word 'message' as it relates to her getting a message from him .. and the very first sentence doesn't say

.. make a date and then stand me up ... it says ..

.. make a date, then break it.

And she cookiemonsteres about using text, instead of phone to make dates .. that is her cookiemonster.

Wouldn't it be logical to assume that to be literally stood up by a man would be absolutely infuriating?

Yet, no mention of this, no indication that any grief is in place over it ... just upset because of the mode of communication.

10/5/2009 7:16:44 PM | IP

26 years old female

Posted by Loyalist Rebel
Why she cannot keep communication with that man and know whats going on on his head?

As good as I am with reading people im not in his head digging for stuff.
When people come to an understanding " were going out on so and so, in my case its tomorrow around such time, see ya then at this location" makes me rather mad because this is not what grown people do. If you are in your late 20s its generally expected that you can keep the date that You make.

I assumed, and its prob wrong that I did, that his actions are because hes a Pisces just because my roommate who is a Pisce does the same butter. Love her to death but damn she pulled some serious stuff last year. But this dude idk its like he has pisces and scorp placements all over the place. AT this point im indifferent but I have yet to know what it was all about.

10/5/2009 7:23:46 PM | IP

So you can read people well but not well enough for this guy? Plus you dont ask him either why he does this? Why? Because your past experience tells you that this is useless and the only thing you will get back is a hurtful answer so you dont bother?

Is that why?

10/5/2009 7:25:57 PM | IP

26 years old female

Here is the whole story to me it matters not in this situation however maybe i should have wrote it out because of such people like P who like to make up butter.

I have known this man for 2 months he makes a date with me.He lives bout 20 mins away. he moves fast is shy and thats all cool. He calls me and makes and talks about a date after which he hangs up and texts me about the damn date I say sure why not. I enjoy his conversation and hes rather fun to be around. Well first date he doesnt make it and later calls and says hes sorry something came up. I say fine thats cool no worries but give me more of a heads up not like 2 hrs later. Then after some time after we talk what not and he mentions it again via the same damn text how he would like to go out blah blah. So I say ok sure lets do that. After which I dont hear from him that day or 3 days later.

I felt sad and I had no explanation why someone would make a date with me twice do the same thing. Two weeks after that I hear from him as though nothing happened. Is this normal human behavior? NO.

What makes me quite unhappy are these things
1 he cant ask me out without a damn text
2 he doesnt keep his engagements
3 he doesnt communicate in any way if something changed in time.

4 P Angel your attempt at psychoanalyzing me is as successful as your marriage with your husband. SO please go away.

10/5/2009 7:32:55 PM | IP

Ok

So does this lack of communication happens with alot of people in your life? Is it many enough to make your life a living hell? Does it discourage you to make no contacts with anyone in the future at all?

10/5/2009 7:36:23 PM | IP

26 years old female

Posted by Loyalist Rebel
So you can read people well but not well enough for this guy? Plus you dont ask him either why he does this? Why? Because your past experience tells you that this is useless and the only thing you will get back is a hurtful answer so you dont bother?

Is that why?

not at all. The reason that i dont ask is because it seemed fruitless. I dont mind hurtful answers. Im a big girl i wear big girl panties and I can deal with unpleasant comments. The action spoke loud and clear to tell you the truth why ask?

If you dont like someone dont make dates ya know. And honestly I was hurt mainly by the second instance of not even calling or texting to say that oops something came up. i would not make a third date after this instance but a consideration of taking my time would be nice.

But I just thought of something a few mins ago which made me think of this an ask this question considering I have seen and experienced similar situations.

10/5/2009 7:39:22 PM | IP

26 years old female

Posted by Loyalist Rebel
Ok

So does this lack of communication happens with alot of people in your life? Is it many enough to make your life a living hell? Does it discourage you to make no contacts with anyone in the future at all?

This is a rarity in my life as far as communication. My life is not a living hell lol. I treat every person as an individual and I hate to label them as one thing just bcause I have had bad experiences. Ex.I lived with a gemini who was a total cookiemonster but yet I met a great gem person who is a dear friend of mine after the ill experience with the ex roommate.

10/5/2009 7:40:49 PM | IP

26 years old female