Cancer friend

I am not new here but I dont post alot. Anyways I am here to vent. I am a Virgo female and I have a Cancer friend whom I have known since 2006. We dated when we first met, but just ended up being friends over the years even after I moved away in 2007. I always had feelings for him but could never tell if he felt the same way so I never pushed the issue. He is a really nice guy and has a genuine kindness about him. I talked to him today over the phone and he ended up telling me that he was getting married next month. It took all I could not to cry because I never saw it coming. I held it in really well and told him I was happy for him. We talk periodically so I knew about this woman, but had only heard of her maybe one time so I never thought anything of it because he talked about other women too. I want to be truly happy for him, but it so hard because I feel sad.

deb963

10/19/2009 5:41:19 AM | IP

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Hi georgiapeach, Youre so sweet. Sorry to hear the bad news. Try to shake it off and move on. I know its hard but with time, I hope you can heal.

Sekhmet

10/19/2009 11:32:56 AM | IP

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Ouch!
That's hard, but at least you can try to move on and work on staying friends if you can do that without hurting your self too much. I have a couple of friends like that....I can't really date them, didn't really hook up when I was single, but I still get a bit of heartache when I hear they're getting married.

Just keep concentrating on activities and interests that make you feel good. Being content and happy with yourself will draw good energy and good people to you.

deb963

10/19/2009 12:05:28 PM | IP

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Yup We cancers can hurt people. Dont do it intententally. Maybe you shouldva shown him how you felt in the beginning. Then maybe we wouldva known you were attracted to him, cause we cancers dont show how we feel until you go first. Anyway we love virgos.

moon_eyes

10/19/2009 12:23:22 PM | IP

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o damn now thats a breaking heart moment. Deb has it down ha cancers dont show their feelings easily. And you virgos are so hard to read. In any case im sorr you are hurt like this and just stay strong and get through it. Im surprised he just told you that hes getting married. What a boob.! *hugs lady*

GeorgiaPeach

10/19/2009 5:01:02 PM | IP

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Thanks for the love you guys. I love you Cancers the mostest out of all the other zodiac signs.

@Moon-I can definitely agree with us virgs not showing our emotions. I have a great poker face while hiding all of my passionate emotions inside. I guess I was just looking for a sign from him. When I talked to him about the events that led up to the decision of getting married, I found out that his fiance had been telling him she loved him since 2005 even though they were seeing other people. From what the things he says that she has never waivered from the way she has felt about him and told him she would wait on him (they havent seen each other since 2005). So I want to be happy for him because how could he not want to marry her. She sounds like a great person. He definitely deserves that. I have cried my tears of sadness and loss and I will go on.

deb963

10/19/2009 5:20:51 PM | IP

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hey Georgiapeach We love you too, We just melt with all that stare and touch. Tell me about it. I get goosebumps with all that . muah !!

The-Dream

10/23/2009 1:40:41 PM | IP

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Why you never told your friend?? I mean i know it will seem awkward but i think you tell him before he get married because you going to hold that "what could have happen" on your shoulders for the rest of your life, just let it out to him so you can feel some type of closure, i know exactly how you feel and lost someone for not speaking up.

GeorgiaPeach

10/24/2009 5:18:37 PM | IP

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The only way that I would tell him is if I knew he felt the same towards me. Since he is getting married to someone else then it is safe to say that he does not feel the same. It is best that I leave that situation alone and besides there are other in the fish in the sea.

Thanks Dream for your response!

krobe03

10/26/2009 11:19:54 AM | IP

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So Georgiapeach does he live in Georgia too? Or does he live in another state? You could probably ask to meet up with him once more and tell him you are coming to his WEDDING to stop the show. You want him. Does he live in the same state?

GeorgiaPeach

10/29/2009 10:10:42 PM | IP

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Krobe I used to live in GA and he lives in AL. I now live in HI.

krobe03

10/30/2009 7:50:37 PM | IP

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GeorgiaPeach,

That is Cancer men's GAME. LOL! They will "act" like they are going to get married all the way to the altar and then get "cold feet". LOL! Better yet, sabotage the marriage by doing everything they can to make the "other partner" leave the relationship. I know one Cancer man who will go around telling women he is getting married and what happens? He gets ATTENTION. Chased, wanted more, adored more, approached MORE. You get my drift. He hangs out at EVERY NIGHT club in the neighborhood and lives in different locations. He is up in every woman's he can lay his eyes on face whispering in her ear but he is getting married. Yeah, right! He will be his wifes ghost husband.

Men are tricky. Once they have "captured you" the majority of them will stay married to you just to be married but they are out.

Wishbear

10/30/2009 8:51:16 PM | IP

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Georgia Peach:

I cried when I read your post, if its any consolation.

Have you considered his calling to inform you of this news was perhaps an attempt to share feelings?

krobe03

10/31/2009 12:30:03 PM | IP

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Well GP, if I were you, I would have congratulated homeboy on his wedding. I would have told him I was getting married next month too and that I did not have time to talk with him because I had to finish passing out some invitations. I would have wished him luck and let him go.

tiki33

10/31/2009 3:46:55 PM | IP

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The ol' I'm getting married next month is game.

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