Pisces male trying too attract Aries female

Posted by seafood_disco
Such a joke, it's unreal.

Feel like I've already lost a good friend, to the point it's really frustrating me that I'm being treated like I don't matter anymore.

Yes, in true Piscean way, I'm considering getting out of there (deleting number, msn, facebook etc) because if she's not speaking to me - what's the point in maintaining friendship anyway?
When my friend had left her for somebody else, I continued speaking to her (despite the fact he told us both didn't like it) and she said she found me to be so much more of a decent fella than he was.
We really hit it off and when it came to the point that after a few months of talking non-stop, I tell her I like her... it's as if I've put an axe in the whole thing, when what I was doing only felt natural for me to tell her.

I'm just 'hurt' in a way that I've lost a good friend, somebody I had lots in common with and really enjoyed talking to. Now it doesn't make a difference what I say or do, because as you mentioned before, you wasn't sad to say the least that he stopped talking to you.

I understand you frustration, really.

But all you can do from this is learn and move on, because I promise you, you will find a girl more smart, more funny, and one MORE deserving of your love out there. You just have to be patient and know that you will eventually find her

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As for the friendship, it wouldn't have worked anyway with you pining after her, you know it, she knew it. She wouldn't have been able to have been a good friend. This is all for the best.

So swim away fishie, swim away.

xtina

11/10/2009 1:52:31 PM | IP

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11/9/2009 11:53:45 AM | IP

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umm...i've always gotten on well with pisces men..find that i can spend hours talking to fish men...and it's very natural..however, personally, there's no physical attraction for me. and i've got one right now, who's interested in dating..but i look at him as friendship material only. and it was the same with the other fishy boy. past pisces asked me out, and i didn't even "get" it that he was wanting to go out on a date..i assumed it was just two friends going out and having fun..nothing sexual, romantic, etc. my bad. he got pissed and was hurt and swam away...
that's been my experience with pisces men..so...

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11/9/2009 12:07:03 AM | IP

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Such a joke, it's unreal.

Feel like I've already lost a good friend, to the point it's really frustrating me that I'm being treated like I don't matter anymore.

Yes, in true Piscean way, I'm considering getting out of there (deleting number, msn, facebook etc) because if she's not speaking to me - what's the point in maintaining friendship anyway?
When my friend had left her for somebody else, I continued speaking to her (despite the fact he told us both didn't like it) and she said she found me to be so much more of a decent fella than he was.
We really hit it off and when it came to the point that after a few months of talking non-stop, I tell her I like her... it's as if I've put an axe in the whole thing, when what I was doing only felt natural for me to tell her.

I'm just 'hurt' in a way that I've lost a good friend, somebody I had lots in common with and really enjoyed talking to. Now it doesn't make a difference what I say or do, because as you mentioned before, you wasn't sad to say the least that he stopped talking to you.

xtina

11/8/2009 5:45:44 PM | IP

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A very similar thing happened to me with the Pisces that was interested in me. Well, except I told him straight out I just wanted to be friends, he hung around for a while, I think he believed that there was still a chance... than one day, like any Pisces will do, he swan away. This was of course after a week or so of not calling him and when he called me I acted very nonchalant about it. He stopped calling and deleted me from his friends on facebook. I'm sure I had hurt his feelings.

I wasn't sad, to say the least, I was only disheartened of a lost friendship. It is strange to be on speaking terms with someone and having the ritual of calling them, and them you, daily. Than to suddenly stop speaking. This is where I've derived my many theories about women and men, it is very hard for freindship to work for the different sexes for there will always be a conflict of interest; by either the woman loving the man or vice versa.

I can say, though, that I move on from them without a tear to shed; and I only have my Libra moon to thank for that.

I say you should move on.

A girl like that doesn't deserve you if she can't accept you for who you are and your methods for love.

But I also say learn and grow from this... nothing can survive, not even love, in such a tight grasp. It is a living entity that needs room to breathe for it to grow and prosper.

seafood_disco

11/7/2009 5:24:08 PM | IP

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So... it's been a week since we last spoke properly.

Ever since I came back home (a week and a half ago), I've been keeping my distance/keeping it friendly while I've been busy working on other projects, and I know she's been busy with school work.
She made a comment on one of my FB status updates and at the end of it she said she missed me, but I didn't reply to it.

Last weekend she started texting me and we started having a conversation for 6 hours until she went to bed at midnight. And since then I've not even heard from her, despite I know she's been studying a lot.

But the thing is... over the last 4 or 5 months we've been talking. Even when she's been hardcore studying, she would still come and speak to me on msn and this would be near enough everyday.
I'll see her online on msn, but I won't hear from her. I won't start conversations with her now, because when I know she's busy it just makes me feel pushy, and I'd rather wait for her to come back around to return to the days (like the last 4 or 5 months) where we would be talking/texting every day and night.

I just find it really strange that a really close friendship has come to nothing but distance.

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xtina

10/30/2009 2:48:15 PM | IP

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Posted by DaBull_isDabutter
pisces and aries?

ouch to the pisces. awww pisces r sweet and all, but man aries r beastly, you gotta match that. my brother dated a pretty pisces girl, but man it was rocky relationship especially for the pisces. she was the passive one and he was the aggressive one, it use to drive him up the wall-she was too much of a deep thinker and he was too much of a doer who loved to be on the go a lot. In the end he got bored of it all, he ended up hurting her feelings too much and she wasn't strong enough to handle the ram, so he ended it.

Very good description of the Pisces/Aries combo. The Pisces would need some fire placement or the Aries with a lot of water for it to work.

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pisces and aries?

ouch to the pisces. awww pisces r sweet and all, but man aries r beastly, you gotta match that. my brother dated a pretty pisces girl, but man it was rocky relationship especially for the pisces. she was the passive one and he was the aggressive one, it use to drive him up the wall-she was too much of a deep thinker and he was too much of a doer who loved to be on the go a lot. In the end he got bored of it all, he ended up hurting her feelings too much and she wasn't strong enough to handle the ram, so he ended it.

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10/29/2009 2:36:21 AM | IP

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Posted by odboland
Hi Xtina, when you say that you have decided on a guy when you decided. Is there a possibility at all you would love an ex back and start afresh when you tell this ex you wanted to try again?

Hmmm... Well I'm sure if I had wanted to restart things with an ex than I don't believe that I would have lost feelings for him to begin with, that's if I said that I wanted to try again.

In that scenario it would have had to been that they broke up with me/broke my heart for me to still have those feelings. BUT if I had broken up with them, well I never break up unless I'm 100% certain that I do not have feelings towards them anymore. I will always try to work on a relationship first before I try to let it go (when I am in a relationship).

So, therefore, if I let go I let go for good. I know I seem very black and white in the matter but I just don't like to have loose ends untied if I do decide to end a relationship.

So if it were his idea, no, my idea (after I had decidedly broken up with him) it would take a lot to convince me to go back on my words of not loving him, there would have to be a very good reason for it. I have a lot of pride so I hate going back on my words. Though IME with my ex Leo, I broke up with him and it took me two years to do so (this was a 5 year relationship btw) and I did so because I had no feelings for him whatsoever.

Plus, there would have to be a very good reason for me to break up with him yet still having feelings for him, like cheating, in which case I would never take him back no matter my feelings.

I know that was very convoluted but I hope that helps

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10/28/2009 10:28:29 PM | IP

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Hi Xtina, when you say that you have decided on a guy when you decided. Is there a possibility at all you would love an ex back and start afresh when you tell this ex you wanted to try again?

xtina

10/28/2009 9:04:35 PM | IP

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I would also suggest acting a little more cool and/or aloof about your feelings from now on. Though we Aries girl have the emotions of a woman, we sometimes have the male way of thinking with our Mars influence--therefore, we do like challenges.

xtina

10/28/2009 9:01:43 PM | IP

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I would at least give her space.

Personally, if I were in her position and assuming she doesn't feel the same... or is losing interest... even if you distanced yourself I really wouldn't care, I'd still not have feelings for you. BUT her and I are two completely different people, the only common thing we share are our sun signs.

I would suggest cooling it for now and hope for the best, and don't bring up the whole feeling thing until she's at least warmed up to you.

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10/28/2009 5:49:03 PM | IP

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Is it even worth distancing myself from her? Basically, I've really fallen for this girl, I just want to try and redeem myself.

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10/28/2009 5:45:52 PM | IP

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Maybe I guess... I'm usually quite assertive around her, it's only when I've told her what I think about her it's been too much I guess as you said.

So I guess there's no way of actually getting back to the way it was before, or any possible chance of re-attracting her?

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