| "I just look for all possibilities of the truth, and make my own conclusions based on my own logic. Most of my friends will seek advise becuase of this quality that I have. Plus, I don't bullbutter. I will sugar coat, depending on who you are, but that is me just baiting someone into a verbal lashing on what I really think......." Right on! It's like I almost poll people to see what they think of the situation to help determine my conclusion. It's funny cause some of my friends can handle my advice and some can't. |
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| James Dean is a rebel without a cause... Aries.... we are rebels with a cause, and that comes with a lot of burdens. Yes, I stand up for my beliefs, and I can stand up for myself. I can take the kick of a horse, as the French will say.......... I don't know if this is an Aries trait or not, but I can see things from many different angles. I'm not easily swayed by emotional arguments. And it's not that I'm trying to play devil's advocate either.... I just look for all possibilities of the truth, and make my own conclusions based on my own logic. Most of my friends will seek advise becuase of this quality that I have. Plus, I don't bullbutter. I will sugar coat, depending on who you are, but that is me just baiting someone into a verbal lashing on what I really think....... |
But ultimately, the Aries dudes I know won't be swayed by a pack/gang mentality, although it helps that they're all a little unhinged when they lose their tempers hahaha  Generally speaking though, that unswayed attitude is a blessing, and a burden burden burden burden burden burden burden burden burden |
| That's true in a sense bling...we are loners...go it on our own type of peeps. "The only side/opinion you're willing to fully stand by is your own." Maybe it's my other aspects, but this isn't always true for me. It's like I'm not complete until I've consulted others. Doing this gives me a different perspective and I usually end up taking their advice. |
| I noticed something today that kinda fits here...the reason you Aries might feel alone, is because you are, to some degree... You don't make alliances, and if you do get along with people, that doesn't mean you're 'sworn in' , for lack of a better term,... The only side/opinion you're willing to fully stand by is your own. Most people like to be in gangs, touch chickens and be bumchums, or at least try to keep useful/powerful/influential people on their side. This is the nearest you're gonna get to a sincere and truly kudos-giving (not ass licking, for those who can't tell the difference) you're gonna get, so yeah, there it is (I had this revelation at work with one of the security guards,an Aries, in comparision to a fat pointless bleep of a Gemini, a Beefcake latent homo Aqua, a few Scorps and a Sag, but it's also what I've observed with Aries fri3ends over the years too) |
| I have found that over time, as I've been growing, I find myself less and less wanting to be a social butterfly. I'ld rather a few friends that I can have a blast with, that are real, and that I can have a great conversation with, rather than party it up and get treetrunked up with a bunch of people that I'm aquaintence with. I really enjoy meeting new people, but I am a detective and I can sense right off the bat if I would get along with you or not. Also, I have found that because I'm very direct and honest, people will try to go out of their way to try and "impress" me. If you are revealing too much of your life right off the bat, I'm going to be polite, but I won't call you up to have drinks with you. Maybe I come across as a cookiemonster.... but at least I'm real and I don't put up a front. I've just dealt with so many situations that I've learned and grown from, that I know that in the long run of things, it's better to be real up front, because you will know who will be there in the end..... |
| I know I do. For me, its part of who I am and also by volition. To be blunt, I'm pretty picky of who I engage on a personal level. Thing is I'm an amazingly energetic person, big ass smile on my face most of the time, and people love me but I still find myself staying detached someone unless I find something interesting or engaging about them. It's one of the things I immediately pick up on when I meet a gal. Is there a connection there at some level? And usually its found within the first 10 minutes of conversation. The two things I look for in a woman: 1. Connection 2. To be inspired by them. |
| "I don't even go out much despite being a social creature, because I don't like to go out with ppl I can't connect with on certain levels." This is so me. When I think to myself I'd like to go out, there are very few people out there that I would actually call up and go out with because of the lack of connection. I find myself being friendly once a rapport has been built. I wouldn't describe myself as a "people person" at all. Once I'm cool with you and like you, I could talk your ear off! Before that, I don't try and get close with you unless I see that's something you are interested in. For being a whole lot of Aries, you'd think I would be more comfortable with this. I can be very friendly to strangers like when I'm working. It's not forced or anything, nor is it fake, but it's still very on the level and rarely goes deeper. |
| That does make sense though... We are like walking contradictions!! "I personally feel if I try too hard to relate to someone I'm being fake or false, which is a dishonesty in of itself." I agree with you completely and feel this way quite often. |
Posted by ramfishtwins I completely agree with you, I think I read somewhere, too, that Aries are meant to roam alone (eventually). Yet, it is odd because Aries does symbolize the infant, which constantly needs attentions and connections. I was thinking, for one to initiate a relationship there takes a lot of effort in the beginning to build those bridges; and sometimes its not so easy to relate to others. I personally feel if I try too hard to relate to someone I'm being fake or false, which is a dishonesty in of itself. Soooo maybe.... I'm not quite sure what I'm getting at here but I'm not even sure if it's even a good rationale for this inability to connect. |
| I feel like this often, Xtina. I did read sometime/somewhere that some Aries have this issue. I'm really not close to anyone anymore. I never stay in touch with people, can't do long distance relationships well, and generally have difficulties really connecting with people. It's odd, because I also know that Aries really thrives on personal connections...so why is it so tough for some of us to initiate or stay connected? |
| I can't say I'm detached...I wish I could feel detached more often. But I do feel like I have trouble sometimes connecting with others sometimes. I have one bestfriend (female- a Gemini) that I have had for years and everyone else in my life, I wouldn't even call my friends...just aquaintences, people I would go out dancing or something with but no one worthy of secrets and crying on their shoulders to..just my one Gem of a friend |
| P.S: I think most people don't like being on their own for too long, rather than it being a deep connection (in regards to your initial posts) |
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