Do You "Check Out" When Overwhelmed Emotionally?
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|For the past week I have kind of shut down. When I get like this I wont answer/return calls, texts, emails or any other form of communication. I just want to be alone with my thoughts and reflect. I get anxious and start to feel suffocated from too much contact. I just need a break. Most of the time people don't understand and think I'm being rude. Which maybe it is rude, but I'm tired of making excuses for these actions. I've lost a couple of friends over the years because of this.|
It's not that I do this on purpose or want to be mean. I just need a mental day off or hell a mental month. I get overwhelmed easily and most of the time don't even know why. I keep saying to myself, I'll call this or that person back tomorrow, but I never actually get around to it.
Any of you guys get like this from time to time? Do you ever just want to alienate yourself from people for awhile?
|yep, usually only for a day or two. the people closest to me understand that about me and/or they're the same way so it's normally not an issue. i can just say i am/was hibernating, lol. though i still make an effort to maintain my relationships. call when you say you will, follow through with plans, send a simple text letting them know what's going on, etc.|
|I have Scorpy friends who do this, I have never discussed it with them - I always just assume they are just having a bit of a hard time with something so I send a cheery message or something just so they know they have someone on their side,whatever is going on and leave them to get their mojo or whatever back.|
Then suddenly they bounce back - just the same, as if nothing had happened.
I think it is hard to be "on" all the time - esp, if you are a sign of whom that is generally expected.
Everyone needs a little space, a bit of "me" time to regroup.
Posted by MidniteStar
yes i get the exact same thing and have had a bout of it recently too, like you. it's the emotionally overwhelming part i can only deal with in silence and so it's mostly the people who present those issues to me i try and avoid. like you, i tell myself i'll write them or call them another time, when i'm 'less stressed' about the issues involved. i sometimes send a small one liner message saying i need headspace or i'm not up to talking much...just cos i think i come over as rude cos often i don't even want to talk to people i know will only wanna cheer me up with banter. i shut down to everything whether its intense or frivolous but weirdly i only feel inclined to apologise for that behaviour to the less intense friends at that time.
|Yep. Usually I only recluse from MOST everyone, theres one or two that I reach out to. But a lot of people have been wondering where I've been the last couple weeks.|
|Yes. A lot. All my short life I've been torn between two extremes. Completely closed or unable to shut up. It depends in what's going on around me at the time that determines which takes control.|
No one asks anymore. Most my friends don't want to know truthfully and I understand. My family is always there though. And the boyfriend has stepped up to the plate before as things grow more and more serious too. But I don't blame those who became upset. It's not their obligation if they don't want to make it.
|I'm just glad to know I'm not the only one who wants to just hide out for awhile. It hits me at the oddest times. I need to start telling people ahead of time when I get like this because after going so long without communicating with them, I feel so ashamed popping back up again with some lame excuse or even the truth. Some understand and some don't. I don't blame them either though if they don't. As it's not their issue, but mine.|
I'm trying to get better about the way I handle it though.
Thanks for the feedback!
|oh wow...yeah...when people show up and your in that kinda mood? eeeeek, not nice. i remember i lived in a house that was on the way to the little village near me and a friend of mine would pass me en route to school and stuff. if she didn't see me for a few days, she would just turn up!!!!! aqua she is..prone to that kind of thing. anyhow, i would just open the door and stand in the doorframe with a moody look on my face and she would just put her hands up and back off, lol.|
i don't like being like that but its like i can't help it....i think i wear my moods on my sleeve....anyone else?
|actually, it's probably the reason we like to hide away cos personally, i don't like showing raw emotion. makes me feel uncomfortable.|
|yep, i do disappear on a regular basis. you could almost set your watch to my "leave me alones." funny thing, another scorpio called my disappearing acts "world tours."|
i disappear without a moments notice. my family has never cared. my mom is a pisces sun/cancer moon and there are 2 other scorpio moons in my house. so while they were taking time out, so was i. my cancer rising also likes to withdraw and hide out.
most of the times, i disappear due to personal reasons. either my job is stressing me out, men, or financial reasons. with men, please dont mistake my disappearance with me not being 100% ready to deal with your emotionally. i probably dont like them. but if i do like you and i disappear its because something is off with you and i need to think things through. most importantly, i cannot have the person im thinking about in my grill trying to talk to me. its frustrating and causes me to lash out.
then there are times when i just want to daydream about the person. serious daydreaming. babies, kids, thinking about dinner time at the dining room table. i fantasize alot which causes me to experience great disappointment, ultimately my fault.
there is a danger in letting me loose to my own thoughts. i think up all kinds of butter. my thinking has caused me to get so far off the beaten path that im just a mess.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i would like to think that my moods are obvious, but some signs will switch my mood swings around and make it about them. for example, my aries bff, when i go out to lunch she will hunt me down and think that she did something wrong. i loved it when she had a boyfriend. i had more time to myself. i do appreciate her making sure that im not dead.
|I will take off emotionally if I'm dealing with thoughts and emotions I don't feel like sharing and if by a miracle I do answer my phone during this period, you will get a very superficial me for 2 minutes max and then I'm off in my bubble again. |
I'll be honest, I'm not very good at telling people this is happening mainly because it takes me time to even figure out why I'm checking out and then I explore that for awhile and by the time I figure things out I'm ready to rejoin again and back in my happy place. The absolutely worst thing to do, is ask all kinds of questions about 'how I'm feeling' etc. Honestly, if I told you, it would sound crazy and all over the board! lol Leave me be. As Arnie said: "I'll be back."
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
also, i dont want someone to trigger something in me and i just go off the deep end.
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