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Virgo84
6/28/2012 5:38:29 PM | IP

My last comment got deleted, ah!

Anyways, no you're not the only one who feels that way. Trust me, there were PLENTY of times when I wanted to bring it up, but he is VERY uncomfortable with affection and mushy/lovey dovey things so I never wanted to make him feel awkward. The inside of the V-day card had a pre-printed message and when you opened it up it said "...but I love you anyways." He wrote a really nice message for me thanking me for all that I do for him, which I know was hard for him to do. I told him the card was probably the best gift he ever gave me and he thought I was silly and said something along the lines of I love you is just a saying.

I hope he doesn't flake on me ... at this point it's only 1 day away.
Virgo84
6/28/2012 5:30:24 PM | IP

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callmegenesis
6/27/2012 9:24:38 PM | IP
callmegenesis

Don't put all your eggs in one Friday basket....don't be surprised if he flakes on you. Proceed with caution.
Virgo84
6/27/2012 8:26:01 PM | IP

Thanks everyone for your opinions! Hopefully everything goes smoothly on Friday ... part of me is getting a little nervous!
PhoenixRising
6/26/2012 10:08:39 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Posted by Sunrays
" I'd be open to the idea of being friendly with him. As much as I'm hurting right now, I don't want to completely dismiss him out of my like after 3 years, so I don't know if he would want to hear anything along those lines."

I would not hint anything towards how the future should look like for you both. I believe that saying this would make him think that you are trying to manipulate the situation.




Smiley Agreed!
PhoenixRising
6/26/2012 10:01:30 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

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PhoenixRising
6/26/2012 9:57:18 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Posted by Virgo84
As a branch off of my last topic ... I would like to know what Scorps want and don't want to hear when you've hurt someone that loves you. Do you want them to say anything? Do you want them to do anything, maybe a hug or kiss on the cheek? Of course, this is assuming it may be the last time you see them or speak to them.


I don't want to hear anything really. If I've ended it, it's over and anyone trying to talk to me, spend time with me, will only anger me because I feel like you're not respecting my wish/request that we go our separate ways. If you want closure and I loved you, I will give you that and listen, if I am in that frame of mind. However, I will ONLY give you that and perhaps reflect on what you had to say afterwards. If your goal is to drag on the "breakup" Smiley it will serve you no good and I will eventually see through it--which will, in turn, anger me and you will not get a second chance to "have closure". For the most part when I am done with someone I am done. No phone calls Smiley, no msgs, no quick hellos, no cards for my birthday Smiley. If I see you on the street and it's the wrong day or time I will more likely cross the street and keep it moving. It sounds cold I know, but IMO there is no real point in pretending or catching up. We are done.
BigGirlPanties
6/26/2012 8:18:02 PM | IP
BigGirlPanties

female

Don't compare your feelings to his. Because you have no idea what/how he feels. You are in a world of pain right now, its natural for you to be spinning and attempt to control what you do or say in order to get him to act/react how you want him to. But controlling this situation will not give you what you want. Letting go of him will.

Not in time frame you wish, or in the manner you'd like, but in time. You cannot force him to give you something he just doesnt have it in him to give. Most people, myself included, cannot bear to come right out and say *I dont love you anymore*. IF that's the deal with him, and I dont know. What you know is he doesn't wnt to be with you for now. This is like a sudden death. Someone you love drops out of your life....no warning...no reason...yet they are still living and you want answers. either he wont or cant, whichever...but you have ONE choice. To accept what is....and work on living through the pain...a day at a time.

You will heal.
Ellybean
6/26/2012 7:00:35 PM | IP
Ellybean

female

Scorpio Sun Cancer Moon Scorpio Mercury

Sorry you're going through all this.

It could be anything. It could be him or something else entirely. Sometimes we don't know. And sometimes we'll never know and that adds to the pain a lot of times.

Find your best way to grieve which is healthiest for you. You seem utterly lovely. There are a lot of people here just to talk to if you need it as well. Many here have been heartbroken.
Virgo84
6/26/2012 6:48:18 PM | IP

I just feel so lost right now. Part of me feels like I still have to fight for him, but I know I'm not what he wants. It's just hard to think that in a few days from now, it'll be the last time I ever see him again.
R1g0rM0rT1s
6/26/2012 6:02:58 PM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

i'm not very nice if i've hurt someone. tbh, if i've hurt them, i don't like them that much anyway but i just don't wanna know about their 'pain'. it's even worse when you have to reiterate the thing that hurt the person and hurt them all over again in front of you....i just can't deal with it. complete coward. i remember about 3 years ago, i was involved with a leo who had actually left his wife to be with me but i didn't want him...especially as they had kids....i ignored all his pleading with me cos i knew that i had to hurt him to make him go back to his marriage. kicked him out of my house minutes before new year...he was a complete wreck.

but 3 years on...absolutely no contact. he's happily back with his wife and kids and all is tickety boo

if someone hurts you or you hurt them, you have no choice but to walk away imo
Virgo84
6/26/2012 5:20:23 PM | IP

Then I guess it wasn't really love on his end to begin with. Come to think of it, he never did verbally tell me that in all the time we were together, except for it was written in a card he gave me this past Valentine's Day.

Anyways, I just wanted to know what to tell him on Friday. I'm not sure how Scorpios react to these things, and obviously he's not as hurt as I am, so I don't even know if it matters what I say.
BigGirlPanties
6/26/2012 5:17:58 PM | IP
BigGirlPanties

female

Sometimes people just fall out of love....

Virgo84
6/26/2012 5:04:29 PM | IP

IntriguesScrop, that is pretty harsh on your end and I am actually going to say I did NOTHING wrong. I did everything for this man and loved him and was there for him even when other people didn't know how I could be. Maybe I'm just not the person for him and he is realizing it now, yes after 3 years, but maybe it takes a little longer for some people to realize it then others. Maybe that is what I did wrong ... the fact that I was always there for him willing to do anything and was loving and caring and kind and extremely self-less ... maybe he doesn't want that and well, there's nothing I can do about that. I'm not going to change the person I am so for you to assume that there was indeed something I did wrong, is pretty judgmental. When we spoke the other night he kept saying he doesn't even know what to tell people because nothing makes sense ... he said he would understand if I did something to wrong him and I was a cookiemonster to him, then that would explain the situation ... but there's nothing to say except for it doesn't feel right for him.
Sunrays
6/26/2012 4:55:36 PM | IP
Sunrays

female

"Just be honest. And none of this subtle clues--say your piece and get on with your day."

My suggesstion above was catering to HER emotional needs. I interpreted her question as her not knowing what she can do/say so as to express herself in this situation. She said that she does not want to give this up without a fight (her words).

 

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