pisces female/virgo male

2/29/2012 8:48:23 PM | More
virgoean

I've done a lot of research on the topic but I'm always looking for some fresh and new answers. I'm a Virgo male with a Leo moon and Virgo venus. Not sure what the fish is but I guess I need some help in terms of how to read her or how I can be a little bit more affectionate as I will not deny, being a virgo, it is extremely hard for me to express my true feelings as I'm always analyzing everything I'm thinking and want to say and then going back to what her reaction might be to what I have to say and then just figuring that I shouldn't say anything at all.

She's somebody that I've been talking to for about a year now and we used to talk quite frequently everyday but now maybe once or twice a day to a few days when I usually have to initiate contact. I find it tough to analyze and figure out what kind of level she's on in terms of what she wants out of me because through all of this we still do talk and hangout. I also think that she is maybe very shy. Over our time of talking and hanging out and getting to know each other I've grown very fond of her. I'm just trying to get some tips on how to be more open with her I guess and get her to be more open with me.

We have slept together (multiple times) and kind of have silly pet names for each other. I don't want it to just be FWB kind of ordeal and I don't think that is one. Like, sometimes she will come over and spend the night and nothing will even happen which I am fine with. As hard as it is to express emotion to her I can firmly say that I do not play games, like straight-to-the-point women, and want to feel like I'm not the only one putting into a friendship/relationship. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is how she feels about me. I yearn for those days where we used to talk all the time and I do wish that I saw her more. Just looking for some friendly advice and sorry for the long-winded topic.
2/29/2012 9:27:29 PM | More
Fire-Water

from USA  

You have to speak up, there is no right or wrong way to do it. If you want more you have to go for it, better to know where you stand from my point of view.
3/1/2012 5:29:37 AM | More
piranhaparadiise

female

If people would speak up with what they want instead of being scared to lay it all out there...there would be less confusion and more enjoyment ...
3/1/2012 12:16:39 PM | More
P-Angel

55 years old female from Planet Neptune  

Just

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3/1/2012 12:23:49 PM | More
P-Angel

55 years old female from Planet Neptune  

Just

Posted by virgoean

... I guess I need some help in terms of how to read her or how I can be a little bit more affectionate as I will not deny, being a virgo, it is extremely hard for me to express my true feelings as I'm always analyzing everything I'm thinking and want to say and then going back to what her reaction might be to what I have to say and then just figuring that I shouldn't say anything at all.




If you know you need to be more affectionate .. but, then shrug off actually do it

and If you know you need to be more forthcoming in expressiong how you feel about her .. but, then stop yourself from saying it



Then there is nothing anyone can tell you on what to do ... because you already know what to do. Nobody can make you do the right thing.




3/1/2012 12:32:59 PM | More
fishtale

Posted by virgoean


We have slept together (multiple times) and kind of have silly pet names for each other. I don't want it to just be FWB kind of ordeal and I don't think that is one. Like, sometimes she will come over and spend the night and nothing will even happen which I am fine with. As hard as it is to express emotion to her I can firmly say that I do not play games, like straight-to-the-point women, and want to feel like I'm not the only one putting into a friendship/relationship. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is how she feels about me. I yearn for those days where we used to talk all the time and I do wish that I saw her more. Just looking for some friendly advice and sorry for the long-winded topic.


I don't ever stay in a situation if I'm not interested in the other person. The fact that she talks to you, sees you, sleeps with you (with or without sex) and has been doing so for close to a year says a lot in my opinion.

The changes in the pattern of communication could be easily explained by routine. It's what you two have settled into. Sounds to me as though she is following your lead.

I agree with the others. If you want something different from her it's time to tell her. Tell her how you feel and what you would like from the relationship. You'll need to take the chance, because from what you have written above, it doesn't sound like she will do it first.

7/6/2012 4:28:10 AM | More
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7/6/2012 4:49:49 AM | More
PicsesLady24

Virgoean

I to am a pisces woman and I am currently dating a virgo male for over a year,and i am now expecting his child. It has not been an easy ride because everytime I feel the relationship is progressing,I then feel like he decides to take ten steps back. I have now become more reluctant in expressing my inner feelings to him as his behavior makes me insecure as I dont get enough verbal communication from him, as to how he really feels towards me.So my advice to you would be to be open by expressing how you truely feel about her and also show, as pisces women like gifts and to be treated like a lady, she is more than likely waiting for the move from you. otherwise if you hold out for too long she might think your not really interested in her the way shes into you and move on.I think shes scared to make the first move incase you run a mile, I'm sure she too wants more commitment but would like you to be the one to say it. Good luck!
7/8/2012 7:32:57 PM | More
doubletrouble

Posted by virgoean
We have slept together (multiple times) and kind of have silly pet names for each other. I don't want it to just be FWB kind of ordeal and I don't think that is one. Like, sometimes she will come over and spend the night and nothing will even happen which I am fine with. As hard as it is to express emotion to her I can firmly say that I do not play games, like straight-to-the-point women, and want to feel like I'm not the only one putting into a friendship/relationship. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is how she feels about me. I yearn for those days where we used to talk all the time and I do wish that I saw her more.


tell her this, all of it.

honesty never fails when doubt consumes, virgoean.

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