Anyone every rekindle a relationship that ended?

I've tried rekindling a failed relationship before. Some ended for the same reason, others ended for new ones. I always believe that you can rekindle a relationship if one or both parties forgive and forget. If one or both of you were the cause, then there needs to be a change. As for abusive, it can, but most likely won't

happykitsune

7/27/2012 3:36:15 AM | IP

female

Posted by P-Angel
I think it's probably impossible.

The desire would be to go back to the way it was when it was loving and beautiful .. but, that can never happen becuase there is water under the bridge, which means persective has changed.

So, it can never be the way it was ... and that is what you will be thinking about, hoping for, and so that's where you will set your expectations.

Hmm yes I can agree to this.

Kept trying with a leo once. We were on and off for about 8 years, maybe longer. Finally it just got to the point where I pitied him. Him and I are still friends to this day, but I don't keep constant contact with him like I did when I was emotionally attached.

queenofdawn

7/27/2012 12:44:52 AM | IP

Taurus sun/Libra moon
with
Virgo sun/Aries moon

I'm in the process of doing just this...but hesitant. This thread has me even more-so.

Just posted the story in the virgo forum. The short version: together for 6 months. I (hiding head in shame) looked at his texts and found a somewhat inappropriate exchange with his ex. We ended things a month ago. Decided to hear him out a few days ago. Said I'd give him a second chance. Having a difficult time doing so already. But I'm trying.

LibraRose

7/11/2012 7:48:05 PM | IP

female

If people have actually broken up I don't there's a lot of hope (or point). I had a couple of re-tries with a relationship (both Libras) and it didn't work. If however you are rekindling a relationship that you are still in, e.g. the marriage is stale but you want to rekindle it to stay together for the kids, I have heard of this being successful. I know a few couples who were close to breaking but stuck in out and had counselling and stayed together once the kids had left home because their marriage was stronger than ever. But if you hate each other it is probably better to split than expose the kids to all that poison.

I think sometimes people want to try again because they feel they failed, but in reality a relationship ending is not necessarily failure. Maybe it's just run it's course and you are both ready to move on with some new lessons learned.

MsP

7/8/2012 2:12:32 PM | IP

Posted by PiscesFebFish
Only for sex, I like to recycle men it keeps the numbers low.

haha

aurora

7/8/2012 8:50:01 AM | IP

32 years old female

Sun Cancer A

Tried once and failed, big time. And I did it 2 years ago. Sometimes I think I was smarter when I was younger lol, because I had a rule, never go back to the relationship that ended because issues between you two can't disappear. That time I was so convinced that I can forget what happened and really try to make things better, but he didn't. So never again

Cancer/Gemini

Nevermind

7/2/2012 4:42:20 PM | IP

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Nevermind

7/2/2012 4:40:36 PM | IP

I was in an on-again, off-again relationship with a pisces sun virgo moon for a little over 2 years. I am a virgo sun sag moon. It didn't work out in the end because neither of us was really trying to make it work (especially near the end). He is still an acquaintance of mine though. We are both with other people now, so that's helped keep us from doing the time warp again and again. :0)

I have had the experience of successfully rekindling old friendships though. Once with a Cancer girlfriend of mine. We had ended with her giving me an ultimatum about being more responsive and available, which I was struggling with to be honest. It took my virgo mind some time to really think about all the things she told me, and in the meantime she had assumed that I was just blatantly blowing her off. But I was really just backing off at the time so that I could really think everything through because I really didn't want to lose her friendship. That pissed her off and drove her to leave me and one of my other girlfriends a horrible series of voicemessages and texts about me being a flake, a fake, and some other horrible things. I just totally shut down after that and even though she apologized a month later, I was not having it (earth signs take a long time to cool after we get heated up)!
I ran into her by accident several months later, and completely broke down. We were really very very close, and I think I had been in denial about how much I was missing her. At any rate, it all came gushing out that night when I bumped into her.
We're back to being very very close friends again. We decided we need to be extra careful with eachother though because we both are actually very sensitive, but in very different ways. She's really one of my soulmates and I'm glad we got back together.

I also had a falling out with my gemini girlfriend when I found out she was telling people things I had told her were for her ears only. When I confronted her about it she said I was being too sensitive, which drove me crazy. At the time, I think I just swallowed hard, and didnt say anything. I just stopped talking to her after that, which I understand now was confusing to her since I never said anything further. I think she realized she had crossed a line after several weeks of me avoiding her. She said she was surprised that I was even mad because she didn't even remember anything happening between us! At any rate, we smoothed it out almost immediately and now we're as close now as w

GeminiDahl

5/22/2012 2:46:42 PM | IP

39 years old female

Sun Gemini 28.11. Ascendent Leo 16.30

Gave it one hell of a try but it didn't work out at all. Won't be doing that again for sure. I agree with the others, it ended for a reason the first time and I was guilty of romanticizing the good aspects of the former relationship.

piranhaparadiise

5/19/2012 5:35:30 PM | IP

female

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Jhene

5/19/2012 1:02:00 PM | IP

24 years old female

Sun Caps Moon Cancer Asc Aries Pl

rekindled end but that's due to not addressing the issues that were present before. but i have seen lots of rekindled relationships work most better the second time around.

im the type when its done it done. you just know when it is.

PiscesFebFish

5/18/2012 11:54:54 PM | IP

Well, I certainly can't debate a personal response so I'll take your word for it. On a serious note I think if an ex comes back into your life and you want to try again there is nothing wrong with that. The upside is that you most likely won't second guess closure if it ends again but the downside is that you may feel foolish.....if it ends again.

westside

5/17/2012 10:35:09 PM | IP

19 years old male from Tennessee AMERICA!

an obvious gemini,i write poetry and rea

in effect of your comment, i stopped and wondered if it really was that serious. . .and i came to the conclusion that-yes, i do believe that it is serious.

PiscesFebFish

5/17/2012 8:47:55 PM | IP

No I don't because my comment was sarcasm. Do you ever wonder if it's really that serious?

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