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Impulsv
8/7/2012 5:24:01 PM | IP
Impulsv

38 years old female

Ok so I've been bumping into a neighbor who lives a couple of blocks while walking his dog. We bump into each other at least 2 x week for the last 2 months and have had a couple short conversations. Friendly, he always says hi first. Not sure if he's interest although his dog always seems to stop in front of my house or the house across the street as I walk to my car in am. I'm thinking next time I'll go up to him and suggest we do coffee sometime or say hi and hand him my bussiness card stating" we should do coffee sometime. Let me know ( phone number) " I hesitate because I figure if he's interest he should be more aggressive. But why not?? Or perhaps just wait a few and see what develop.

Rays Heart
8/7/2012 6:37:41 PM | IP
Rays Heart

male

I think you should do as you feel. The forced waiting turns it into a strategy and when you speak strategy, you're talking game plan and you probably already know the rest, as to where this could lead you. I always say that when your heart and mind is right, it's fine to trust your instincts. Every connection is unique. You never know what you can get from this one.
Impulsv
8/7/2012 8:53:46 PM | IP
Impulsv

38 years old female

Agreed I have no problem doing it. It's when other put their voice and say your chasing and he's not into you because he should have initiated, he should do the work. The way I see it who cares who starts it the energy is there. I get a good vibe so the worse is rejection wow. Glad to hear from male perspective.
ArticleL
8/7/2012 9:25:44 PM | IP
ArticleL

The dog is interested and his owner is his front man.
cowpuncher
8/7/2012 9:32:47 PM | IP
cowpuncher

40 years old

What you see is what you get. :)

Do it, but there's a more painless way.

Speaking as a guy who looooooooooooooves his dog, IF that were me walking by, you would have very little trouble striking up a very friendly conversation by just complimenting my pooch, letting her sniff your hand for a sec, and then petting her and giving her some love.

1) You'd establish a mutual interest that is important to me. "She likes my dog!" This is more important than you might think

2) Gives you something to talk about that is a 100% guaranteed friendly conversation. If you're approaching somebody you don't know... it's nice to have an icebreaker. You couldn't have a better icebreaker than that.

3) Dogs are awesome, take every chance you get to pet a good one

Plus you aren't necessarily expressing interest out of the clear blue sky in the guy... so if he opens his mouth and talks like Pee Wee Herman, you can just pet the pooch, say have a nice day, and walk away. Likewise, you don't look crazy if you say "Hey I've been thinking about starting to walk some... sometime would you and Scooby like to go for a long walk and get some coffee or ice cream afterward?"

Good luck

ArticleL
8/7/2012 9:38:58 PM | IP
ArticleL

Agreed with Cp now flip it talk to the dog about the guy. O-O
Impulsv
8/7/2012 11:56:17 PM | IP
Impulsv

38 years old female

@ cowpuncher. I have done the painless way. I've definitely established an interest In his dog and have done as u suggested, ( petted it, had conversations about Lucy ect) plus I do love dogs I just can't have one at my current place Although, I noticed, since he seems more relax and has bigger smiles. But I'm just inpatient to see what he does next lol a scorpio trait. Lol
Impulsv
8/8/2012 12:03:14 AM | IP
Impulsv

38 years old female

Glad to hear men would not be turned off by It.
cowpuncher
8/8/2012 3:30:25 AM | IP
cowpuncher

40 years old

What you see is what you get. :)

Posted by Impulsv
Glad to hear men would not be turned off by It.


What I told you would work on me, no problem. Good luck!
LibraRose
8/8/2012 4:23:33 AM | IP
LibraRose

female

Before you take things further just do some groundwork by finding out more about him. Most importantly - is he married. Never surprises me how many men forget to mention this while they are enjoying your attention.
everevolvingepithet
8/8/2012 4:29:08 AM | IP
everevolvingepithet

113 years old from Monkey Fonics,Facilitator,Smart Arse  

An average day at the offices of... from

Same goes for women lol.Could cause way too much unnecessary drama. ^

Cowp's list is a good one, if you can't get along with the dog, stuff like that would be taken on board and rates quite highly believe it or not.
Impulsv
8/8/2012 12:48:20 PM | IP
Impulsv

38 years old female

True don't assume. I've observed and he doesn't wear a ring, which now adays means nothing. He always walks by himself even on sat or Sunday. I would assume if in a relationship his partner would walk with him. But true not good to assume. Well next time I see him I'll do it. Have butterflies thinking about it lol.
P-Angel
8/8/2012 2:45:59 PM | IP
P-Angel

54 years old female from Planet Neptune  

Just

Just because you meet a nice person .... your mind automatically starts churning, trying to discern whether he's into you, or not .. based on nothing except your own imaginings?


Why can't he just be a nice person you know who walks his dog near your house?

Why does every woman feel compelled to turn every guy they think is nice into siezing him up and down to figure out whether he's material enough for them to (emotionally) target?
ArticleL
8/8/2012 2:50:10 PM | IP
ArticleL

-Eats a purple Skittle-
ArticleL
8/8/2012 3:44:59 PM | IP
ArticleL

-Opens up another one and watches you "excersise"-

 

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