I think my scorp may be crazy :(

Posted by Nights22

Posted by Sag89

Posted by Nights22
Sag89 seriously.

You are so bent up on his trust issues that you dont see your own scorned issues. He is not your controlling ex.

I know your mad at yourself for letting the ex abuse you and control you but you cant take it out on this guy to try and make up for it! It doesnt work that way.

Now I'm not saying its not a red flag but you cannot be so bent out of shape on this one issue just because your ex was controlling. Taking butter out on the new scorp accomplishes nothing and just gives you more baggage than you already have.

I know he isn't my ex!

I thought I was actually moving to someone healthier I was very excited about that but that reaction made me have second thoughts.

Maybe he was just upset and he had a oops over reaction.

Maybe that is all this is.

But I'm just trying to be sure.

Well I mean he was drunk. Not much butter can be discussed well when drunk.
All I'm saying is dont be extra hard on this guy for no reason.

Posted by Nights22
Sag89 seriously.

You are so bent up on his trust issues that you dont see your own scorned issues. He is not your controlling ex.

I know your mad at yourself for letting the ex abuse you and control you but you cant take it out on this guy to try and make up for it! It doesnt work that way.

Now I'm not saying its not a red flag but you cannot be so bent out of shape on this one issue just because your ex was controlling. Taking butter out on the new scorp accomplishes nothing and just gives you more baggage than you already have.

Posted by exoskeleton
try a different sign, sag.

Posted by OceanDeep
No honey, you're not getting what I'm saying. But, you must look at it too that this is how it is going to be. You can't fix him, and if he doesn't get it by this though either, it will continue.

So with that said, I am now utterly confused. What exactly are you upset about? You need to keep in mind this: Your focus cannot be on the fact now that you know that he was cheated on therefore what stemmed his reaction. You need to reread your post from the get go.

I never said it was all because he had been cheated on, what I was adding to the point was because he HAD been cheated on in the past would and could probably cause him to do this on top of him being a Scorp. The main thing though here, is he is a Scorpio man. This you DID know going into it. And where I'm so surprised by everyones "Oh Em Geeeee, he did what? He's a crazed, pyscho killer, and your grave has GOT to be dug already"

You're comparing apples to oranges though when you're comparing yourself's past abuse to my thoughts. And I will say, if you choose to stay now after you comparing those as the same...his reaction to your past abuse, then you are admitting you feel abused. So why stay? Or was that not the focus until it was mentioned.


You need to dig deep. You also mentioned in your first thread that you two having been having some problems lately. Before this happened?

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by Sag89

So everythings my fault huh? I deserve that right?

Not at all.

I'm saying that if you're relationships aren't working out, then maybe you should be on your own for a while.

There are many things you still need to work out for yourself.

Just like my roommie, you have some issues that need to be worked out before you can have a successful relationship...

And that's mainly addmitting that not everything is your partners fault.

Posted by Sag89

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by Nights22

Posted by exoskeleton
try a different sign, sag.

I think she should be single for a long while.
It seems she has not had a break from some kind of contact for men ever in her life.
I think she needs that most.

I gave the same exact advice to my Saggy roommate.

To her, all the drama that surrounds her relationships aren't caused by her. She can do no wrong.

But to outsiders, it's as clear as day.

So everythings my fault huh? I deserve that right?

Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by Nemesis
well, i´ll give him in dubio pro reo. (nearly) everybody should get a chance. imagine how treetrunked up you would feel if you discovered (by whatever means) a message like that, an ominous email.......who knows what kind of crusade you´d go on? i´d probably just sulk and give him treetrunking silent treatment. *poor pisces*

I'd be furious, but I wouldn't be trying to hack into someone's phone in the first place. It's okay that he got mad after initially seeing the text. The point is that she GAVE him a chance to explain himself, they talked, and he made it seem as though the issue was resolved. If he didn't really feel that way, he should've gone to her again to discuss it further. Not her ex or her brother.

Posted by exoskeleton

Posted by Nights22

Posted by exoskeleton
try a different sign, sag.

I think she should be single for a long while.
It seems she has not had a break from some kind of contact for men ever in her life.
I think she needs that most.

word. and she has her own issues to sort out before she can have a mature relationship.

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by Nights22

Posted by exoskeleton
try a different sign, sag.

I think she should be single for a long while.
It seems she has not had a break from some kind of contact for men ever in her life.
I think she needs that most.

I gave the same exact advice to my Saggy roommate.

To her, all the drama that surrounds her relationships aren't caused by her. She can do no wrong.

But to outsiders, it's as clear as day.

Posted by Nights22

Posted by exoskeleton
try a different sign, sag.

I think she should be single for a long while.
It seems she has not had a break from some kind of contact for men ever in her life.
I think she needs that most.

Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by Nemesis

Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by Nemesis
"He was still wrong. It's not about being holier-than-thou or sitting on a high horse. I'll admit that I've snooped before, and it was wrong. I learned from it and no longer do it. The boyfriend's behavior is not okay."

applying double standards now?! come on.

No. I was being honest and SAID that I was wrong.

IDK WTF has been wrong with you or why you've been so aggressive and angry on the boards lately, but keep it away from me.

yes, but you see, this scorp dude admitted he was wrong about his actions too.......you give him no credit for that?!

PH, is that how you perceive me? aggressive and angry? sorry, shallow butter is not my theme.

Even though he said the words, his later actions proved otherwise (texting her brother, trying to add the dude on FB). His words were meaningless, so he gets no credit.

Now, yes. You used to be so kind. Now you seem to have a huge chip on your shoulder for whatever reason, and you're all into the DXP clique thing. I'm not sure why that is. Oh, well.

Posted by Sag89

Posted by OceanDeep

Posted by Sag89

Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by Sag89
I get it. I get it alot but it doesn't make it okay.

Exactly.

We all have to take responsibility for our actions no matter what may have happened to us

He did take responsibility though.

Did you explaining all of this.... this conversation of explanation... happen sober? Had sobered up? Both of you? Or did it start when he flipped the treetrunk out, and then end finally a day later when everyone was sober? He obviously did not believe you Sag89, drunk or sober, for him to try to add that guy AND ask your brother. These are things YOU need to think about, with and about yourself. HE DID NOT BELIEVE YOU.

So was that because you explained while you were drunk? Because you flipped out that he hacked your phone? Because you never mentioned Libra before now? Because you still didn't explain to him fully how and why Libra would want to text you? These are things you DO know. You obviously have a history with Libra, and you felt you shouldn't mention it to him. BEFORE now. Before he found that text.

We're all up and arms now, but you have not explained to us who Libra was to you in your past. If you swept it under the rug to him like you are here? Your relationship with this dude from before? Of course he isn't going to believe you. Anyone who skirts the issue has a reason to.


I have no problem being honest and open to my new scorp!

He can ask me anything he likes.

What he can not do is invade my boundaries because he has been cheated on before.

I've been physically abused before you think since that happened to me I should be able to go around and hurt other people?

No.

Continuing below, or it'll get cut off lol

Posted by OceanDeep

Posted by Sag89

Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by Sag89
I get it. I get it alot but it doesn't make it okay.

Exactly.

We all have to take responsibility for our actions no matter what may have happened to us

He did take responsibility though.

Did you explaining all of this.... this conversation of explanation... happen sober? Had sobered up? Both of you? Or did it start when he flipped the treetrunk out, and then end finally a day later when everyone was sober? He obviously did not believe you Sag89, drunk or sober, for him to try to add that guy AND ask your brother. These are things YOU need to think about, with and about yourself. HE DID NOT BELIEVE YOU.

So was that because you explained while you were drunk? Because you flipped out that he hacked your phone? Because you never mentioned Libra before now? Because you still didn't explain to him fully how and why Libra would want to text you? These are things you DO know. You obviously have a history with Libra, and you felt you shouldn't mention it to him. BEFORE now. Before he found that text.

We're all up and arms now, but you have not explained to us who Libra was to you in your past. If you swept it under the rug to him like you are here? Your relationship with this dude from before? Of course he isn't going to believe you. Anyone who skirts the issue has a reason to.


I have no problem being honest and open to my new scorp!

He can ask me anything he likes.

What he can not do is invade my boundaries because he has been cheated on before.

I've been physically abused before you think since that happened to me I should be able to go around and hurt other people?

No.