I think my scorp may be crazy :(

Posted by Nights22
Heres the gist of it...

ALL 3 were drunk so if Sag89 is ok letting the ex off the hook for drunk conduct than she should be a ok letting the scorp off the hook.

Sag89 should make sure the scorp knows some boundaries now tho. But at the same time needs to make sure her exes know their damn boundaries too.

Sag 89 also should stop trying to paint this new scorp to be just like her ex controlling/abusive scorp. This whole comparing butter doesnt bode well.

Soooo in conclusion... Sag89 is not a good boundary setter. Her scorp is not the best at trusting. So peraps they should talk on setting boundaries and building trust instead of one automatically assuming her new scorp is just like her old one and the other assuming she is going to cheat right under his nose.

Sag89 is a aqua venus so im sure her openness is not the best and I know she wants a certain amount of freedom but in order to get that she needs to communicate better than it seems she does and also stop letting her past drama dictate her future.

Posted by OceanDeep
Oh for treetrunk sake. Who in the hell hasn't looked at someone's phone? And any one of you who is so surprised that a Scorp hacked into it, and then flipped out when he read it? Has no clue what its like or how they operate. Everyone come down off their high horses. No one here is perfect, and when you're in a relationship the only thing that should be private is a treetrunking diary. If there is nothing to hide, then who treetrunking cares that he hacked into the phone. But ding, ding, ding when he happens to look he finds that? Duh, then I would say "Geez, it's no treetrunking wonder she has her phone locked" The mind goes a million directions and anyone of you who denies it? Take a look in the mirror, you're just as psycho for believing yourself to be so high and mighty to not get it or understand any part of it. Jesus H Christ. Or, you believe you're beyond being cheated on? Then you never have. Does it make it right? No, but he's not a treetrunking criminal so get off of Sag89s Scorps back, and Dazeds.

And for the whole forum on this thread: Who here, and raise your hand honestly, if saw a letter from an ex and your SO was gone would not be tempted to read it? Or go through old photos? Give me a treetrunking break, and start digging a little deeper into your psyche people. *SMFH*

Posted by OceanDeep
Okay, this is what I think. Again, Dazed correct me if I'm wrong.

Sag, you did nothing wrong in the sense of you have no control that Leeb randomly texts you butterfaced in the middle of the night. You can't control that. No.

On the opposite, did Scorp ever at any point know about Leeb? Did you mention his name to him at all? Described what type of relations you had of him at all?

Heres two things. This isn't judging you, this is laying out the facts. Leeb was either A) a relationship, or B) a random or not serious treetrunk/fling/whatever. Theres a huge difference between the two BUT the common denominator in both is that YOU and HE have some sort of a history enough for HIM to want to contact you randomly in the middle of the night butterfaced. The question is not if you still hold a flame for this guy or not, we as the readers realize you don't. BUT the question becomes this: This guy must still have something for YOU, or believes that somehow he can still get you into his bed, or wants to.

It rolls around to the fact that you are STILL friends with him on FB. This isn't about your mind, this is now about going into Scorps mind. Does that make sense? See where he's wondering wtf is going on? You say nothing is going on, this dude texts you something like that, AND you say you're not friends nor never talk then why the treetrunk is he texting you AND you're friends with him on FB. BUT, I would bet his flipout comes because this is the FIRST time he has found anything incrimanting against you,(meaning he's hacked and snooped before... Scorp + history of being cheated on? You can bet your bank love) but in his mind he hasn't trusted you all along, and why he flipped the treetrunk out so bad. He found something he hoped to God he wouldnt, but expected he would, and ultimately did. Unfortunatley for you, you must rememember this: THERE IS NO RIGHT TO YOUR PRIVACY, ONLY HIS. But if he loves you, those private things will not be held out, and if he does, it because he doesn't want to ruin things.

Now we look at Scorp who admittedly has been cheated on. Has trust issues, and yes this will be a lot of headaches in the future. What Dazed is trying to say about now, is that in order for this to start stopping NOW is the perfect time to lay it aaaalllllll out on the table. Take the risk, take the chance, etc. Your choice. But you've only smoothed this over for now

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by Sag89
Dazed it's not okay for someone to invade boundaries no matter what the circumstance is.

Okay Saggy...

You're drunk. You see a text on Scorps phone saying "I wanna do so and so to you"...

What is your reaction?

Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by PurrrrHissss

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by DazedScorp

The hacking was uncalled for, but the reaction was not

I want everyone here to tell me that if your S/O received a text during the middle of the night saying I want to kiss, treetrunk, etc. that you wouldn't be upset.

Anyone???

Still waiting...

For what? Applause? A medal? A cookie?

For everyone to answer the question

It's fine that he got upset, but they TALKED THROUGH IT. He should've dropped it then. But no, he had to be a giant creeper and try to add the dude on Facebook and text her brother to ask him if she has another boyfriend.

Posted by risingabovethemasses
PurrrHissss and WESTSIDE:

Dazed.... is just trying to make his points and i am not sure if name calling and labeling someone as delusional or this and that will really get anyone anywhere. As Nemesis puts, none of you are holier than though so stop assuming the higher moral ground in your arguments.

Dazed.... let's not jump to any conclusions please... what Saggie89 says here and what she may or may not do in her everyday life behind closed doors may very well be like freaking night and day.


Sincerely,


Libra Sun/Aqua Moon Male