Username: Password:
Register

Expectations

«Return to "Scorpio" Forum

More pages: 1 2 3
R1g0rM0rT1s
7/25/2012 6:11:37 AM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

creepy: that's interesting what you said about your friend cos it's a golden rule of trading or investing in financial markets to be completely DETACHED. you have to remain icey cold about your dealings because as soon as you get emotionally involved, fear and greed enter into the equation and you make baaaaaaad decisions.....like getting distracted by dxp when the market's crashing, lol.

the book has been really useful in helping me detach generally which is something i feel comes naturally to a scorpio in any case, but it shows the positive reasons for detachment which is a clear perspective and an ability to be more flexible and pro-active in your dealings.

i just think this can apply to many of the relationship issues that are brought to dxp. if there's any issue in a personal relationship, detachment is the best way to move forward....imo.
CreepyPants
7/24/2012 9:03:20 PM | IP
CreepyPants

female from SiN CiTY

buy the ticket...

grazie r1g

i just read that after a 12 hr day and i'm not sure why lol my brain is mush

so this excerpt is saying our bias or emotional leaning will make us label information as good/bad when it should have no polarity at all? i think that's what it's saying... makes complete sense.

i have a friend who's a financial advisor. really good at his job. i say to him every once in a while, "you're not human, you're a financial advisor" i'm both joking and serious when i say it, cuz he lacks any feeling or sensitivity most of the time. to the point where it's funny, but kinda sad. after reading these excerpts, HE and his weirdness makes so much more sense.
R1g0rM0rT1s
7/24/2012 6:53:27 AM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

here's another excerpt:

Here's where we run into problems. Because our expectations
come from what we know, when we decide or believe that we know
something, we naturally expect to be right. At that point, we're no
longer in a neutral or open state of mind, and it's not difficult to understand
why. If we're going to feel great if the market does what we
expect it to do, or feel horrible if it doesn't, then we're not exactly neutral
or open-minded. Quite the contrary, the force of the belief behind
the expectation will cause us to perceive market information in a way
that confirms what we expect (we naturally like feeling good); and our
pain-avoidance mechanisms will shield us from information that doesn't
confirm what we expect (to keep us from feeling bad).
R1g0rM0rT1s
7/24/2012 5:49:39 AM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

Posted by CreepyPants
I dig... it's the mindset I like to keep going into the movie theater so that there's better chance my over priced ticket and snacks weren't paid for in vain.

truly

Idealy, I think you should have expectations for yourself and your own performance, and then goals and aims for your results. Everyone should have or try to have control over themselves so it's fair to set expectations for yourself. Chances are you will set yourself up for disappointment if you expect certain outcomes where the variables and factors aren't entirely within your control, or mostly out of your control. The more you know what you are doing and have exp with those variables and factors, the better you can set expectations of yourself that are relevant to those variables/factors. This will allow you to do YOUR part in controlling outcomes as much as they can be controlled.


that is absolute genius creepypants. explained in a nutshell
CreepyPants
7/23/2012 9:54:14 PM | IP
CreepyPants

female from SiN CiTY

buy the ticket...

I dig... it's the mindset I like to keep going into the movie theater so that there's better chance my over priced ticket and snacks weren't paid for in vain.

truly

Idealy, I think you should have expectations for yourself and your own performance, and then goals and aims for your results. Everyone should have or try to have control over themselves so it's fair to set expectations for yourself. Chances are you will set yourself up for disappointment if you expect certain outcomes where the variables and factors aren't entirely within your control, or mostly out of your control. The more you know what you are doing and have exp with those variables and factors, the better you can set expectations of yourself that are relevant to those variables/factors. This will allow you to do YOUR part in controlling outcomes as much as they can be controlled.
PhoenixRising
7/23/2012 6:22:00 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Don't delete it. It's a good healthy discussion. It's a break from the typical "I don't know why I can't get this man or woman to put up with my bull--um love me".
PhoenixRising
7/23/2012 6:20:49 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Smiley
R1g0rM0rT1s
7/23/2012 6:14:22 PM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

NOM!!!!
ellessque
7/23/2012 5:16:39 PM | IP
ellessque



Scorpio with an Aries Moon Pos

I talked way too much in this thread. lol

*hands rig an american doughnut as a peace offering*
R1g0rM0rT1s
7/23/2012 5:02:24 PM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Are goals and expectations the same thing?


nah cos it's like the goal in football...you take a shot at it but you don't necessarily always score cos you might kick the ball like a 90 year old woman or get the trajectory totally wrong or as i would probably do, fall arse over face and completely miss the ball itself! there are unknown variables involved in scoring or achieving goals.

an expectation means that you have only one set of outcomes available to you because that is all you are focused on and all you believe will transpire. there's a difference between expecting to be successful and aiming for success.

IntriguedScorp
7/23/2012 3:12:03 PM | IP
IntriguedScorp



Scorp with a Saggie Moon. That's all yo

Are goals and expectations the same thing?
R1g0rM0rT1s
7/23/2012 2:20:29 PM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

Posted by ellessque
I think Rig had too high of expectations for this thread.


hahahah!!! sooooooooooooooooo funny
ellessque
7/23/2012 10:21:11 AM | IP
ellessque



Scorpio with an Aries Moon Pos

I think Rig had too high of expectations for this thread.
Moimeme
7/23/2012 10:13:41 AM | IP
Moimeme

44 years old female from Paris, France  

I think it's a great thread... learning to not be outcome dependent has really helped me in my personal/romantic life (where I struggle the most). Don't delete it!
R1g0rM0rT1s
7/23/2012 2:17:59 AM | IP
R1g0rM0rT1s



words fail me

Posted by ellessque
I also think people don't take responsibilities for their own expectations and expect other people to fill them.

That should never be the case.


OMG!!! why can't you see that we're saying the same thing?????!!!!!! the whole thing about having expectations and them being negative is PRECISELY because people aren't taking responsibility!!!!! THEY EXPECT OTHER PEOPLE AND EVENTS TO GO THEIR WAY AND FULFILL THEIR EXPECTATIONS. they do NOT consider other people and events when they form their expectation and THAT IS WHY THEY ARE BAAAAAAAAAAAAD THINGS TO HAVE.

i treetrunking HATE this thread now. i expect i'll remove it later, lol. some of you guys would argue the toss no matter what the debate. bad scorpio trait imo.



 

More pages: 1 2 3

«Return to "Scorpio" Forum

Topic Options: