How to end this?

Posted by esheep123
Just from my experiences, Scorpios amputate without much discussion. It's almost like you want him to just fall off the face of the earth because you're done. But he's not gonna just disappear. You left him a confused mess, he didn't even see it coming. You strung him along because you didn't want to hurt his feelings, which you did, or because you didn't know what you wanted. He's just reacting. Abrupt rejection stings.

Well, that's what I think anyway.

Posted by esheep123
You two hit it off. You were your magnetic Scorpio self. You are nice, you listened to him, showed that Scorpio tenderness that makes other signs turn to mush, and he felt there was progress.

Then, when he musters up the courage to tell you he loves you, you decide you don't want to deal anymore. It's not what you want, it's not deep enough, or it was too easy getting him. He is baffled, and hurt, and angry, because it's not easy, Scorpio or any other sign, to put yourself out there, lay your cards out, and have a chance of getting rejected by telling someone that you love them.

You mention to him a couple times that you don't like where things are going, but your Scorpio ego is eating up all the attention he gives you. You say one thing, but yet, still accept his affections and soaking up whatever he's giving you. He tells you he loves you, and you love it. And then, you do the famous Scorpio disappearing act.

"But, but, I thought we were doing great?!" Says the confused Leo, or Aries, or Cap, or whatever sign you choose to do this to. "Didn't I tell you I was confused? Even though I was still answering your phone calls, still meeting up with you, probably tended to your every sexual need, giving you hope. Here's an email with a half assed reason why things aren't gonna work out (read: You aren't entertaining enough) Now get off my shizz!"

And that Leo, who thought things were going well, because you didn't want to say anything about it not going the way you planned, or to your liking, that Leo is left with his crushed heart, trying to get closure on something that seemed to be going well. And you ignoring him when he wants answers, to you, feels like stalking, because you were done waaaay before you told him. But he was just informed of this. And he's reacting like any other human being would, by needing to know what happened.

Just from my experiences, Scorpios amputate without much discussion. It's almost like you want him to just fall off the face of the earth because you're done. But he's not gonna just disappear. You left him a confused mess, he didn't even see it coming. You strung him along because you didn't want to hurt his feelings, which you did, or because you didn't know what you wanted. He's just reacting. Abrupt rejection stings.
Well, that's what I think anyway.

Posted by DazedScorp
btw Nefer, where the treetrunk did you come from all of a sudden?

Posted by ellybd

Posted by Nefer
Yeah, you Scorp Venus people are like Intensity Personified.. you scare me, like I'm gonna be consumed om nom nom. All the Scorp Venus people I've known.. you're right.. they had to LEARN to not throw themselves headfirst into a brand new relationship, capturing and consuming their love interest.. it's too much, too soon, too pushy, freaks people out.. and most only learn it.. when they feel the other edge of the knife cutting them, when someone they feel little or nothing for, suddenly takes the Scorp Venus' usual role.. they see what it's like, how frightening and almost creepy to be the object of affection SO grossly disproportionate to the length/depth of the "relationship".

It's a learning experience.. and a very valuable one for a Scorp. ^_^

+1000000000000000000000000000000000000000

Still haven't mastered it. I just feel it and then don't say anything about it. My boyfriend has this placement too. Very same thing. He references only one time where he came on too strong too fast and since that one instance he's never done the same. Took me a couple more tries to get it right lol. Guess we figured out who's more stubborn of the two of us!

...Or maybe just more stupid... hehehehe

Posted by Nefer
Yeah, you Scorp Venus people are like Intensity Personified.. you scare me, like I'm gonna be consumed om nom nom. All the Scorp Venus people I've known.. you're right.. they had to LEARN to not throw themselves headfirst into a brand new relationship, capturing and consuming their love interest.. it's too much, too soon, too pushy, freaks people out.. and most only learn it.. when they feel the other edge of the knife cutting them, when someone they feel little or nothing for, suddenly takes the Scorp Venus' usual role.. they see what it's like, how frightening and almost creepy to be the object of affection SO grossly disproportionate to the length/depth of the "relationship".

It's a learning experience.. and a very valuable one for a Scorp. ^_^

Posted by ellybd

Posted by MidniteStar
Thanks for the advice. Maybe I did handle it the wrong way. I just wasn't used to someone telling me they loved me after a few short weeks. I panicked. I'll learn from this experience though. I hate rejecting people even more than I hate being rejected. I just don't like hurting them.

I don't care to date anymore for a long time. I just want to be alone. Life is depressing.

Don't be depressed!

Posted by bluemoon9043834

Posted by MidniteStar
Thanks for the advice. Maybe I did handle it the wrong way. I just wasn't used to someone telling me they loved me after a few short weeks. I panicked. I'll learn from this experience though. I hate rejecting people even more than I hate being rejected. I just don't like hurting them.

I don't care to date anymore for a long time. I just want to be alone. Life is depressing.

You need an Aries friend.