PLEASE TELL ME WHY SCORPIO CANT LET GO

4/8/2002 8:13:59 PM | More
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Good luck with this one.........
4/9/2002 1:49:09 AM | More
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If its over why does he keep coming back????? Apparently he still loves you as evidenced by his jealousy......
Once we fall in love with someone we do have a hard time letting go..... its damn near impossible. You might want to examine what it was that made him leave in the first place. If a Scorpio leaves its because he doesnt want to get hurt........Did he have any reason to believe that this was a possibility??????
4/9/2002 10:08:37 AM | More
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BY ANY CHANCE R U AN ARIAN
4/9/2002 5:21:13 PM | More
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NO IM NOT A ARIES IM A VIRGO AND YES I DID SOMETHING TO HURT HIM BEFORE AND HE CANT LET GO OF THE PAST SO IM DEALING WITH EVERYTHING FROM THE PAST TIL NOW
4/9/2002 7:38:26 PM | More
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Scorpio is the most jealous sign in the zodiac. They also have the most sensitive attitudes in human relationships. Because they have stingers, it's especially hard for them to move forward in life. Virgos have the same problem letting go - I'm a Virgo myself and I haven't dated since 1986 because I was afraid of repeating past mistakes. Even though I'm 34, I don't care if I don't get married until I'm 50.
4/11/2002 1:18:27 AM | More
phoenix_rising

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I've fallen in love with a couple Virgo men in my life--I think they're my favorite next to Capricorns (i'm a Scorpio female). Anyway, I thought that Virgos are typically very faithful & loyal (?) I'm certainly not judging you, but I'm curious what would make a Virgo unfaithful.

As far as your Scorpio guy, he's definitely ehibiting those famous Scorpion tendencies toward jealousy and posessiveness...but I can tell you this: we Scorpios may be extremely jealous and possessive, but we almost never act that way unless we truly, deeply care for the object of these passions. However, it sounds like this Scorp guy might be a little manipulative. I need more details I think, in order to give good advice here.

4/11/2002 6:31:49 PM | More
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ATT: PHONIEX RISING MY SCORPIO WILL KNOW SOMETHING ASK YOU AND IF YOU ANSWER WRONG THEN YOU ARE LYING HE DOSE WIERD THINGS LIKE COME BY WITHOUT CALLING THEN ASK IF I HAVE COMPANY HE ALSO CHECKS THE WHOLE HOUSE TO SEE IF ANY LIGHTS ARE ON AND IF SOMETHING LOOKS A LITTLE OUY OF PLACE I GOT SOMEONE THERE AND IM HIDING HE ALSO ASK YOU THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND THEN PICKS IT APART AND BELIEVE WHAT HE WANTS TO BELIEVE HE ALSO HAS STRONG LIKES AND STRONG DISLIKES AND YOU SOMETIMES DONT KNOW HOW TO APPROACH HIM WHEN HE ACTS THIS WAY HE ALWAYS WANT ME TO TELL HIM IMISS HIM AND ILOVE HIM BUT HE RARELY DOSE THE SAME HE WILL COME OVER EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE THAN HE FLIPS BACK TO THINGS I DID IN THE PAST AND I DONT UNDERSTAND IM A VIRGO AND I CAN HOLD GRUDGES FOR ALONG TIME IF YOU DO SOMETHING TO HURT ME BUT IT YOU GET INTO MY HEART I CAN FORGIVE HE IS NOT THAT WAY. A VIRGO WILL BECOME UNFAITHFUL WHEN YOUR NOT SHOWING THEM THAT YOU CARE LACK OF COMMUNICATION AND ALWAYS BEING CRITICAL CAN ALSO DAMAGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH AVIRGO!
4/11/2002 7:42:22 PM | More
phoenix_rising

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Damn! I wrote this really long message back to you, Virgo girl, and it wouldn't post! : ( Well anyway...this one's a test and if it shows up, I'm going to write you another response...
4/11/2002 7:49:28 PM | More
phoenix_rising

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Okay, good. Now I will try to remember what I said in the message that didn't go through! : )

Alright. First of all, it sounds like this particular Scorpio guy just might have some serious problems. While it is typical of most of us to be extremely jealous and to hold major grudges, it almost sounds to me like this guy has (or is just about to) cross a serious line with the extreme actions he's taking. I certainly hope he's not the violent type, or the type to get violent with whatever guy he is imagining you're cheating on him with.

One thing I'm curious about is, how much time has he (your scorp) had to deal with the fact that you were unfaithful? I ask because if it JUST happened, it would make it a lot easier for me to understand---not necessarily JUSTIFY---but understand this way that he's acting. And another question: have you had a serious talk with your scorp in which you made it clear that you are now completely faithful to him? Sometimes we Scorpios will imagine the very worst, especially if we don't have enough information to think otherwise.

Get back to me on this and I will try to help you through it, okay?
: ) phoenix, aka Heather
4/12/2002 3:55:32 PM | More
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ATT: HEATHER I WAS UNFAITHFUL TO HIM THE FIRST YEAR WE STARTING TALKING ONLY BECAUSE HE NEVER SEEM TO ACT LIKE HE CARE HE CAUGHT ME AND I NEVER DID IT AGAIN AND I STLL HEAR ABOUT IT AND WE WERE TOGETHER FOR 3AND HALF YEARS I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I CAN LET GO AND HE CANT LET GO HEATHER I TELL YOU WHEN I FALL IN LOVE I FALL IN LOVE AND I DONT FALL IN LOVE EASY SO WHEN YOU GET ME THERE ITS KNOW TURNING BACK AND SOMETIMES I WISH THAT HE CAN GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE SO THAT WE CAN START ALL OVER AGAIN MY COWORKER IS ALSO A VIRGO AND SHE BEEN WITH HER SCORPIO FOR FIVE YEARS AND THEY HAVE THE SAME TRAITS SO PLEASE JUST WROTE BACK WITH SOME MORE ADVICE ITS IS HIGHLY APPRECIATED! CHINA
4/13/2002 5:09:09 AM | More
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Okay. This is what I think. Of course, this is just my opinion, but hopefully you'll see what I'm saying.

I feel that you and he need to sit down and have a very long talk--and it doesn't have to be a calm one, either. You *both* need to get your true and honest feelings out in the open. That means that he needs to verbally vent as much as he needs to about what happened, and you need to tell him how his un-ending suspiciousness makes you feel. Maybe he is so caught up in his own anger and inability to completely forgive you, that he hasn't even stopped to consider that he is only further damaging your relationship by constantly persecuting you. The thought of how *you* feel, might never have crossed his mind. And how you feel DOES matter--it has been quite a while since the cheating happened, and if he chose to stay with you after the fact, then he needs to accept what happened and your apology and continue the relationship, or he needs to admit that he can't or never will accept what happened. In order for your relationship to grow, you guys NEED to have this discussion.

Now, in my personal opinion, if the two of you get all of these negative feelings out into the open, and he continues to throw it in your face and peer at you under a furrowed brow (so to speak) with no evidence to support him doing so, then if I were you I would tell him, "Look, what's past has passed and it's time that you at least start trying to trust me. Otherwise, this relationship is going to stagnate and never move forward".

Even if you guys have talked about it before, I guarantee you that it needs to happen again. Scorpios can harbor resentment for a lifetime, if what caused that resentment doesn't get resolved. It's not fair or right for either one of you to go on the way you are now. Something needs to change, and if he refuses to improve his behavior, it might be time to tell him to hit the road. Do not let your life pass you by while waiting and waiting for this guy to magically grow up all of a sudden!

Like I said, I am giving this advice based on what I would do, which you may not agree with. However, I see no possible harm that could result from saying to him, "Let's talk more about this, so our relationship can actually move forward". Now if he refuses to talk about it, then he's got larger issues than just unfounded suspicion!

Hope this helps in some way; let me know what you decide to do.

phoenix_rising


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