Scorpio man is driving me CRAZY!!!

3/20/2009 6:39:38 PM | More
leobaby28

1st. Im new to DXPnet....so yay!

Ok heres the story.

I'm a Leo girl (and very much the leo...in fact a SUPER leo) and I've been talking to this Scorpio guy for a couple of months. I don't really like scorpio men, some of my close male relatives being scorpios, because of the control issue but the sexual magnetism between me and my scorpio was too strong to ignore. I jumped in definitely NOT trying to get into a relationship, just a purely sexual one. And it started off great, until he got jealous of me talking to another guy and clearly let EVERYONE know by body language and interaction with me in a public setting at a college event that I was the girl he was interested in. But I'm flirty (as leos are, and sometimes without knowing it) and his friend started talking to me and although I wasnt trying to talk to his friend, I'm not gonna turn down any male attention. Scorpio got visibly upset and subsequently started cooling on me.

So here's the problem. The fact that he got jealous really turned me on, and I started reevaluating how much I liked him or how far I was willing to take it. So after a night of AMAZING sex, I left like right away cuz I wanted to go to my own bed lol even though he wanted to cuddle for a bit. He talked to my close friend the next day and she told him that I really liked him and he acted all surprised and told her he feels like I play too many games with him or I'm trying to play him. After that conversation with her...I haven't really talked to him and I dont know what to do. Cuz now, I've completely fallen for him and want to talk to him but my fear of rejection is stopping me from doing it.

My issues are: I don't even know if he likes me enough to pursue something besides sex, the fact that he's not falling over my feet and aggressively pursuing me bothers me, and I don't even know where I stand with him, only when we have sex does he express some sort of emotion.

Are Scorpio men this infuriating??? Help!
3/20/2009 7:15:10 PM | More
Queenscorpio

84 years old female from Chicago

Sun Scorpio 0.25 Moon

Yes they are and it takes awhile for them to sort out their true feelings for you once he does, if he likes you - you better be ready because he is going to come on stronger than eva!
3/20/2009 7:34:04 PM | More
leobaby28

QueenScorpio should I just tell him how I feel and get it over with...or wait for him to come to me? The non-expressing-of-any-emotions-whatsoever is killing me!!
3/20/2009 8:09:21 PM | More
justcuriousxo

female from california  

if you liked it then you shoulda put a r

tell him. usually when a scorpio man is doing something wrong and you call it out, he'll take a step back & realize it. they don't tend to catch on to these kind of things. my bf can't usually tell i'm upset by the tone in my voice or lack of talk. hahah. so then i have to actually tell him that i'm upset with him and why.

if he feels that you're playing him, his feelings towards you might be a bit more hidden than before, not cause he doesn't feel them, but because he wouldn't want to be vulnerable with someone that isn't in it exclusively. but if he tells you he's into you, believe him. us scorps don't waste our time or mess around with that. just dont treetrunk him over lol. he might be more afraid of rejection than you are because of your flirtatiousness too, btw.
3/20/2009 8:17:15 PM | More
pathfinder

female

How is he so infuriating or driving you crazy? You were the one flirting....
3/20/2009 10:39:32 PM | More
Versuvius

female from the road  

Sun:Cancer Moon: Sagittarius Mercury:

Flirty doesn't mean we (females who flirts, lol!)don't have strong feelings towards anything. Most of the time it is the attention that we seek. I believe what infuriates Leobaby is the fact that she is seeking attention yet not getting any from the 1 person that she likes. --------> "the fact that he's not falling over my feet and aggressively pursuing me bothers me"

Leobaby, take the risk by telling him how you feel. You will never know if you dont' do something to find out. With him being jealous and all, you might just get what you want. Perhaps you can start the topic off by posting the questions "wat if i've feelings for you? what would you do?" or "maybe i like you, what would you do?" in a nonchalant way, matching your scorps coolness and mysteries.

"my bf can't usually tell i'm upset by the tone in my voice or lack of talk. hahah. so then i have to actually tell him that i'm upset with him and why."

justcurious, this happened to me and my bf too. i think scorpios generally thinks they are god and can do no wrong until somebody tells them off. lol. i was talking to him about sharing problems with each other, he told me that "men and ladies are different where men do not take their problems to their partners and can solve problems themselves." I dont' know about you gals out there, but i feel like slamming my head against the wall. Egoist? 18th century?where the wife is useless while husband bears the world on his shoulder?

i personally think communication goes both ways. it makes me wonder if all scorpios are like that and if this is the part of life that they want to be kept a secret. it's silly. wait...then again, does all men think like that?????? LOL!!

3/21/2009 4:05:54 AM | More
missmorals

female from London, UK  

My big bad planets are:

He's never going to fall at your feet that is totally the wrong attitude...realise that about Scorpio men, they WILL NOT ever be controlled regardless of how much a God you perceive yourself to be...they have to be at the top..I wouldn't give two hoots if I had Clive Owen on my arms..if he disrespected my feelings by openly flirting with someone else, I would dump him on the spot. Your looks mean jack butter to me, your character means everything!

If he has got it into his head that you are playing games with him, then this is how it will now continue unless you are straight up with him and no more flirting. If we like someone, everyone else ceases to exist for us on this planet apart from the object of our affection. You openly flirting with someone else is degrading him as a man. Not going to sit well with a scorpio at all...

I hope it does work out..but you have to come down your high horse a tad. Don't get into the power play at all...it won't last.

Stupidly enough, SCorpio/Leo mostly start with sex..to become something more concrete...although most would say this is not the way to start a new relationship. Maybe for other signs..but these two signs..Gawd..the chemistry is out of this world...

Sigh..my search for Leo continues...
3/21/2009 1:54:37 PM | More
pathfinder

female

"If he has got it into his head that you are playing games with him...." ~ missmorals

...He will never be yours.
3/22/2009 4:23:40 PM | More
justcuriousxo

female from california  

if you liked it then you shoulda put a r

Posted by Versuvius
"my bf can't usually tell i'm upset by the tone in my voice or lack of talk. hahah. so then i have to actually tell him that i'm upset with him and why."

justcurious, this happened to me and my bf too. i think scorpios generally thinks they are god and can do no wrong until somebody tells them off. lol. i was talking to him about sharing problems with each other, he told me that "men and ladies are different where men do not take their problems to their partners and can solve problems themselves." I dont' know about you gals out there, but i feel like slamming my head against the wall. Egoist? 18th century?where the wife is useless while husband bears the world on his shoulder?

i personally think communication goes both ways. it makes me wonder if all scorpios are like that and if this is the part of life that they want to be kept a secret. it's silly. wait...then again, does all men think like that?????? LOL!!


haha well im a scorpio too, its a scorp/scorp relationship. i think thats what makes it easier for me to understand. i try to put myself in his shoes when he does things and i get it.. when im upset he does the same & he understands, he just doesn't sense my feelings most of the time, as many men don't either. he sometimes thinks some of the things he does are harmless and doesn't realize it then. but like i said, if you tell them straight up, a scorpio man will usually step back, realize that he did something wrong and resolve it. unless he really didn't and its purely blown up from the others' part.
3/23/2009 2:18:31 PM | More
leobaby28

This is all amazing advice.....I'm gonna take the plunge and put myself out there...(although it sucks and I feel like a big blow to my ego is about to take place) but I do want things to work out with him.
3/23/2009 9:00:37 PM | More
pathfinder

female

"I'm gonna take the plunge ..." ~ leobaby28

cats don't have a natural affinity to water, but no one can deny the leo bravery and optimism! Go for it!

3/24/2009 10:55:18 PM | More
Queenscorpio

84 years old female from Chicago

Sun Scorpio 0.25 Moon

Yes, always tell him exactly how yo feel especially when they do something to hurt you of bother you. They respect that a lot.
3/27/2009 1:06:39 PM | More
leobaby28

I report good news lol. I told him and we're going to take it slow but he is still feeling me...so at least I'm happy about that lol

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