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3/27/2012 6:12:09 AM |
IP 
Scorp with a Saggie Moon. That's all yo
Posted by MrScorp
I know i am, but this is so hard! I am struggling with it!
Just a huge feeling of betrayal I am dealing with amongst other feelings.
I know all of the phrases and sayings that are used in times like this and I know they are true, but I can't see the wood from the trees just yet.
Being in this position definately screws up logic and rational judgement.
Don't get me wrong, I know it's a terrible idea to contact her, the thought has entered my mind to send a text saying what she's done to me, but what good would that do!
What is anyone supposed to say to that?!
Right now, as far as she knows I am doing just fine!
Awe, you're so cute. 
Look, just ride it out. Learn whatever lesson. Move on when you are ready. No one can tell you when that will be. Try not to obsess on it.
If its any consolation, when I broke up with a Virgo I literally did not put one morsel of food in my mouth for a week. But I met someone new eventually and moved on. In the end, he came back to me and said he felt 'wistful' about me. His life was a mess really but we became friends and I watched his life go from bad to worse. Very sad, really. Not saying that will happen with your Cancer but it doesn't look like you did anything wrong so you have no reason to feel like a contributor to the decisions your cancer made. |
3/27/2012 3:27:36 AM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
I know i am, but this is so hard! I am struggling with it!
Just a huge feeling of betrayal I am dealing with amongst other feelings.
I know all of the phrases and sayings that are used in times like this and I know they are true, but I can't see the wood from the trees just yet.
Being in this position definately screws up logic and rational judgement.
Don't get me wrong, I know it's a terrible idea to contact her, the thought has entered my mind to send a text saying what she's done to me, but what good would that do!
What is anyone supposed to say to that?!
Right now, as far as she knows I am doing just fine! |
3/27/2012 1:49:23 AM |
IP 
26 years old male from Cancerland, U.S.A
I'm a Cancer male. ===
You're giving her too much attention she doesn't deserve. The more you talk about her, the harder will be to forget about her, so who cares what she's doing with her boyfriend right now. I know it hurts, but it's better for you to focus on other things such as school, work, and other activities, etc.
Don't waste your time man! |
3/26/2012 11:02:05 PM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
Guys...I am really struggling with this.
I can't sleep! I feel very anxious and stressed about it all, my appetite has been shot to pieces and my stomach and chest feel very tight.
The sleeping is grinding me down. It takes me hours to get to sleep for only a short period of time!
Is this just part of a breakup? I didn't feel this bad when we split! Now that I know she is with 'him' I am in a bad place.
She got closer to him when we were still together, maybe even at least kissed him too!
I feel betrayed, lost, anxious and used.
It's 5 am here and once again a very bad nights sleep has been had!
Do I cry and try to let it all out? |
3/26/2012 4:11:22 PM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
Posted by iwin32
Once you break up with your partner, it is better to cut/stop any kind of communication. All you're doing is hurting yourself by visiting her profile.
Yeah, very true!
It was a momentarily point of weakness on my behalf! I thought i could deal with it, but it did hurt, seeing the relationship status. It kind of took my breath away!
I just need to keep busy! Maybe exercise, play my drums when i can and keep my mind off the subject in general.
What do you think about talking to people/using the site? Helpfull, or going over the same ground? Kind of raking it all up again in a way? |
3/26/2012 1:36:13 PM |
IP
26 years old male from Cancerland, U.S.A
I'm a Cancer male. ===
| Once you break up with your partner, it is better to cut/stop any kind of communication. All you're doing is hurting yourself by visiting her profile. |
3/26/2012 11:57:35 AM |
IP
3/26/2012 11:25:45 AM |
IP
Scorp with a Saggie Moon. That's all yo
Posted by MrScorp
Posted by ellessque
I am a bit concerned about the negativity. Revenge is a key trait, and i know i can get like this, but i actually do think that i can rise above all of that and not waste my time with it. At the end of the day, it will be to do with her, and i'm done with that.
Think of it as a growing opportunity on your way to becoming an eagle. The best revenge is living well. |
3/26/2012 11:18:31 AM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
Posted by ellessque
sometimes we can be quite the masochists, huh?
if i were you, i'd defriend her. really. why let that pick at your brain from time to time?
do it quietly and uneventful, nobody will even notice
Yeah, i seem to be quite good at negative things, it's good and bad i suppose? Having said that, she did win my heart and for that i don't think i ever want to see her crash and burn. She has hurt me, so yes defriending is the way to go. I know i can never trust her again.
This whole thing is still whirling around in my head, when i get bored it's bad!
Yes quietly and uneventfully is my plan, i don't want any drama.
Posted by ZipZapZoooom
Posted by MrScorp
@ZipZapZoooom - Jumped to conclusions and thought you were a Cancer! Ma bad!
Oh thats ok.. was only making sure you didnot build your rest of your life around how she's going down the hole and how you're doing way better. Let her not affect you, I do understand that there have been repercussions and that you dont want to seem mr.Happy-go-lucky, but yea... slow dissociation from her, and doing good all by yourself should help. As long as you dont let negative thoughts and feelings fuel your propelling into the skyline (all scorps go that way anyway, i'd rather prefer 'em going the good way)... yea, it shouldnt be a problem
I'm still finding it tough, but maybe this is the push i need to move on? Having a reason to dislike someone has to be good for moving on, right?
I am a bit concerned about the negativity. Revenge is a key trait, and i know i can get like this, but i actually do think that i can rise above all of that and not waste my time with it. At the end of the day, it will be to do with her, and i'm done with that. |
3/26/2012 10:41:44 AM |
IP 
Scorpio with an Aries Moon Pos
sometimes we can be quite the masochists, huh?
if i were you, i'd defriend her. really. why let that pick at your brain from time to time?
do it quietly and uneventful, nobody will even notice |
3/26/2012 10:33:50 AM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
| @ZipZapZoooom - Jumped to conclusions and thought you were a Cancer! Ma bad! |
3/26/2012 10:26:58 AM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
Posted by ZipZapZoooom
Posted by MrScorp
Posted by ZipZapZoooom
The one i was with? I'd say, he put out my fire..... He's almost recovered his scorpness, while I'm still on the road to recovery. Yea, talkin to new folks with loadsa stories(both true n otherwise) comes easily to u guys. N don't be too smug abt it?
No, i'm not being smug at all it's just an ego boost really. It makes me feel good that she appears to be unsure of this nerw guy already and not in a nasty way, just kind of like i knew i was a good boyfriend.
On that subject though, i can be very confident in the fact that any new guy will have to do very well to surpass me! I was very good to her on the whole.
And how/why is that?
And what surprises me is, your ego boost didnot come from the fact that u're naturally good at going out and meeting your mates/back in the mingling scene. It came from the fact that, Her life is going crappy. What was that?
It makes me feel good to know i was a good boyfriend. That's all.
I do also feel good for the fact that i have made contact with my old mates again and i'm enjoying going out and doing what i want to do.
I would'nt say her life is going 'crappy'
I know your obviously loyal to your sign, but try seeing things from my point of view. To be fair, i think i have every reason to feel anger towards her at the moment. This hurts! Betrayal isn't nice. Yes she 'still loves me' and doesnt want to wipe me out of her life completely, but the girl can't have it both ways, i do have some pride, and she can't expect me to be mr happy go lucky and all smiles.
When we initially split, i was fine with the whole "i'm not going to hate you" and we can still be 'cool' but now, after she has so quickly started seeing someone else, this someone who she worked with up until christmas, and the person who she was communicating with which made us late for going out on my birthday, i now think otherwise. |
3/26/2012 9:53:55 AM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
Posted by ZipZapZoooom
The one i was with? I'd say, he put out my fire..... He's almost recovered his scorpness, while I'm still on the road to recovery. Yea, talkin to new folks with loadsa stories(both true n otherwise) comes easily to u guys. N don't be too smug abt it?
No, i'm not being smug at all it's just an ego boost really. It makes me feel good that she appears to be unsure of this nerw guy already and not in a nasty way, just kind of like i knew i was a good boyfriend.
On that subject though, i can be very confident in the fact that any new guy will have to do very well to surpass me! I was very good to her on the whole.
We both put each other's fire's out in the end. She dragged me down, but she got bored of me in the first place.
It just amazes me that she can jump ship so quickly. I guess Cancer's are 'that needy' that they feel like they have to have someone all the time.
I can be pretty sure that she was communicating with this guy when we were still together, then she was just looking for the right moment to end it with me before confirming that she is with him. I hate her for that. |
3/26/2012 2:09:40 AM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
Thankyou for the kind words! Yet again i find myself on this Emotional rollercoaster...still!
I just want to add, that I have changed my hairstyle and got some new clothes, also I've had a load of compliments from women too!
When my brothers girlfriend spoke to her, she said "He looks good doesn't he" to which she replied with a "yes" also she told her that I had been going out and seeing my old mates again, and my ex then said "if only he could have done this earlier!"
The thing is...I always had it in me, maybe she put my fire out? If you know what I mean? Lost my spark.
I seem to be good at this though, would you say it's 'Scorpio transformation'? |
3/26/2012 1:28:16 AM |
IP 25 years old from Cambridge, England
I'm not too good at these 'self analysis
Yep. I suppose I was giving the last goodbye, not that I knew it at the time, It was just instinctual.
I heard that this is nothing serious and they have been out for a drink a couple of times.
My brothers girlfriend is mates with her so my bro told me this. Also she isn't even that keen apparently and misses my 'sensetive' side as he is quite different on this level.
I can't help but feel a little smug! |
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