The ex complex (hi Scorpios!) :-)

It is better to face the problem head on. Make a decision about this problem NOW. Dont give up until you come to a solution that does not mess with your balance, with him or without him.

IntriguedScorp

7/31/2012 3:09:06 PM | IP

Scorp with a Saggie Moon. That's all yo

Every man I've had a relationship with has had an "EX." What's the big deal? You either trust him or you don't.

I mean, really, how would you like it if you were friends with an ex and the guy you were dating didn't trust you enough to maintain a friendship with him?

My guess is that the closer your relationship with Scorp gets--if it gets closer--the less the ex will be an issue. You will take her place as a go-to woman. Relax. If he sleeps with his ex, then worry about it.

Two cents.

xxnightbynight

7/31/2012 3:50:02 PM | IP

Thank you so much for your input, guys! I appreciate it. He isn't shady about it... But it just irks me a bit because I know how the intentions of an ex gf can be... But I will deal with this as it comes. I just need to meditate on it a bit. Thank you again. :-)

LunarMaiden

7/31/2012 6:14:03 PM | IP

female from the fire Moon

July 11th, 2nd Decan Cancer

Act like he doesn't have an ex and he will too.

R1g0rM0rT1s

7/31/2012 6:47:26 PM | IP

words fail me

yeah...it's only if he becomes secretive about it you have to worry imo.

ArticleL

7/31/2012 7:30:43 PM | IP

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Every man I've had a relationship with has had an "EX." What's the big deal? You either trust him or you don't.

I mean, really, how would you like it if you were friends with an ex and the guy you were dating didn't trust you enough to maintain a friendship with him?

My guess is that the closer your relationship with Scorp gets--if it gets closer--the less the ex will be an issue. You will take her place as a go-to woman. Relax. If he sleeps with his ex, then worry about it.

Two cents.

ReallyNiceAriesPerson

7/31/2012 8:13:15 PM | IP

thrill seeking dare devil who loves to l

Posted by Sunrays
dont agree to be on the back burner. Ask for clarity or walk.

This. Remember you are an Aries. I forgot that for a long time and it led to my demise.

I stand to be corrected if I am way off the mark here, but I thought a Scorp could only really love one person (at a time I mean, not that he will be in love with his ex forever.)
Looking at them from the outside it seems that it's an intense love, not a 'today I love you, tomorrow we'll see' type of thing.

This is why Scorps and Aries are such a great match

xxnightbynight

7/31/2012 9:13:26 PM | IP

This. Remember you are an Aries. I forgot that for a long time and it led to my demise.

I stand to be corrected if I am way off the mark here, but I thought a Scorp could only really love one person (at a time I mean, not that he will be in love with his ex forever.)
Looking at them from the outside it seems that it's an intense love, not a 'today I love you, tomorrow we'll see' type of thing.

This is why Scorps and Aries are such a great match

That raises my question then... because if he still talks with her... and they're still friendly... what makes me think he isn't still in love with her? - I suppose I'm thinking too much into it. over analyzing can wrack any sane person's brain. - I do intend on asking for clarity... - There is no question there. It'll just be in a non-forceful or threatening way.- He is the first man in a long time that can actually take my intensity and my energy and work with it, and understand it... instead of work against it and be afraid of it. - He and I are still getting to know one another and it's quite enjoyable. - I just think if she's still in the picture it could slow things down... and I don't like slow. haha. I remember when my ex was in the picture (and he still comes in and out from time to time) - Old feelings may arise... but I have a very positive outlook on things. - Thank you all for your input. It's greatly appreciated. - lots of good vibes coming from everyone!

Sunrays

7/31/2012 9:34:25 PM | IP

female

In defense of scorps, if a scorp man wants his ex in his life in the friend capacity then he will find a way even if you dont like it. It will only hurt your relationship if you keep questioning it.
Please decide to trust him or leave. If you decide to trust then you should do it completely.

xxnightbynight

7/31/2012 10:25:22 PM | IP

Dazed - Thank you for your response. - We discussed our exes the first night we met. - They haven't been brought up in conversation since. - I just watch from afar. - I've noticed playful banter on facebook (death to facebook!) - so this is why I haven't said anything... because I have no real evidence, and honestly it really isn't my place to say, "you can't see so and so" - he's a grown man... he will make his decisions regardless of what I say.. and I'm not his mother, telling someone what to do, or who to hang out with only builds resentment. - I am just the observer.... - I will bring the subject up, but not in a threatening way. - Never that. - I have too much respect for him to do that. The jealousy is something hard for me to overcome, but when I'm with him... nothing else seems to matter so I pretty much forget about it. - I will most def watch what I say in the future though because there are times I tend to speak before I think.

Sunrays- I am choosing to trust. - Innocent until proven guilty, right? - Thank you for your replies. :-)

ReallyNiceAriesPerson

7/31/2012 11:12:55 PM | IP

thrill seeking dare devil who loves to l

I wouldn't have a problem with him talking to her/being friends etc. Playful banter, whatever.
She is his EX. He is dating YOU.

Scorps are friendly people and I think it's neat that they are still friends.
If you believe all the press about Scorps you would expect to find his ex buried at campground somewhere in the mountains.

xxnightbynight

7/31/2012 11:31:04 PM | IP

Posted by Let*It*Be
Scorps who have an ex simply means the "s" was removed...forever.

Very nicely put. :-)

PhoenixRising

7/31/2012 11:34:56 PM | IP

female from Toronto, ON

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Posted by xxnightbynight
Thank you so much for your input, guys! I appreciate it. He isn't shady about it... But it just irks me a bit because I know how the intentions of an ex gf can be... But I will deal with this as it comes. I just need to meditate on it a bit. Thank you again. :-)

What Intrigue said was spot on. Sounds like there may be some insecurities you need to hammer out, otherwise this will be an on going issue FOR YOU. As stated earlier, as you get closer his ex--no matter how fantabulous she is will be a distant memory.

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