Confused Virgo man..
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31 years old male from LA
Thank you for the encouragement! I guess once we make a decision on something we pull the hatchet and cut all the unwanted strings attached.  I only speak for myself but I've seen that in other Virgos too. I'll miss her but it's better that way. |
Posted by HatchetHarry I love virgo swag. lolol good for you Hatchet, don't let her creep back. you'll find bliss elsewhere. |
31 years old male from LA
| Thank you all! I've deleted her phone, email, FB right after we met.. I don't want her in my life anymore... If she drunk text or call me I really wouldn't know who might that be. I can't let her set up rules on me and tell me what she wants from me! May be I have missed red flags or may be I haven't. I never give her the shoes nor she knows I did that for her. I know now it was a big mistake and I'm disappointed... and when I get disappointed in someone - it's almost nothing you can do to regain my trust! It's over and I don't regret anything I've done. I did feel like a doormat - you were all correct on that! But I wasn't mad at her - I was mad at me! I don't think she's bad person... I just don't care anymore. I will not treat her like trash, I will simply remove her from my life completely. Friends huh? Hell no! I put a lot of meaning to the word Friends! Girlfriends come and go - friends are always there, ALWAYS! It was clear for me now, that she felt lonely after her break up and she was looking for someone to comfort her and put her back on her feet! And I was there for her! well not anymore! She was afraid of losing me as friend, she told me so, but that just happened! Good bye! I hope you have a nice live! I really mean that.. but stay away from me. I have learned another lesson that's why I'm not looking back with anger to the situation. It's amazing for me to see how Decan and myself think alike.. hahah it's like he knows exactly how i feel and what I am about to do. We come from the same tribe hahah! All you guys made this really easy for me with all your comments and I'm really thankful for your inputs. I feel a lot better without all the pressure on me. I'm ready to face the new day! It summer right! hahah |
female from the fire Moon
July 11th, 2nd Decan Cancer
Posted by lnana04Posted by LunarMaiden I think she was just going along for the ride. He was offering and she was taking. I think she may have had some attraction and still do, but not enough for a full fledged partnership. Here is the lesson for men. Men can carry on a sexual relationship with a woman and not be in love nor have any plans to include her in his future, while she thinks they are a couple; they aren't. Women can except dates, expensive gifts, trips, romantic gestures and still not muster up feelings above friendship and sex is out of the question. Unless she is lonely, drunk and horny she may throw him some poon. He's falling in love and thinks they are heading toward a relationship, they aren't! |
female from the fire Moon
July 11th, 2nd Decan Cancer
| So you fed the bull and bought her expensive shoes and all you got was a tread on DXPnet. Did she tell you she thought of you as just a friend when you were doing all those things? Somehow you missed some red flags. Well the positive side to this is that you are much wiser. I hope you are not jaded and will continue to seek a better partner. |
Virgo Rising, Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon
| Your right, I full field my job of giving realistic point of view, but it’s not my job or nature to be pushy with my point. People are gonna do what they want to do, and listen to what they want to hear. But it is your job to be bold and intense, so you should feel obligated to fill that need when it is missing. (at the risk of being misunderstood, I seriously mean that with a light heart) It may also be my job to be jolly and optimistic, so I don’t think this was a terrible out come. Because it would be far worse if she accepted his feelings and stringed him a long for a bit before she broke his heart. He may be a lucky man. But it did seem as though he felt he had something to get out of his heart, which was as much for himself as it was for her. so I have no problem endorsing that idea, because it can give him the opportunity to let go without regret. If he chooses to see it that way. And Bravo for going balls out, much respect! And it may be, that the most valuable piece of advice to be gained from the Taurus in this situation can be learned from the GIF thread…  Sorry Gemini moon raised by two Gemini parents, I only know how to use humor to try and make people feel better  , sometimes I can just silently stand next to them to show support, but that can get awkward sometimes. :$ |
Virgo Rising, Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon
Posted by HatchetHarryI'm so sorry. I don't think you made a mistakes, you took a chance and if you got a different result you wouldn't have these regrets. From everything you said, she wasn't very clear, so how can you get what she was saying. If her answer was clear, there was no.. I'm not sure or maybe I just don't know. Then I see no problem with walking away with your dignity. She may have seen you as a backup plan... but it sounds like she sort of knew that. But she never tried to cross the line, without being sure of it, and it sounds like she never tried to hurt you. It just happen's sometimes, and again I'm really sorry! |
31 years old male from LA
| Did not worked as planned. Just friends and blah-blah-blah. That feeling in her gut won't change according to her. She even got upset thinking that I don't get was she was saying... well I did! I didn't take it as bad as I was thinking. May be that's yet to come dunno but I can't be her friend anymore! And run like a puppy after her when she feels like it. Not going to happen! I do have feelings for her but I also feel like I'm wasting my time and I'm being used. No thanks! I think I've made a big mistake here. I've been nothing but true and real with her. I was really thinking that she is different but... No! I guess I'm just disappointed! Big time. Thank you all. Let me see your opinions? |
42 years old female from A Lush Meadow, US of A
In the dead of night, it's the anti-sig.
| Double dipped. Welcome to not only cautious but uber cautious. Good luck Virgo! |
31 years old male from LA
| First I want to thank you all for your comments and I've learned quite a lot! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! No time to waste! I've called her today and I said that I need to see her. She is free tomorrow so I'll take her to one of the best restaurants in the city.. lay it all out. This is true that I shouldn't have taken her NO in the past so passively. But this is now! And I'll make this work as I'm the one to decide what happens now... Decan, thank you for the hint, I'll make sure she'll have the best chocolate cake on the menu I will listen to you and I'm very thankful for your effort to help me. Robin, I think your observations hit the jackpot! I can't believe that I've missed all the hints from her on that-she would always tell me if any girl is looking at me or ask what was I doing last night with my friends... Caligula, I really don't know her Venus sign sorry but it was interesting to read your personal experience on the same situation! I've learn a lot from you posts and see some of the things I did wrong. Greatly appreciated. Doubletrouble & Nala - Thank you for the nice words & encouragement! Well as I said! The time is now! I'll let you know what happen. |
