Taurus & Space

MzDiana
Posted by taurusguy
When I ask for space den I feel suffocated and have no room to breath.I need some time to sort myself and my other stuff and when I am done I will come back.Asking me every time what the problem is going to drive me crazy.Men don't feel better by talking about problems and dis is something that women need to understand.If you have a concrete practical solution to offer us den it would be really helpful but just poking in and resolving the mystery of what is bugging us and den asking zillion questions about is going to make it no good.
I wud be pissed if I have problems from work and out of curiosity my partner keeps asking what the matter is and den taking good 15 minutes to explain her the problem,answering all her investigation questions and finally she responding by saying don't worry everything will be fine.Isn't it crazy.I would definitely shut the next time if it was her first time because it literally won't help at all.Its like you don't have solution to my problem and still wasting time and energy to analyze and investigate the problem is insane.


I agree and disagree. Women and men speak different languages handle problems differently. Sometimes, she wants to know if MAYBE it is something she can help with. Usually if it is something a little technical, she has confidence that you will work it out. She wants to know that her MAN is very much capable..after all we usually do not get a glimpse into your world of work. Now, when we talk things out we either feel better, get advice or come up with a solution just by voicing it out. Communication is one more vehicle for a woman to grow closer to her man.
taurusguy
When I ask for space den I feel suffocated and have no room to breath.I need some time to sort myself and my other stuff and when I am done I will come back.Asking me every time what the problem is going to drive me crazy.Men don't feel better by talking about problems and dis is something that women need to understand.If you have a concrete practical solution to offer us den it would be really helpful but just poking in and resolving the mystery of what is bugging us and den asking zillion questions about is going to make it no good.
I wud be pissed if I have problems from work and out of curiosity my partner keeps asking what the matter is and den taking good 15 minutes to explain her the problem,answering all her investigation questions and finally she responding by saying don't worry everything will be fine.Isn't it crazy.I would definitely shut the next time if it was her first time because it literally won't help at all.Its like you don't have solution to my problem and still wasting time and energy to analyze and investigate the problem is insane.
Thetis
"granted i like being the woman on top"

I get ya.

Seriously I do know what you mean, who cares about who has the power or whatever as long as you're both happy and having fun. I have no desire to control a man at all, and if he wants to be dominant fine, if anything it's a turn-on! I'm not into wishy-washy men at all and I have to admit, if they allow me to walk all over them then chances are I will. Not deliberately tho lol.

A man has to be able to stand up to me, tell me "no" if I need to hear it and not let me win every argument, if I'm wrong I need to be told I'm wrong.



phoenixblaze26
agreed completely, granted i like being the woman on top, but i wanna also be the little woman. cuddle miss, hug me, kiss me, love me... i dont need to be that muscle gf walking around with some whipped guy. thats really pathetic, i want a man whos a real man, n thats the way it should be.
Thetis
That is precisely how I am PB, not saying women can't be strong and independent and all that I just think men should be men and women should be women, feminine etc. as you said.

I'm happiest in a relationship where I can support a man, but feel appreciated, valued and respected for doing so.

Why everyone wants to "wear the trousers" nowadays is beyond me.
phoenixblaze26
same here, pride is high on the taurus personality scale. pride, stubborn, jealous (when provoked. I mean personaly as a female, i do believe in the old tradtional sense of 'the man takes care of it', not saying my input isnt added into every detail, but sometimes its nice to feel like a woman. like seriously the 1950s come home to your wife and treat her as a queen tv drama, totally a fan. like sometimes its nice to feel like an actual woman, in the age where everyones doing it themselves. like i dont wanna be the man in the relationship, thats HIS job, im here to be femmine and complete the balance. somethings u just gotta respect and hey be happy hes asking u, that means he finds ur opinion valid and useful. last thing we want is someone useless.... like the guy at dunkin donuts who never get ur order right even if u say it 25 times!
Thetis
"taurus men usually wanna be the man in the relationship"

I think that's exactly it, he wants to be the one to resolve the issues in his life, and I totally respect that. I'm not saying he's too proud to ask for my help, but it does appear to be only as a last resort or where he is really struggling. I think it's more about having a sense of pride in resolving something for yourself - which I understand and admire.

phoenixblaze26
see exactly! never help us unless we ask, and when we ask it's usually when we really can't figure it out. so here his problem and try to solve it in an organized fashion and let him finish it up. taurus men usually wanna be the man in the relationship, so help out n then watch what he does with the rest. after that its smooth sailing and he'll probably take u out for a victory dinner lolz!
Thetis
lol thanks guys, I am officially chilled.

TB no doubt he will too, I actually came into work today to find an e-mail from him asking for.......yes you guessed it, help with something lol. I'll help him, then back off again, it's up to him to keep in touch as I've already told him - that way I know I'm not annoying him or making him feel pressured. I just like to be able to check in and say hey that's all, it's not a clingy thing, but I am resisting the urge.



phoenixblaze26
lolz ur a pisces, thats where ur problem is. From what i've seen about pisces women, you're probably havingthe one of ur clingy moods. just chill, the last thing a taurus wants is stress. even tho it sucks and u really wanna be there to help, just back off and put ur efforts else where. We're tempermental sometimes so just leave it be. the only one who can solve our problems is typically us...unless we ask for help.
Thetis
That is a good saying PB, and one I can attest to myself. I'm a very freedom loving Piscean (oodles of Aquarius in my chart) so I dig.

I just have a tendency to sometimes take these things personally - for which I blame my Pisces sun!

phoenixblaze26
personally when i ask for space, it means i havent gotten enough room to breath. so it just usually means leave me alone and i'll come back to u. only saying goes something about set it free and if it comes back its urs?
Thetis
Thanks everyone, we're still in touch and I now know this has nothing to do with me, he has some serious butter to sort out and needs to do it on his own, which is fair enough.

MIA I did not crowd him, trust me on that. If anything he was the one doing the crowding lol there were times I had to say look I just actually fancy some "me time" tonight can we make it another night. He wanted to come over almost all the time, wanted things to move at a faster pace - I said look you have some butter going on why the big rush? Let it go where it wants to go, we're both happy and feel secure in the relationship so why must everything progress at the speed of light.

I'm good friends with his sister who has confirmed also he is in the midst of some heavy butter she says this is how he gets sometimes he shuts everyone out including his own family so not to take it personally and wait it out - he'll be back once he's cleared his head and sorted his butter.

And I've left it up to him to make contact, if he wants, which he has.

Thanks though guys much appreciated.
ZooYork831
A stubborn breed are we not...?

try not to think about it. give it time and he'll come running home
houstonpeach74
when we say we need space, take that at face value. don't pester and don't try to help. we are proud people and will ask for help when we truly need it.
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