What Taurus male thinks of Scorpio females

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3/20/2013 3:35:41 AM | More
AreTwoFour

female

R24 ScorpSun,SagMoon,AquaAsc,SagVenus,Vi

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
I've figured the problem out though (I think). Let me know if this makes sense. I really think I've stumbled upon a deep insight here:
Neither sign wants to lose the control. Its a balance of power thing. When I am chickeny and confident, and even ready to approach her, I can tell she is nervous and feeling out of control. I gain my control and power by *waiting* things out, by *not* pursuing and being passive. The *result* of this delaying is that she (being naturally assertive/aggressive) is utterly confused about how I feel, and she will get a little dodgy (her dodginess is really easy to read - she gets on the phone when she walks by, etc. - total prop - still staring right at me). Now when I feed her ego by showing her how bad I want her - giving her that sexual energy, she charges in so aggressively, that *I* get scared and shut down. As a bull, I naturally just take things SOOOOOO SLOOOOOOOOW that this assertiveness just causes me to duck out, and I become dodgy and unapproachable. After she did the sexy walk today, I hid under my monitor for the last hour of work. No goodbye staredown; I felt bad LOL.

Does that make sense? From my POV, I think this describes one of the fundamental issues (and problems) in this Taurus/Scorpio mating game.


I don't think it is a control thing from her, but you have that male ego which turns it into that. Its just probably her thinking "I feel something going on here, Imma check it out and see" and you interpreting that as her trying to capture you or something
3/20/2013 3:42:28 AM | More
AreTwoFour

female

R24 ScorpSun,SagMoon,AquaAsc,SagVenus,Vi

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
AreTwoFour - one last thing...sorry for all the blather....

You wrote: But be careful what you wish for

>>>Spoken like every discussion of Scorpio I've read. They all say basically "do not spread around with this woman if your intentions are not sincere". And that's the reality right there. At the end of the day, what am I really doing? I've decided I just can't pursue it (esp. if she's in a relationship), and she is a real person with sensitive emotions. So testing her with all these signals is deadly, isn't it? My ultimate goal of reeling her in is just to express to her that I think she is the sexiest most precious thing I have ever set my eyes on, and that it *sucks* that we cannot be together (I'd probably risk losing my job just to let her know that). If we ever get to that point of sharing our feelings, and I pull this sort of romantic tragedy angle, what are the chances my ass is going to get stung? I'm feeling like chances are 60% or greater....Especially if I lure her in with lusty signals; if I don't intend to sleep with her, isn't it just hurtful to convey my lust for her?....At the least its a tease. I've had problems with being a tease (apparently its my venus in gemini) and leading women on the past. I vowed not to do it again after a really bad situation, but its definitely a part of my nature....


That probably won't get you stung because you are being honest. Most scorps respect that. What turns on the crazy is someone knowing that they don't want something meaningful but leading me on and on, because a lot a scorps can be devoted and sacrificing (IF they love you)
3/20/2013 4:55:20 AM | More
AreTwoFour

female

R24 ScorpSun,SagMoon,AquaAsc,SagVenus,Vi

Posted by scorchedearth
Posted by AreTwoFour
Posted by scorchedearth
TLS, i'm sorry if i hurt your feelings when i said that. that wasn't my intention. i'm a really blunt person and sometimes it gets me in trouble.

my thing is really that your feelings are at an obsessive degree and that can get really unsafe really quickly. you're building this girl up in your head and have written about how scorpios are our soul mates when you don't even know her. in truth, you could take her out to coffee and be so bored you don't even want to finish the date. you know nothing about this girl. you're just allowing your fixation to make decisions for you.

you could always talk to her and ask her on a date. you might take her out a few times and realize there's no chemistry at all.


He sounds like a scorpio



i've felt that way about girls before but those are the girls that i slow it down and start a friendship with first. i don't let my scorpio bits win. no sir!

you have to control those feelings or they can take on a life of their own. that can end up really unsafe. as i said.


My scorpio bits usually win, sadly... lol (not) *sigh*
3/20/2013 5:03:06 AM | More
AreTwoFour

female

R24 ScorpSun,SagMoon,AquaAsc,SagVenus,Vi

Posted by AreTwoFour
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
I've figured the problem out though (I think). Let me know if this makes sense. I really think I've stumbled upon a deep insight here:
Neither sign wants to lose the control. Its a balance of power thing. When I am chickeny and confident, and even ready to approach her, I can tell she is nervous and feeling out of control. I gain my control and power by *waiting* things out, by *not* pursuing and being passive. The *result* of this delaying is that she (being naturally assertive/aggressive) is utterly confused about how I feel, and she will get a little dodgy (her dodginess is really easy to read - she gets on the phone when she walks by, etc. - total prop - still staring right at me). Now when I feed her ego by showing her how bad I want her - giving her that sexual energy, she charges in so aggressively, that *I* get scared and shut down. As a bull, I naturally just take things SOOOOOO SLOOOOOOOOW that this assertiveness just causes me to duck out, and I become dodgy and unapproachable. After she did the sexy walk today, I hid under my monitor for the last hour of work. No goodbye staredown; I felt bad LOL.

Does that make sense? From my POV, I think this describes one of the fundamental issues (and problems) in this Taurus/Scorpio mating game.


I don't think it is a control thing from her, but you have that male ego which turns it into that. Its just probably her thinking "I feel something going on here, Imma check it out and see" and you interpreting that as her trying to capture you or something


Nevermind... cuz that is what we want in a way. Capture you, Yes. Dominate, not really. We might try, but a scorp woman wants a man to be a man.
3/21/2013 12:42:44 AM | More
TaurusLovesScorpio



Sun - Taurus 23.59 Moon -

Posted by 87scorpio
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

This is true. I think that this is where scorps get their "sting" reputation. I have had the experience with too many men, where I have been almost fooled into thinking they want something more intimate (which is what I desire as a scorpio) and then as soon as they get what they want (the sex) then they are off, and that when I personally, feel the need to sting. I have been tricked and usually have to make myself feel better and take back some control rather than being left feeling used.

I don't know if it is the same for other scorpio women, but its these experiences for me, that make it so difficult to open up to new men, and these sorts of feelings (as you get with scorp/bulls) that sometimes can feel too good to be true in a sense. I have to play the games myself to test if they are truly interested in getting to know me better, or whether it is just a sexual magnetism that is going on.

That's my input anyway...


So much in here resonates with the experience with this Scorpio girl. First, I feel she's definitely been conditioned by her experiences with other men to a really significant degree. She seems like she sees men as only wanting sex. The crazy part is that, given that she's in a relationship, that's not what I'm wanting. I really actually just wanted to get to know her; I can tell there is such an amazing person inside of that shell. With the kind of feelings that I've had over this girl, even if it isn't in the cards for now, I can imagine myself meeting up with her when we are old and gray, and falling in love then. What you said about playing games and testing is crazy; she is playing those, I am playing those for the same reasons you mention, and we are both kinda failing each other's tests. I know I am failing her's. I have a dilemma. Usually when women try to use their sex powers on me (Leos are the biggest culprits), like the bent over cleavage flash or whatever, I look them straight in the eye to show them I'm different. I don't want to reinforce the perverted male stereotype. But with this girl, I just can't maintain the eye-contact; it is too intense. So I *have* to look at her waist or some part of her body, and she interprets that as totally sexual. In fact, I project the sexuality with the look bc I know it turns her on so
3/21/2013 1:45:13 AM | More
TaurusLovesScorpio



Sun - Taurus 23.59 Moon -

Closing thoughts...

I think this one has pretty much fizzled out for her....which is heartbreaking really, but probably for the best given circumstances. Yesterday I boosted her ego as I said, gave her the sexy looks, and today she is super confident and didn't really even glance my way much at all. Ouch. Its become a game of dominance, without any real trust, and she's gonna take that confidence and run with it. Its probably good that we didn't have that convo; I'm sure attraction would've just increased and put us in a worse spot. I'm honestly going to try to let this one go and not even look her way anymore. It'll be hard, I ordered a scorpion paperweight and I'm going to put it on my desk and stare at it every time I think about looking at her...lol. Sorry, symbolic s h i t like that helps me to adjust my compulsive behaviors.

Strangest thing happened….Had a kind of Jungian synchronicity occur when driving home today. A female friend of mine makes me listen to her girly music and I was playing the xx album she is pushing on me ("coexist"). There's a song on there I was listening to where the lyrics really described how things have went in this stare affair – how things had kinda gotten hopeless. As I was listening, a car cut in front of me with a giant scorpion bumper sticker (no words). I’m going to take that as a sign…I’ve never seen a scorpion on a bumper sticker before.

3/21/2013 1:46:08 AM | More
TaurusLovesScorpio



Sun - Taurus 23.59 Moon -

(continued...)

- On Obsessive Love - I think I'm a fan. There's something in me that wants a chick to boil my rabbit. I can see how this would be scary for a woman if a man is obsessive, but I'm not really worried about it. If I came into work at night and found this girl rummaging through my desk, I'd be like "Wait! Don't run! I understand. And I love you too!" hahahahaha....I'm sorry. I know this won't go over well with some, but truth is I've already seen her obsessive nature. This girl has hawked me more than any other woman ever; I can see a slight craziness in those eyes and honestly it turns me on. Its adorable. Just being looked at by a woman like that, who is that aggressive to just put you right in her sights like you are her prey - that feeling that this woman really knows what she wants and *you* are it - it was SO flattering.

- On my expression here – I’m glad I had somewhere to channel some of this. And really you folks just caught the tail-end of it. I was rolling down that river euphoric for a WHILE. And honestly it was divine. In my teenage years I tried every drug. Nothing can compare to this. I still don’t know whether this came from the power of this girl, the chemistry betw. the signs or what, but it is something DIFFERENT. I’m glad I got slapped with a paddle or two before I rowed over the waterfall and dashed against the rocks, but this experience has opened me up emotionally and healed me in some ways. Just the confidence boost to be desired by such a powerful woman is something I will treasure forever. I’m going to be taking some time and using this experience to inspire my music; it is exactly what I needed.

3/21/2013 1:47:41 AM | More
TaurusLovesScorpio



Sun - Taurus 23.59 Moon -

(continued...)

- I still want to catch a Scorpion. The love and interest I’ve felt for this specific scorp, which can’t be pursued, I’m going to apply generally to the archetypal Scorpio woman and just continue to try to understand her so I’ll be ready one day. I’m kinda obligated to give this one Sag girl a try who I’ve been talking to through all this. If that doesn’t work out, I’m going hunting. I may trot on over to the Scorpio den to ask questions and get more pointers. Some time while I am here on this earth, I have to experience this kind of love. I want to thank the Scorps in this thread who have given their insight. Its been tremendously helpful (not to mention flattering) and has convinced me even moreso that there are DEEP unexplored similarities betw. Scorp and Taurus. For years I’ve been dating these Cancers and Virgos and its just not doing it for me. Leos are very attractive to me and I love their sexuality as well, but what I’m really looking for is that *depth* of mental connection and emotion (and the bonus of looking into magical eyes while having freaky mystical soul-melding sex doesn’t hurt either…lol). I feel like I can really relate to this sign mentally and I’m pissed that I didn’t’ learn this sooner. Not sure where you female Scorps hide out there in the real world. My best male friends have always been Scorpios and they impress the hell out of me. I talk for hours on the phone with my male scorp friends about the deepest s h i t. I have just NEVER met a Scorpio woman.

TLS
3/21/2013 1:57:31 AM | More
TaurusLovesScorpio



Sun - Taurus 23.59 Moon -

AreTwoFour wrote: "Many scorps are celibate until we find that strange, mystical vibe that forms a connection/attraction with someone. When that happens, we want to see where that goes. Shallow unmeaningful sex is disappointing for scorps, and we may have a promiscuous phase in our youth (or not) and learn that, thus the celibacy until we can find it with someone who can transcend the mere physical experience. That is more important that the performance, the position, the duration, or any kinkiness (which is not necessary) or any mechanical aspect of the sex act itself. If I am feeling that connection and wanting that person oh so bad, that I am burning for them night after night, and I can tell they want me the same way, boy oh boy, when it finally happens!.. But then I can almost feel their inner consciousness, their intentions, fears, anger, love, thoughts and their primal hidden animal side, and that is what I want from sex. A connection. Its how I get to know the person, really know them. If I don't feel any of that, its just a physical experience. Meh, I could have just done it myself in the shower or something..."

>>>>I just wanted to acknowledge this as one of the greatest things I've ever read. If that is not just idealistic, but *actually* true, that's spread i n g amazing.

TLS
3/21/2013 11:47:40 AM | More
AreTwoFour

female

R24 ScorpSun,SagMoon,AquaAsc,SagVenus,Vi

Posted by IntriguedScorp
BTW. Listen to AreTwo. She's saying it ALL
xoxo
3/21/2013 12:36:14 PM | More
AreTwoFour

female

R24 ScorpSun,SagMoon,AquaAsc,SagVenus,Vi

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Closing thoughts...

I think this one has pretty much fizzled out for her....which is heartbreaking really, but probably for the best given circumstances. Yesterday I boosted her ego as I said, gave her the sexy looks, and today she is super confident and didn't really even glance my way much at all. Ouch. Its become a game of dominance, without any real trust, and she's gonna take that confidence and run with it. Its probably good that we didn't have that convo; I'm sure attraction would've just increased and put us in a worse spot. I'm honestly going to try to let this one go and not even look her way anymore. It'll be hard, I ordered a scorpion paperweight and I'm going to put it on my desk and stare at it every time I think about looking at her...lol. Sorry, symbolic s h i t like that helps me to adjust my compulsive behaviors.

Strangest thing happened….Had a kind of Jungian synchronicity occur when driving home today. A female friend of mine makes me listen to her girly music and I was playing the xx album she is pushing on me ("coexist"). There's a song on there I was listening to where the lyrics really described how things have went in this stare affair – how things had kinda gotten hopeless. As I was listening, a car cut in front of me with a giant scorpion bumper sticker (no words). I’m going to take that as a sign…I’ve never seen a scorpion on a bumper sticker before.


I didn't know she was in a relationship. That puts a different spin on it altogether. She might be wildly attracted, flirt mentally/nonverbally, fantasize, but I doubt she will actually cheat on her S/O. Unless he is cheating on her. You wouldn't want to be a revenge treetrunk anyway. She may want to explore a friendship of establish a rapport with you anyway... for now. But she may be trying to block you because who knows or not whether she is thinking obsessively about you but is trying to refocus on her current relationship. I have done this

"Jungian syncronicity" happens when there are connections like that. Too weird to describe. Not every relationship has that. I had it with my 1st love (fellow scorp) a cancer ex, aries ex, the leo ex. Others I've felt this, but nothing ever happened so I don't know their signs. And usually it didn't happen because I was in a relationship, or I knew the guy was, so I blocked it the best I could. Just weird as he

3/21/2013 7:05:43 PM | More
TaurusLovesScorpio



Sun - Taurus 23.59 Moon -

I can see the rapport thing. As of this morning, I dont' feel blocked. 87scorp's comment was prophetic. I went in today; ignored her on two passings. Then I went into the cafeteria. She was in there, in line for an omelette. I went to get my usual oatmeal about 20 feet away from her. She looks over, sees me, and walks over to get oatmeal. Standing there 4 feet across from me - both of us facing each other. LOL, she changed her breakfast choice to creep over! I didn't look at her at all (as I'm in ignore mode). Now she's back to constant staring at every pass. I am *so* confused.

I bounce my eyes off her real quick and every time she's looking. She did this other move - I wonder if this also is in the Scorpio bag of tricks. I'm no longer staring, buuuuuut, she has a really nice figure and when she was walking away (hips swinging), I did soak it in. She INSTANTLY whipped her head back 180 degrees, and looks right in my eyes. TOTALLY caught me. She is a ninja; it was SO FAST - faster than I could move my eyeballs....Do Scorpios test people that hard? I could only laugh after getting busted like that. I've never seen a woman do such a thing.

How does this all end? And how serious is the Scorpio obsession? Is it something they can turn off? Its only mentioned in passing on the sites and in the books I've read. Can I get some details on this?
3/22/2013 12:57:48 AM | More
TaurusLovesScorpio



Sun - Taurus 23.59 Moon -

I honestly would do this if she did not have a man. I just know if we go down that road and she has a man (maybe even kids), I could do some major damage to her relationship/family. I started a friendship thing with my best friend's Leo wife. It was after my divorce a few years ago and I was in a bad spot. She helped em out alot, but then started to like me and really tried to escalate things, culminating in her actually grabbing my crotch one day. I shut it down completely, but the whole situation got really messy, and really hurt their family. I take alot of the blame for entertaining what I knew was an emotional kind of intimacy that she should have only had with him. I've never been able to maintain a simple "friendship" with a woman ever; it always seems to heat up....
3/22/2013 1:34:48 AM | More
MeowScorpii

female

A sweet Scorpio. The garden k

Can I just say, thank you so much for posting this. I can't ever tell you how happy that made me feel..to see the relationship from a male's perspective. I'm a Scorpio female and I've been with my Taurus boyfriend for nearly two years now. It's by FAR in my opinion, one of the best astrological matches. We never fight, as popular astrology websites warn- because we can find absolutely nothing to fight about. Scorpio's get a reputation for being controlling women that pack a powerful sting -all the time-. And let me tell you, I am living proof that in our breed runs a streak of sweetness and compromise. Don't ever be afraid of this Scorpio that you've fallen for because if she were to truly fall in love and care about you she wouldn't be dangerous. She wouldn't hurt you, if she was angry she would express it to you in the gentlest of ways- just for the fear that the tone of her voice may slightly hurt your feelings.
Those sad eyes you were talking about aren't always so sad, it comes from a deep rooted passion that simmers inside of us. Sometimes it may swallow us whole and depress us, and other times it blossoms and we create things of beauty- and all those close to us flourish with along with our out pour of passion. Anyways, I agree that you should keep your element of mystery- mystery is sexy to us. Eye contact is really attractive as well, fearlessness is riveting- but vulnerability is so real. I hope all goes well for the two of you, you would both end up very happy .
3/22/2013 2:10:25 AM | More
Tommycat

male from Santa Monica, CA  United States  

I'm a free spirit (or an inexpensive one

Some of the most beautiful, most talented and warmest women I have known have been Scorpios. I wish you and your bf the very best of luck, love and joy.
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