How to tell if a Virgo guy DOESN'T like you.

lovemedead84
I've been reading about signs to look for if a Virgo man does like you, but what about the signs that he doesn't? If it isn't obvious, I'm a Cancer girl having problems with a Virgo crush. We work together and just started "talking" a month ago. It was me who gave my number to him, and he text me. He initiated the texting for 4 days straight after that, but then that was it. It was me doing all the initiating. He hates talking on the phone btw, so all we do is text. He hardly says anything through the text that can keep a conversation going so it's akward when I'm typing these long paragraphs and all he has to respond with is two words! I told him how I felt about him which was only that I do like him, and I asked him what he thought about me and he said he liked me a little but didn't know too well. I've been feeling as though he's been playing head games with me, he acts cold towards me at work. Sometimes I feel as though I don't even exist, yet I get the "Virgo stare" if that's what you want to call it. I told him how I feel like he doesn't talk to me or doesn't want me around and I don't want to look stupid talking to someone who isn't interested in me the same way I'm interested in them. He said I don't look stupid, I'm not bothering him, and he doesn't play head games with people because he thinks they are stupid. He says this yet I feel the exact opposite. I've gave him plenty of opportunity to say "Hey, go away". People think Cancers are clingy, I feel that is the exact opposite. If you tell me to go away, I'll be gone so fast you'd wonder if I was actually there. I told him I feel as though he's stringing me along, knowing that I like him. If he's trying to protect my feelings, don't because I appreciate honesty to someone protecting my feelings. Every time and I mean everytime I ask him to hang out, it's always something. I've been asking him to hang out since the first day I started talking to him, that's actually what my note said when I gave him my phone number. I said "I'd like to hang out sometime, if you want..here's my phone number". When I ask, first it's "Umm not sure. I work a lot, I'm busy, I have plans later, etc" I asked him if he wanted to hang out on Halloween and he said he wasn't sure, so I said think about it and I'd get back to him. So when I did, he said he thought about it but he's really busy that entire day. So finally the first time he says we're going to hang out, he bails! He doesn't call to tell me things changed!
lovemedead84
I text him that day and asked what time we were hanging out. He didn't respond. I text him a few hours later saying, if you changed your mind atleast let me know. No response. So late that night, I was hurt and upset so I text "I like a lot of things, but being stood up is not one of them. Wow I really am stupid...bye!" So that next day at work, I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and asked him what happened, he said he got really busy, didn't text anyone that day but when I sent him that b!tterty text, he said whatever. I don't see how the text was b!tterty, especially considering the circumstances under which they were sent but I did apologize for it. I told him I didn't mean for it to sound mean, I was just hurt because I feel like he's just playing games with me. (That's when he said he doesn't play games). So this Saturday I asked him if he wanted to hang out the following sunday and he said he had a DR. Appoinment. I didn't believe him. Why? Because I don't know if ANY drs office that opens on Sunday, except for the hospital! I didn't accuse him of lying, I just let it be. But why lie? I mean, if he doesn't like him..I told him to tell me directly, be up front and I will leave you alone. So what is the deal? We are both 20 btw. Well I'm 21. And I keep hearing about these fake charming Virgo guys that reel you in and leave you high and dry. Maybe this has to do with age, because my Virgo has been anything but flirty and charming lol. He acts like a regular guy for his age. I haven't text him since Saturday, and I'm thinking of giving him like a week or 2 of space, and slowly coming back in because I want a direct answer for him but if he's truly analyzing I don't want to nag and suffocate him.
Cajunspirit
What is it with the influx of Cancer women these past few weeks?
How very interesting...

1. Virgos don't like to spend money frivolously, so we'd skimp on text-ing and calling and save ourselves some cash
2. If we don't like you we won't bother to stare at you
3. Virgos like to take things slow, much to Cancerian delight. So stop thinking he's like those Aries or Geminis from high school who just approach you and try to immediately claim you
4. His cold attitude in work just means he is feeling you out
5. Stop overanalysing
Cajunspirit
Posted by lovemedead84
I text "I like a lot of things, but being stood up is not one of them. Wow I really am stupid...bye!" So that next day at work, I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and asked him what happened, he said he got really busy, didn't text anyone that day but when I sent him that b!tterty text, he said whatever. I don't see how the text was b!tterty, especially considering the circumstances under which they were sent but I did apologize for it. I told him I didn't mean for it to sound mean, I was just hurt because I feel like he's just playing games with me. (That's when he said he doesn't play games). So this Saturday I asked him if he wanted to hang out the following sunday and he said he had a DR. Appoinment.


6. Don't be demanding, he will accommodate you on his own time when he is ready
7. Virgos show they like you by presenting interest in your life, health and self improvement. The more he criticises you the better
8. When is his birthday?
9. You're trying too hard, sounds like you are chasing him
10. Have faith, slow down and let things happen naturally
LeGendary ViRGo


this is y virgos should stick virgos

and the rest of the signs stick with there element like cancer with Scorpio or Pisces lmfao
LeGendary ViRGo
Posted by tuscan_sun
Irrelevant, but LV your are so adorable (2nd picture on your page). Carry on.


awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww thank you lmfao
lovemedead84
Posted by Cajunspirit
What is it with the influx of Cancer women these past few weeks?
How very interesting...

1. Virgos don't like to spend money frivolously, so we'd skimp on text-ing and calling and save ourselves some cash
2. If we don't like you we won't bother to stare at you
3. Virgos like to take things slow, much to Cancerian delight. So stop thinking he's like those Aries or Geminis from high school who just approach you and try to immediately claim you
4. His cold attitude in work just means he is feeling you out
5. Stop overanalysing



1. Makes sense but you'd think I could atleast get a 2 minute phone call hello, especially if he liked me.
2. The only time I feel that he likes me is when he stares at me, and it makes me melt. Doesn't last long because he's back to being cold.
3. I don't know if this is a Cancer thing, or if it's just me but I can be the most patient person ever and I am more than willing to be patient for a Virgo. My thing however, is that I will only be patient for someone who I can atleast tell is into me a little bit you know? Because I don't want to sit around here being patient, and looking stupid to come and find out someone doesn't even like me. If he could be direct for one second and let me know there is something there, I will be satified, be patient and I wouldn't question anymore.
4. What do you mean he's feeling me out? Seeing how I would react to him being cold or something?
5. I do overanalyze I must admit, I guess that's a Cancer trait. However, it's rather ironic since Virgos are known for their analyzing.
lovemedead84
Posted by Cajunspirit
Posted by lovemedead84
I text "I like a lot of things, but being stood up is not one of them. Wow I really am stupid...bye!" So that next day at work, I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and asked him what happened, he said he got really busy, didn't text anyone that day but when I sent him that b!tterty text, he said whatever. I don't see how the text was b!tterty, especially considering the circumstances under which they were sent but I did apologize for it. I told him I didn't mean for it to sound mean, I was just hurt because I feel like he's just playing games with me. (That's when he said he doesn't play games). So this Saturday I asked him if he wanted to hang out the following sunday and he said he had a DR. Appoinment.


6. Don't be demanding, he will accommodate you on his own time when he is ready
7. Virgos show they like you by presenting interest in your life, health and self improvement. The more he criticises you the better
8. When is his birthday?
9. You're trying too hard, sounds like you are chasing him
10. Have faith, slow down and let things happen naturally


6. I don't want to come off as demanding, and I have been watching what I say to him because I know they do take in EVERY detail. The only thing I want from him is to know we are on the same page. I can go with the flow, I dated an Aquarius and I've learned to take things at a slower pace. But I atleast knew the Aquarius was interested in me.
7. He's never criticized me. And I heard that you should be worried when they don't. As as a Cancer I hate being criticized, but I am so ready to be criticized by him lol. He said he doesn't want to ask questions until we hang out, which as you read hasn't happened yet. The only thing he asked was what type of music I liked, and how old I was. The first night I had a face to face conversation with him he said "Wow this is the most I've ever heard you talk", I don't know if that was considered criticism but yeah other than those few things, no criticism. And I don't think he's a health nut, this guy had 8 slices of pizza hut pizza!
8. His birthday is August 30th, 89
9/10. So you think a week or 2 is good for me to give him space?
Cajunspirit
Posted by lovemedead84

1. Makes sense but you'd think I could atleast get a 2 minute phone call hello, especially if he liked me.


He started off hot and sweaty didn't he? 4 days in a row?
He possibly let his excitement get the better of him and doesn't want you to know how much he diggs ya.

2. The only time I feel that he likes me is when he stares at me, and it makes me melt. Doesn't last long because he's back to being cold.


Like I said, these are his subtle hints.

3. I don't know if this is a Cancer thing, or if it's just me but I can be the most patient person ever and I am more than willing to be patient for a Virgo. My thing however, is that I will only be patient for someone who I can atleast tell is into me a little bit you know? Because I don't want to sit around here being patient, and looking stupid to come and find out someone doesn't even like me. If he could be direct for one second and let me know there is something there, I will be satified, be patient and I wouldn't question anymore.


He's young and possibly a scaredy cat.
I know what it's like, not wanting to mess up at ALL with a female I really like.
But at the same time, I find it fascinating how he's treating your advances. Doesn't add up...

4. What do you mean he's feeling me out? Seeing how I would react to him being cold or something?


Yeah. The Virgin sign is seen sifting wheat.
He's testing you to see if you're the real deal.

I don't care what he says about not playing games, we all do it subconsciously.

5. I do overanalyze I must admit, I guess that's a Cancer trait. However, it's rather ironic since Virgos are known for their analyzing.


Yes ma'am.
Cajunspirit

Posted by Yossarian

well, I think it depends on the virgo,

1. (Virgos don't like to spend money frivolously,)true yes, but I will spend freely on my girl.


I'll always be a cautious spender. But yes, my girl will definitely break the miser rules a bit.

2. (If we don't like you we won't bother to stare at you), I like woman, I stare. Unless I'm in a relationship, in which case you could light yourself on fire and I probably would not see you.


Exaggerated but point well put

3.(Virgos like to take things slow, much to Cancerian delight.) Slow towards the final destination, quicker getting up the steps.


Yup

4. (His cold attitude in work just means he is feeling you out) I don't play games, and I don't want her feelings getting hurt.


Hence, you would slow down and be more objective. Keeping your emotions in check and come off as "cold"

5. (Stop overanalysing) very good advice, though of course we virgo males are guilty of this as well.


Yes sir-ee bob.
Cajunspirit
Posted by lovemedead84


6. I don't want to come off as demanding, and I have been watching what I say to him because I know they do take in EVERY detail. The only thing I want from him is to know we are on the same page. I can go with the flow, I dated an Aquarius and I've learned to take things at a slower pace. But I atleast knew the Aquarius was interested in me.


How are you so sure he doesn't think that you do?

7. He's never criticized me. And I heard that you should be worried when they don't. As as a Cancer I hate being criticized, but I am so ready to be criticized by him lol. He said he doesn't want to ask questions until we hang out, which as you read hasn't happened yet. The only thing he asked was what type of music I liked, and how old I was. The first night I had a face to face conversation with him he said "Wow this is the most I've ever heard you talk", I don't know if that was considered criticism but yeah other than those few things, no criticism. And I don't think he's a health nut, this guy had 8 slices of pizza hut pizza!


I loves me some Pizza too!
Well the fact that he has not as yet, means he wants you to see his fun side first. When he really diggs you the criticising will commence.

8. His birthday is August 30th, 89


As I anticipated...
I'm a second decan sooo... I'm not the best to answer all this.
I don't have good experiences in real life with August Virgos so I would be more biased and less accurate.

9/10. So you think a week or 2 is good for me to give him space?


I think you should just drop all interest in him. He'll come to you faster that way.
lovemedead84
Posted by Cajunspirit
Posted by lovemedead84


6. I don't want to come off as demanding, and I have been watching what I say to him because I know they do take in EVERY detail. The only thing I want from him is to know we are on the same page. I can go with the flow, I dated an Aquarius and I've learned to take things at a slower pace. But I atleast knew the Aquarius was interested in me.


How are you so sure he doesn't think that you do?

7. He's never criticized me. And I heard that you should be worried when they don't. As as a Cancer I hate being criticized, but I am so ready to be criticized by him lol. He said he doesn't want to ask questions until we hang out, which as you read hasn't happened yet. The only thing he asked was what type of music I liked, and how old I was. The first night I had a face to face conversation with him he said "Wow this is the most I've ever heard you talk", I don't know if that was considered criticism but yeah other than those few things, no criticism. And I don't think he's a health nut, this guy had 8 slices of pizza hut pizza!


I loves me some Pizza too!
Well the fact that he has not as yet, means he wants you to see his fun side first. When he really diggs you the criticising will commence.

8. His birthday is August 30th, 89


As I anticipated...
I'm a second decan sooo... I'm not the best to answer all this.
I don't have good experiences in real life with August Virgos so I would be more biased and less accurate.

9/10. So you think a week or 2 is good for me to give him space?


I think you should just drop all interest in him. He'll come to you faster that way.
lovemedead84
Whoops, lol I accidentally posted the message before I could type! Give this clumsy Cancer a second lol.
lovemedead84
So you're telling me that FOUR days in a row is hot and heavy to a Virgo guy? I guess that would make sense though, especially if he didn't want to come off as desperate but that's a raised eyebrow for a Cancer girl because it makes us think you lost interest.

What about him putting off us hanging out? Not to mention when we were actually supposed to hang out he pretty much left me hanging? Is THAT typical Virgo behavior if they like someone? Because I was told that if a Virgo likes you they make time for you. Him making up excuses for us not to hang out pretty much tells me he doesn't like me.

Well I will see him at work tonight, will probably be like every other night. Him acting very loud around me whilst talking to the guys, yet acting like I'm not even in the room. And then giving me the "look" every so often. I try to avoid eye contact with him because I don't want him to see he's gotten to me. And yes he just turned 20 this August. I don't know anything about his past relationships or if he's even had one.

The only thing he said when it came to liking me was that he likes me a little, but didn't know to well. So because he said that, I'm supposed to know we are on the same page? Well when he's sending mixed signals it's hard to.

And I CAN see his fun side which is why I want to hang out with him. My 15 year old bro is a Virgo and we get along VERY well, my brother is simply hilarious and he does critize people but in a very rude way..like out of no where he'd go "EWW why is her nose like that?" lol, I find it funny though. My borher jokes with me sometimes and calls me lame, and what not but we tease each other. But yeah with this guy, I can def see his fun side because when we're at work, it seems like he's extra loud when he's talking and acting extra silly like he wants me to see him..yet he says nothing to me. Well it's been a month, how much longer do I have to wait for this criticism?


So how should I act around him? Should I just ignore him completely, or act like I don't give two cares about him? Or will that put him off? I want to give him his space but I don't want to distance him completely to where he thinks I'm playing games. Like I said, I have to see him tonight so I will let you know how it goes.
lovemedead84
Well everyone is telling me to listen to Cajun so you know what? DONE lol. I need to step out of my uncertain, insecure cancer ways and let things flow. I'm taking 2 huge steps back. Hopefully it works out.
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