Subtle ways a virgo male shows he feels for you?

5/9/2009 6:24:02 AM | More
Scorpchick

Hi everyone

I've been lurking these forums now for a while and it had been a real big help to me and trying to understand my virgo guy.

The one trait that i see in him before i even came across this site and found it's common for virgos when they are unsure of a girl is how cautious, protective, distant they can be. I work with him and have known him for about 7 months now and there was instant attraction (in fact a close friend of his told me that after talking to me for just 15 mins on a work break, he came back to her asking for my number and when she wouldn't give it....he kept asking for days until he got it lol)....but he's doing the whole aloof push/pull thing.

He has told me some very deep and dark secrets about himself so i can see why he hates himself (as he put it)...and he knows very well that i'm falling for him. He even told me that he can show better than tell ( i can see it in his eyes )...that expressing himself verbally is very hard for him. It's fine to me if he can show but what type of things would a virgo male do to show he has feelings for you?... just to point out that we are not offically in a relationship yet...

also do virgo CONSTANTLY observe you when they like you?....i've noticed that my virgo guy does this the second he sees me..like he is trying to figure out my mood for the day and what exactly does it mean when virgos.....imitate would you say and do?

my post must be annoying but as much as this guy and his unreadble ways have hurt me...i also find those ways fascinating...i don't know why either...i just have soooo much to say about him

Scorpchick
xoxoxoxoxox
5/9/2009 10:03:00 AM | More
DwellingOnMove

female

Sag Rising, Sun, Mars, Venus, Mercury, P

when they are unsure of a girl...how cautious, protective, distant they can be...he kept asking for days until he got it...CONSTANTLY observe you when they like you...


my experience confirms these statements.
5/9/2009 2:32:47 PM | More
P-Angel

55 years old female from Planet Neptune  

Just

"this guy and his unreadble ways have hurt me"

Hurt you? But, you two aren't even anything yet ... hurt you how? By being unreadable?





"also do virgo CONSTANTLY observe you when they like you?....i've noticed that my virgo guy does this the second he sees me..like he is trying to figure out my mood for the day"

It actually sounds like the opposite of what you've led the readers to believe here .. it sounds like he is the one trying to figure you out, and this being unsure of you is what is holding this potential relatinship back.


Why not just have a real conversatin with this man over lunch, instead of trying to lead him somewhere in which you're not sure of because of your, "mood for the day".
5/9/2009 7:40:48 PM | More
Cajunspirit

26 years old male

Vide cor Meum... Vi et Animo

Oh boy... another Scorpio..

I personally believe myself to an expert on Scorpion women.

Yes, there will be an instant attraction.
Yes, he will always be analysing you, trying to figure out your mood and thoughts.
Yes, he will act aloof, to control his powerful emotions and attraction towards you.
Yes, you will both be intrigued by each others differences.

A Virgo shows you how he feels through actions and observations.
He will show interest in your health, nutrition, sleeping patterns and emotional distress.
He will offer his services of comfort and advice.
He will, when comfortable, touch you gently... if not sensually.

Once you don't overdo the Scorpio's Dramaqueen persona, you'll be fine.

Just remember to let go of your secretive ways, let him know what you feel and how strong it is, without being overly emotional. Give him straight facts and openly express your interest.

Don't lie and keep secrets, it will hold everything back and frustrate the Virgo.
5/9/2009 10:48:30 PM | More
Scorpchick

Thank you for you responses

P Angel..i have thought about maybe it's me that is sending out mixed messages but there have been things that he has done that confused the hell out of me..

To give an example....i came into work one day and ran into him. He was just going on his lunck break and he told me how he almost had a stroke due to a clot in his chest. He was going to get KFC for lunch and i told him to get sushi because it's more healthy for him. He thought about and then said "okay"...walked me back into work, told me about how drinking protein shakes after working out increases body strengh (he plays soccer and i'm a dancer)...gave me a hug and went on his way to get food. Whe he came back into work...he did indeed get sushi and even showed me what he got but when he went into the staff room...he apprently said some deep words about another girl who had only just started working with us and who he sees once a week. He said that he liked her and if he was with her...he would never let her go and he'd be a changed man. This confused the hell out of me...i thought it was out of his nature to say something so deep about someone who is a stranger to him.



5/10/2009 6:56:47 AM | More
DwellingOnMove

female

Sag Rising, Sun, Mars, Venus, Mercury, P

...he apprently said some deep words about another girl who had only just started working with us and who he sees once a week. He said that he liked her and if he was with her...he would never let her go and he'd be a changed man. This confused the hell out of me...i thought it was out of his nature to say something so deep about someone who is a stranger to him.


such statement is not deep at all. Deep is what one keeps for himself. Or for the beloved one.

Yesterday I was about to write "nothing fascinating about this behavior" when I read your "his unreadble ways". Now you give me a fresh example. What is so exciting about his comment on that girl? it is odd and odd and odd. Honestly there are far more fascinating things on the earth than people who try to be unreadable. Can he do more than today this tomarrow the opposite?

5/10/2009 7:10:45 AM | More
DwellingOnMove

female

Sag Rising, Sun, Mars, Venus, Mercury, P

Yesterday I was about to write "nothing fascinating about this behavior"

yesterday I did not write my opinion since I thought for a Scorp it may really be fascinating. this may be the reason why some find Scorp and Virg are good match. you find it fascinating while it turns me off. :-)
5/10/2009 8:25:56 AM | More
Scorpchick

I find nothing exciting about his comment regarding the other girl....as i said it confused the hell out of me. When i first heard he did that...i thought to myself "maybe he's just saying that to throw people off"...an immature move if you ask me.

There is obviously way more to the situation than what i said in my first post. He admitted he liked me one night when we were out for drinks (yeah, he had to be a little drunk to open up to me lol)and that he wanted to be with me but he was "scared"...and he didn't want anything to come in the way of work and he is not fully over his ex.....so when i saw him next, i respected this and gave him some space...but everytime he says these things and he had done before that night...he'll do something to draw me back in...and then he goes and tells people differently.


5/10/2009 11:24:27 AM | More
Cajunspirit

26 years old male

Vide cor Meum... Vi et Animo

What is it with Virgo men and not being able to "move on" from their exs.

I have never had this problem and I think Virgos who say this are playing around.
I could be wrong.
5/10/2009 12:37:53 PM | More
lou.m

female

Virogs defo find it hard to move on when they have genuinely loved

their love is enduring!

Those still waters!!
5/10/2009 2:26:20 PM | More
DyarStraße

54 years old male from The Deep South  

.......... DyarStraße / dyrstr8z .......


Scorpchick,

If you've read any of my threads / posts, you know I'm a Virgo Man happily married to a Scorpio Woman...

First: Courtship between these two Signs isn't easy. We're both introspective, and self-contained, and that makes for a rocky start.

Some of your remarks bring back nostalgia: there was instant attraction, and expressing himself verbally is very hard for him, and he can show better than tell, and he is trying to figure out my mood for the day.

Verbal communication between Scorpio & Virgo is prone to misinterpretation at the outset. It gets better over time.

Second: I agree with most of what Cajun posted.

Third: If you want him, you can have him. He's made that pretty obvious - from a VirGuy point of view. You need to let him know you have the same interest in him that he has in you - a little encouragement goes a long way with us...

He admitted he liked me one night when we were out for drinks (yeah, he had to be a little drunk to open up to me lol)and that he wanted to be with me but he was "scared"...

Scorpios scare the hell outta us. Y'all are rational, and yet emotional - that's tough for us to digest. Help him trust you, and you'll be glad you made the effort. S + V is a powerful combination!

Will he ever fully understand you? Of course not! But, he will always cover your back, and make sure that all those annoying little details of life are taken care of...

What more could you ask of a man??

As for passionate romance: Once you open him up, brace yourself! Virgo has a greater reservoir of amor than you may be prepared for...

My Scorpio could sing along with Mick Jagger:

If you start me up
If you start me up I'll never stop
I've been running hot
You got me ticking gonna blow my top
If you start me up
If you start me up I'll never stop

5/11/2009 7:04:55 AM | More
Scorpchick

Thanks everyone

I 've actually experienced his more "passionate" side Dyarstra..on the same night he told me he liked me. If anything, i was expecting a little kiss but......HOLY CRAP he couldn't keep his lips and hands off me!! lol....at one point a security guard told us to "keep it g-rated or we'll have to leave"..lol so we did and continued for about 2 more hours at 2 in the morning in the freezing cold...i've been dying for that to happen again but sometimes it feels like he is avoiding it.

He used to be so hands on with me. We were so comforatble in eachother's presence and and we would make little efforts to spend our breaks together or spend time togethre after work....i like the fact that he has a little childish side because it's fun...but as of the last month he has become so distant from me. When i use the word distance, i don't mean by trying to run away from me but distance as in...we could be talking about anything (another quality i love about him )...and he would be answering me yet there is a detachment there. I can see that he feels awkward but i don't know out of what reason. He was never so silent around me before that night...
5/15/2009 1:07:54 PM | More
Cajunspirit

26 years old male

Vide cor Meum... Vi et Animo

cappygolightly, I am not one of those Virgos either, for the record.
5/16/2009 12:01:53 AM | More
Scorpchick

Ok...well that doesn't really explain why he runs away from me when he sees that i'm emotional (and i'm talking little emotion here and not the dramatic way scorps do it)...yet he will be there for ANYONE who needs comforting, or why he copies things that i say and do or his real weird way of freaking out when i shift a conversation about other people to "us"...(he actually is very indirect with me when it comes to that)....it feels like he is trying to tell me that he does have some kind of feelings for me but don't let go (if you know what i mean lol) which means that he is aware of what he is doing.....maybe

I think that if he just wanted to try and get me into the sack...he would do opposite of all those things. It's really weird when i'm talking to him because i can see he is deep in thought and i'm curious as to what he is thinking. Also he has been talking about me to his work mate who is also a good friend of his and he's been saying that he "demands to take me to the footy"...(he plays )...yet none of this has been brought up with me.

Is this virguy in a relationship in his head with me? lol

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