Virgo man playing hot N cold

tiffany3624
I am new to posting but have always read through many posts on virgo men.

Here s my problem and i will try and be short and sweet about it.

I starting seeing a virgo man about 1 1/2 yrs ago and we built a friendship and ofcourse we do enjoy extra added beenfits to. Everything was going along fine since at the start of our friendship I lived a fair distance away from him, then last summer I moved to his own town, not because of him but my family lives here. So lately for the past 4 months we have been seeing each other exclusively and some weeks we spend a lot of time together and there can be weeks go by where we have no contact. I am a independent person so I do like my space, but I do enjoy spending time with him

So, here's what happened, after spending a couple of weeks together doing different things he goes completely cold and I dont hear from him and we dont have the benefits either which are always good.

So what is going on with him? Is he pulling away to retreat? or control his emotions? or is this a polite way of saying he doesnt want to continue?
Please help as he has made me all confused and I have no idea what to do about him or if I should approach thsi gently with him and how?
Look forward to your feedback
P-Angel
I don't think it's him at all ... it's you having an emotional issue and misdirecting your emotions. This is something that females do a lot and it's annoying as hell. Just because you are having a weak emotional moment, doesn't mean that his intentions or actions have changed. Because of your feelings, you think his have changed, but, they haven't ... yeah, it's all you.


Here's an example ... I want you to look at these two sentences for what they mean, NOT how you feel. What it means.


"and there can be weeks go by where we have no contact."

"he goes completely cold and I dont hear from him"


In the first quote, you were suggesting in that train of thought that you don't mind that weeks go by without contact. You miss him, but, you're a strong independent woman, and you make the suggestion in your wording that you can handle his needs for space. No problem.

In the second quote, again there is no contact .. only now you've let your knickers get properly wadded over the exact same thing .. his need for space.

In both quotes, as you I interpret what you were trying to convey, I don't recogize his actions being any different .. I do, however, recognize your reaction to them being different.

Which means his actions haven't changed .. your reactions have though, which suggest to me that its your emotions that are unstable
tiffany3624
Thanks for that feedback.....

But I dont think I hide my emotions as I have expressed them before to him, which sends him running for atleast 3 weeks.

So how do I deal with this and my emotions, as I dont think he has any emotions or he keeps them in control

So what is my best plan to deal with him and figure out why he does this?
King_with_a_Sting
Posted by tiffany3624
Thanks for that feedback.....

But I dont think I hide my emotions as I have expressed them before to him, which sends him running for atleast 3 weeks.

So how do I deal with this and my emotions, as I dont think he has any emotions or he keeps them in control

So what is my best plan to deal with him and figure out why he does this?


If you express to a man how you feel about him and he disappears for 3 weeks it means he doesn't feel the same way about you, he enjoyed F***ing you but he doesn't want something serious.

That has nothing to do with being a Virgo, that's what most men would do, only the real smart players would pretend to go along with it.

Sorry if Im being blunt and mean about it but its straight to the point
Cajunspirit
Maybe, just maybe... http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/My-Virgo-Disappearing-Theory-1914735.asp
he's tired of making an effort and you're not returning in like.





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