Virgo practicality interpreted as insensitivity.

27 years old female •
SunLibra MoonLibra MercuryVirgo VenusScorpio MarsLibra JupiterCancer Satu
I've noticed that with a lot of Virgos, their innate desire to do things in the most practical manner puts people off, as the way they go about fulfilling that desire is at the cost of being inconsiderate to those around them. Of course, Virgos don't realize that they're being inconsiderate or sometimes insensitive because they're simply trying to be sensible. It's difficult for them to register their own feelings, so to try and process why others would be hurt by the most practical alternative is sometimes impossible for them to grasp.

This is just a small observation I've made over time. I know Virgos mean well, and they usually revisit problems between themselves and others in an attempt to fix them (granted they feel responsible), but sometimes the most practical option is impractical in the emotional repercussions it could incite.
male from The Netherlands, Europe •
"Archaeologist "
I agree this can happen although personally I've noticed I tend to go along with my heart rather than my head and most of the times that approach takes care of both the practical and the emotional aspect involved when you show enough commitment towards something, your loved ones will forgive you/overlook your apparent lack of consideration.
female •
A typical Virgo.Small smirk.
Yep.Most of the time we know how you are feeling and we don't care.We truly choose not to care. But let me say this,if it is an-act-of-God-emergency,we are there.We are like the first responders,we'll rush in with aid.We will fix it,help you fix it,get you up on your feet and walk a quarter of a mile on your path.We will do that.

HOWEVER,when you come to us and expect help when a)you could have prevented this drama in the first place b) didn't take action to stem the next crisis as fall out from the first one c)you're too lazy to deal with it yourself,d)we helped you out tremendously before,e)you wandered into another similiar situation and expect sympathy f)don't clean up after yourself and wondered what happened ,g)want us to help someone else,instead of you applying the things that worked for you, h)totally freaking ignore the concrete solutions that we spent some tearful hours hashing out or ,i)not giving an honest try with anything we talked about then boo-hoo ing why things are f'ed up.We are done.

We are not your therapists,babysitter etc.We are not your hired personal assistant either.If you want someone to tell you were right doing something stupid or short sighted.NO.If you want someone to sympathize with you and hand you tissues,then going round in same circle,hoping for a new answer that supports your agenda.NO.If you wait false praise,for a piss poor job done.NO.Should we be at your beck and call?NO.Not up for that crap.

Digging out our emotions for your use or play?.NO. "I knew you really cared".If we didn't care,we wouldn't be there."Please show emotions only like we do,that's the only way we can deal with others".You want help and us to express our emotions that is comfortable and familiar for you?So you don't have to see life from any other angle.So you won't be wrong?Uhm immature much.

We have lives too.Because we seem cool and unflappable ,doeasn't mean we don't have our own plate of steaming poo.Just ask a Virgo what is on their to do list.I find that the people who want want want ,never ask us if they can help us.These same people only asking after us,because another LITTLE favor is in the pipeline.These same people then skip off with others for fun. Ask us out? No?Got it. You'll need us before we need you therefore we don't care.
57 years old female •
Just
Scorporella, my Virgo is much like yours. He will immediately take action if something is amiss with me, the house, anything or anyone in our small circle. Initially, he will start the task as if it is an object, unfortunately to include people's feelings .. however, will halt full stop if the presentation is made to him that he's not taking feelings into account.


However, one thing that is different with him is that I dont' have to really say anything. I rarely, if ever tell him what to do, or instruct him (unless it's picking out clothes, the man can't match colors) .... and I never cry to him, or cookiemonster to him.

Well, I shouldn't say never .. rare. So, if I'm cookiemonstering, or crying .... he STOPS, as if frozen in time because it is way out in left field for him to hear me cookiemonstering at him. He knows to pay full attention because something is wrong.

And visa versa ... he never tells me what to do, or yells at me, or cries at me ... so, if he's doing any of those things ....... I stop immediately and give him my full undivided attention because something is wrong.


57 years old female •
Just
Posted by LibraLove

I've noticed that with a lot of Virgos, their innate desire to do things in the most practical manner puts people off, as the way they go about fulfilling that desire is at the cost of being inconsiderate to those around them. Of course, Virgos don't realize that they're being inconsiderate or sometimes insensitive because they're simply trying to be sensible. It's difficult for them to register their own feelings, so to try and process why others would be hurt by the most practical alternative is sometimes impossible for them to grasp.




I agree with that .... it's true that they don't actually "get" feelings. Any person who plans on being the partner of a Virgo has to take on the responsibility of all the emotional understanding of both parties.

This is why the Virgo is so picky about their partners ... they reflect feelings back to you as they process how you feel ..... therefore, they have to be extremely critical about who they are choosing because ultimately, they are going to have to trust in relying on the partners interpretation of the meaning of feelings.
28 years old male from Trinidad •
"Vide cor Meum... Vi et Animo My Opus Decan Compa
Posted by Scorporella
Case in point: my virgo was doing something a few months ago that was causing me to hurt. It wasn't intentional, and I realized that. So I approached him with it, explained that what he was doing was causing me to feel hurt and why it was causing me to feel hurt.

I wasn't emotional in my approach, just very straight-forward, non-accusatory, simply, when this is done, this is what happens, and this is why. My virgo stopped the behavior instantly. We recently talked about it again and he told me he appreciated the manner in which I had approached him with it. He explained why he was doing the behavior, very logical and practical reason, and said he hadn't realized that I might not see the logic and practicality in it but would come at it from a more emotional angle.


Once he saw that it could be viewed in another way, not just from logic and practicality, and that his actions could be miscontrued and cause pain to others, he realized that sometimes he approaches something that makes perfect logical sense to him, but doesn't always translate that way to others.


All women need to learn this.... the faster the better.
26 years old female •
"Ascendent Virgo 1.43 Sun Virgo 3.36 Moon
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
I agree this can happen although personally I've noticed I tend to go along with my heart rather than my head and most of the times that approach takes care of both the practical and the emotional aspect involved when you show enough commitment towards something, your loved ones will forgive you/overlook your apparent lack of consideration.


I too used to think that I always went with my head and chose the logical path when doing something, but lately I've noticed that my emotions seem to come first rather than my logic. Like, "which came first, the chicken or the egg?".

I think sometimes I just thought that since I was a virgo, I would be more logical, but other circumstances made me think otherwise. So now I believe that I feel something first, and then I analyze it.
26 years old female •
"Ascendent Virgo 1.43 Sun Virgo 3.36 Moon
Posted by Cajunspirit
Posted by Scorporella
Case in point: my virgo was doing something a few months ago that was causing me to hurt. It wasn't intentional, and I realized that. So I approached him with it, explained that what he was doing was causing me to feel hurt and why it was causing me to feel hurt.

I wasn't emotional in my approach, just very straight-forward, non-accusatory, simply, when this is done, this is what happens, and this is why. My virgo stopped the behavior instantly. We recently talked about it again and he told me he appreciated the manner in which I had approached him with it. He explained why he was doing the behavior, very logical and practical reason, and said he hadn't realized that I might not see the logic and practicality in it but would come at it from a more emotional angle.


Once he saw that it could be viewed in another way, not just from logic and practicality, and that his actions could be miscontrued and cause pain to others, he realized that sometimes he approaches something that makes perfect logical sense to him, but doesn't always translate that way to others.


All women need to learn this.... the faster the better.


lol true.
27 years old female •
SunLibra MoonLibra MercuryVirgo VenusScorpio MarsLibra JupiterCancer Satu
I posted this because I know a lot of other signs (a lot of Libras, incidentally) visit this board and I wanted to offer a rationalization for how what others interpret as insensitivity is actually seated in the Virgo's practicality. Myself, being someone who thinks from the heart and then translates it to the head,used to have difficulty understanding why/how the Virgos around me did what *I* deemed inconsiderate. However, I've come to learn that Virgos are simply utilizing their sense of logic, and having that in mind, I know that they aren't being inconsiderate at all--just what they consider sensible.

male from Brooklyn •
"Destined For Greatness Someday Lol First Decan Virgo Sub Ruled by Mercu


you give us too much credit lady but that's what libra people do anyway i know first hand cuz of my strong libra placements in my chart.
Posted by LibraLove
I posted this because I know a lot of other signs (a lot of Libras, incidentally) visit this board and I wanted to offer a rationalization for how what others interpret as insensitivity is actually seated in the Virgo's practicality. Myself, being someone who thinks from the heart and then translates it to the head,used to have difficulty understanding why/how the Virgos around me did what *I* deemed inconsiderate. However, I've come to learn that Virgos are simply utilizing their sense of logic, and having that in mind, I know that they aren't being inconsiderate at all--just what they consider sensible.



yup very true this is what i learned from my virgin experience.If he tells me he'ld call me ild say yes and then he didn't i got pissed and try analyzing why the treetrunk did he not call . . was it something i said or butter.Then he apologized after a week and his reason was he he woke up late. He was telling me that Yes I wanted to talk to you but i need some sleep too because i work hard and butter and if i dont have enough sleep im might not give as much input to the conversation.

So yeah whatever a virgo does or decides its usually leans on the sensible / practical reasons that would beneficial for him and for the other person. I learned for him the art of saying "NO" and its not bad to consider myself first before others.
34 years old male from Gold Coast, QLD, Australia •
re original post

maybe you perceive that because you are libra - you cant use libra brain to measure virgo

virgo is the one holding libra
male from The Netherlands, Europe •
"Archaeologist "
I think she was looking for something with more substance, ironically. Most people were already aware of what you said before you said it.
34 years old male from Gold Coast, QLD, Australia •
Posted by TyDyed

zeo: virgo is the one holding libra

... and, my Libra EX both loved & resented my Virgo strength & restraint....


libra does have that dichotomy of both sides like pisces and gemini
31 years old male from Georgia, USA •
It's not that we "don't get" feelings, i think it's that we don't want to be inundated too much with them for fear of being drawn too far inside them. Virgo is a very sensitive sign and it's like we learn to detach ourselves over time from some of them because they can be too powerful and self effacing/ negative. When you think practically, you don't wind up in an emotional bind that keeps you from moving forward. Lest we forget that this is only the sun sign, i have a scorpio moon and pisces rising...i GET feelings.

Is going with your gut feeling still thinking practically? Like if you think to yourself, i'm going to follow my gut/intuition because i know it is usually the right way...?

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