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Words of wisdom from Tiki
It's a saying "If he don't know what he want then he don't want what he already have". This is when you have to RAISE YOUR STANDARDS because here's the thing, you are teaching him that he can devalue you and you'll stay so every time you stay with him after he's given you nothing, every time you allow him to come back after he's given you nothing, then you are TEACHING him that he can GIVE YOU NOTHING and still have you. Understand?
Every time you KNOW you are getting less, begging for me, waiting on him to give back to the relationship after you put almost 100% of yourself in only to get back nothing then you are TEACHING him that he can give you crumbs, give you nothing, communicate half ass with you and you'll accept it and you accepting it by continuing to be AVAILABLE when it's convenient for him teaches him that you are nothing, a nobody, a desperate woman or why else would ever stick around for such butterty half ass behavior from a man thus he loses respect for you and losing respect breeds contempt, he'll begin to have a contemptuous attitude towards you and talk down to you.
You have to decide your worth and you decide that by how you allow yourself to be treated, no reason to accept poor treatment unless you truly do feel you deserve to be neglected in your relationship with a man.
Loving him more than you love yourself is not love, it's neglect and if he see you neglecting yourself through him so you can have a relationship with him, he'll neglect you too, it starts and stops with you, how you treat yourself around a man will determine how he treats you.
Things I've learnt - Librasun
I used to think that relationships were supposee to be hard as it proved your love for eachother that you were willing to keep trying. Think once you accept the fact that you are prepared to die alone if. neccessary you can set the bar as.high as you like. I used to settle for the man I could live with (and being a Libra thats practically.anyone.with a pulse who smiles at me haha) but instead learnt to hold out for. the man I can not live without. I set my bar high and I'm glad I did.
I learned you can both have your way without compromise if both of your "ways" are the same . I used to always say an easy relationship would be boring but we still have passion just in the bedroom where it should be instead of it manifesting into domestics!!