I am so confused!! I am a Scorpio who got out of a horrible relationship with a cancer in January n in July I met this AMAZING Capricorn man. He's been nothing but good to me..we haven't even had any major arguments. We made plans about a month ago for hi
Have you ever met someone you have an instant spark with? Like you've known them forever? I need some guidance on what this cancer man is thinking!!
I went on a date with a cancer man a week ago and we had a really good time. Later in the evening, his friends ended up hanging at the bar where we were (it's a popular after work spot) and so we ended up hanging out with them bar hopping a little - it was genuinely a great time. As the night ended, he was driving me to my car but we ended up at his place. We cuddled, kissed, hugged, laughed. He tried to get a little frisky but I told him that I liked him and wasn't ready for that. After I said that, he said that he liked me too and he's moving in a couple months. I felt such a strong connection: he would stare into my eyes, brush the side of my face, kiss me. I had to leave and he said he wanted to cuddle more next time but there was no real plans made.
We exchanged the whole after date messages saying we had a really good time but there was never talk of a next time. He messaged me again early this week to ask how I've been and I reciprocated but he has since disappeared on me and not responded.
I am wondering if I should send a follow up funny message or take the silence as he's not interested. I am feeling such a sinking feeling like I've lost him, I have had so much anxiety the past few days. I am afraid if I don't message him then he'll take it as me not being interested but then I'm afraid of coming across as clingy. What if his silence is because he's out there dating other girls and I wasn't as good?
I need help! This has caused me so much pain to not know what happened or where I stand.
Bullbutter, y'all replace and abandon all the time. Look at Arielle here on DXP, look at Melody, look at Mena, look at my brother. The former 2 are cancer suns, the later 2 are cancer moons.
Look at all the "Cancer man disappeared" threads. I once found a forum where a cancer woman said she actually /moves/ and changes her number just to avoid the person she broke up with, that's what Melody did too.
Virgo season is killing the patience I've had with this Cap man. My insecurities are at war here.
I don't know if I should ask what is going on between us.
Should I express how my feelings are growing and I don't want to get hurt.
Or just get out of dodge in Cancer fashion, which involves explaining why we are leaving.
Here goes the Cancer style backstory: A year since we met. Dated for like 3 1/2 months, he stated not ready for relationship topic (ex issues). He disappeared for 3 months, stalked me on social media the whole time. He came back around and I acted different with him. I put away my feelings for him, so basically for me it was FWB. He slowly did things to win me over a bit but I had my wall up. Had our first argument and I tried cut him out (don't text me anymore) before he could ghost me again. It was about trust and I know Cappys and their trust. But he surprised me by still reaching out to me.We texted about 4-6 times, he was still talking about the argument and trust, I was so over it. After almost a month of not seeing each other, we finally got back to hanging out and he was very different with me. No more mentions of the argument, he changed small things that I would tell him I didn't like. The trust we had was back. All mentions of his ex wife stopped (this is his biggest issue, the hurt his ex wife caused him and she loves to yo-yo him back giving him hope...shes an aqua. separated for 3yrs they have a child together). This was big, in the past he mentioned her hatefully every time we hung out and then would tell me things like she wants to do counseling together and work it out (her yo-yoing him, me being in the friendzone). I heard him on the phone with her recently and I can tell with his tone and actions that hes finally moving on from her. He did mention this to me in his texts from our argument that he was working on moving on from her, so whatever flipped the switch it happened after that. In those texts he mentioned that our thing is a "physical relationship", that hes not ready for a "relationship". But of-course my intuition is picking up on a lot of small changes in him. He opening up more to me about his family and his art and sometimes work. But not about himself. He looks different, like if all the stress of his life is off, totally can see him more relaxed in the face. Hes even more humorous with me even tho some of his jokes is on me. He smiles more with me because I am totally always funny.
He is on a work trip right now and I haven't seen him in 2 weeks. When he gets back I have 1 day to see him and then I leave for 1 week. I treetrunking miss him and it's making me see that I can't hid my feelings for him.
Again do I, ask what is going on between us.
Should I express how my feelings are growing and I don't want to get hurt.
Sorry for my english but i try my best. I try to short as i can, but will be long this thread, but i need your help, who have experience with aries woman, or you are an aries woman. So the thing is im a scorpio man. She is my hairdresser and before we hook up we just talk as friends nearly half year. When i ask for date she instantly said no because im 30 years old and she is 45. This looks huge different but trust me she is looks like a 38 years old woman not just from my opinion. We always felt the spark between us when we just friends. So i asked for a date she said no, i asked again she seems hesitated than say no again, i was angry and i promised to myself i don't care anymore. Here comes the trick. I go to haircut again she was soo sweet and asked me do i have free time tonight? I said no ( but i had ). After a week she asked me again we can have some drink tonight if im available. My anger disappeared and said okay i pick you up 9pm. First date, instant love. We start kissing after 10 mins, 3rd date we jump in bed that harmony was crazy and the spark and passion was god. When we was kissing and in bed we had always mindblowing sex. She was so wild and me also i never ever do things like with her and she say the same thing ( but she said first ), so we had absolutely no taboo. We see 4-5 times a week each other, everything was cool. Than she's family don't take me nice they say im too young and shee looks like an idiot because she in love with me. Her family ( her mother the evil also aries ) always arguing with her and she said she will not give up, she will keep me whatever is the cost, if she loose her family doesnt matter she never been love like this with a guy and doesn't matter our age. Than slowly time goes she said we must stop this because too big the age different her mother is right. This popping up every month, so always with different reason we brake up but not lasted long, we can't resist each other so the break up was maximum 4 days than we start kissing and have sex like 2 mad teeneager. So we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary at aug 8. She always want break up, i see it as foreplay and i always was right and she said also the same. She said not teke it seriously, her anger by the smallest thing cause break up, but now suddenly changed everything. She always nearly screaming when see me and hugging kissing me and you know august 8 just past by 2-3 weeks and now she is cold, distant, she meet my family and she likes them and they are also like her, now she don't want to meet my family. She said to me we will never brake up and stay together forever and we will move on. She doesn't say she miss me like before, she doesn't tell me that she loves me and all suddenly disappeared in 2-3 weeks. I told her i noticed this and why is happening with us? She said you know time goes and everything change. I can't belive she is like a new person feels like i never know this lady. We had big arguments always and she was so warm and sweet after all argument. I read that aries is quick to burn out i give her lot of space and we are still have date nights every week and she is so happy when with me but when i go from her house to my own she start acting strange like when we talk on facebook. I don't feel anymore that insane passion and love, we talk like friends because when we start talking like a couple she don't let to stick. Last night we was together and we have the same mindblowing sex and kissing like from the start but she is not to same when we talk and i said to her, we planned to move in together and etcetc. She always reply with a careless manner: " i not promised nothing " but this is lie, she promised me the stars from the sky. I also read that aries have short memory and i experienced it but she also know she is lying about this. Whats going on? She is first decan march 21. She no say the truth the real issue she just keep saying we have to break up and never been that long as i said maximum 4 day lasting our break ups. Last time i said i want to break up is true, but she seems like very insecure and hold this grudge and hold this decision. Absolutely fine everything her i just hate that she always do dramas from small things. Now her family no say nothing wrong about me and let her do her thing with me and she still wants to break up, she not saying now, she acting like that. Pls guys, girls anyone. I know im young but she is my life, she is i dreaming about my whole life. I had over around 30 girls and noone catches my soul and heart like she. We understand each other and we finish each others sentences, we have the same view from nearly everything. I want this woman, and when i say i will not leave her because she says always ahh okay now you just laugh but after 10 years i will not look like this ( bc she is the sexiest woman i ever seen in my life, srsly i don't know why she is not a model ) but ofc i didn't told her but i always compliment her. I feel now i loosing this lady, many times she had this mood swings and i always think she have somebody else but i was wrong. Pls, how can i keep the love of my life. I will never want to let her, if she noot looks sexy anymore i don't care. True love from me and i deeply love her soul and heart. I do anything to be my sweethart. Im usually not trustable person and always cheat. Since we dating im not cheating, i even don't look for other woman as woman. Im absolutely dedicated to her not 100, 110% 1000% . Now i cry like a 5 years old but i know i can't forget this lady never and i don't need other girl i want her like never want other before! My love is undying for her but she seems like she bored and this is the only reason to want break up. Her chart is:
Sun: Aries Rise: Cancer Moon: Taurus Mercury in Pisces 9. house Venus in Aries 10. house Mars in Sagittarius 5. house Jupiter in Libra 4. house Saturn in Aries 10. house Uranus in Libra 4. house Neptunus in Scorpio 5. house Pluto in Virgo 4. house
My aqua friend married a cancer. She never showed her weak side. When he disappeared while they were dating she cut him off immediately. No questions, no why's, no nothing. She said I know my worth and I Don 't need a little boy trippling me and confusing me. I need a man, not a boy. She made him crawl to get back to her. She supports him, loves him, takes care of him, has his best interest, but never acted needy nor ever said Im sorry in an argument. He's like jelly in her hands. Stand your ground.
Straigthen up his spine. Men have feelings, ofcourse, but you want a man not someone who cries harder than a woman during her period.