Hey guys I hope to get a better idea on my situation. I was hoping to hear from Taurus men regarding this topic so here it goes:
I met my Taurus man from online dating. Initially I was not so much interested in him mainly because he was nonchalant with his approach and the attention that I was getting from other men from the dating app outweigh his interest towards me. I just thought he was only looking for hook ups so I didnt take him seriously.
After a few days of back and forth texting we eventually agreed to meet up for the first time. So for our first date, he took me to the movies. We both had a great time and I really enjoyed his company too so I decided to continue talking to him.
We eventually hung out more, not so frequent but it was more of only whenever we were free. We both smoke pot so we would usually meet up for a quick sesh and just talk about random things.
Eventually we decided to be intimate with each other. The sex was amazing and we both enjoyed it. After being intimate with him, he hinted something along the lines of "you're mine and mine yours". As a scorpio woman, this was comforting to hear because having someone to want you like that makes you feel loved.
I agreed to this so I decided to delete my profile from the dating app as I do not want to entertain other men when I am interested in one. As we tried to be exclusive (this was about 2.5 weeks after meeting up for the first time), I started opening up more to him. I have always been an advocate of transparency so I was honest with him about everything and showed my true self. Now, we all know how scorpios can get (LOL) so I'm not going to lie, I ended up being clingy and was just too intense. Not to say that I didnt have my own life, but I really liked him that I wanted to spend time with him more than just weekends.
I started noticing that he became more distant but he would still be around, sort of. He doesn't text as much but whenever we would see each other hes always all over me. Once we parted ways, he goes back to being non-communicative and distant.
Im not going to lie, this hot/cold treatment that I got from him really bothered me. I was open about it (not confrontational but I was direct about it), and his responses about the situation has always been nonchalant. Nothing changed even after several talks about it.
I finally decided to end it with him since I realized if this is already a problem in the beginning then who knows what it could be months or years down the line. I wasnt about to put both of us through drama, seeing how he is and how I am, so I decided to call it quits.
My break up text to him was very indifferent but kind, I wish him well in the future and hope that he finds what he's looking for. He never responded to that text. I totally get it so I wasnt really expecting a text back.
Its been a week and I do miss him. Reading up about Taurus men I realized that he was really into me and he really liked me. But I realized I made a mistake and was being selfish wherein I was expecting a certain kind of relationship with him. During our small fights about this, I've always told him that I am not used to nonchalant guys like him.
I dont know if he hates me or not. I dont even know where I stand since its not like we've been dating for a while (its only been a month). I want to reach out to him and rekindle, and apologize for how I acted and tell him that I appreciated everything he did for me. I know some people might say that it's better to move on. But I got a feeling that even though hes the total opposite of me, it will also teach me to work on my weaknesses (such as impatience and just being able to go with the flow). I realized what I did wrong and not say I'm willing to change but I do realize that I have to be less intense (I've been told this even by friends from before so I know this is sort of my problem lol).
My question is, based on what has happened between us, should I try to reach out to him first or just move on? I have no problems apologizing for what I did, but I am not a push over either so I do want to have a convo with him about just realizing the bad things that I did. Is it too late? I dont plan to do it right away as I know Taurus men do want their space so I am not going to do it right away, maybe within a few weeks, not sure.
Any input on this topic? Please feel free to comment, any comments are appreciated
Hello dear Virgos. I am a scorpio female, i was in a relationship with an amazing virgo man (sun virgo, moon aquarius, ascendant in cancer and MC is aries). He was always talking about marriage and how much he loves me, and saying that he feels in heaven when we are together sitting looking at the beach. We always had random fight but it was never a serious fights just like a stupid ones. I always prefer to talk about everything that maybe doesnt feel the best in our relationship, for example i do prefer us talking when we calm down after a fight to solve things up, but my virgo is someone who refuses to apologize even when he is wrong, and i end up being the one who apologize because i never wanted to lose him. When we broke up (a month ago) we had a fight as always but he seemed weird in the last 3 days before the breakup, i just tried to ask about what is wrong with him because i thought that maybe he needs some help or a shoulder, but he was so mean to me saying things he knows it hurts, and then my ego played a role and i said that we should breakup, he said nothing but "take care and i wish u all the best", then he started acting as a child changing his profile picture to a photo that i once asked him to remove, and started uploading photos that shows how happy he is!! And the next day the big surprise was when he deleted me from social media!!! I tried talking to him on whatsapp and he was so mean to me and acting as if he doesnt know who i am and blocked me on phone and all social media!!! I am sorry for saying many details but i thought that it is important to let u understand what i have been through, i was thinking that when he calms down he will talk to me but he still didnt and even didnt remove the blocks everywhere (he removes them and put them back). The problem here is that i think i finally found the real love and i loved him as i never did before in my whole life, and i feel that if it takes me to wait for his msg my whole life i would never complain. I really love him and want him back and all i need now is only contacting him and talking to him as a mature people who can communicate even if we didnt get back together at least i need to calm my heart. Please help me how can i reach him? And will he ever contact me again? Virgos please help 🙏 what do u think is going on and why a virgo man who wanted and loved a woman as he said leave her this way without even talking? For me it is very unrepectable for him to act this way towards me even if he did want a breakup 😭 Note: excuse me for any writing mistakes or any sentence that is not clear, English is my third language.
Ok so we have been doing good but I am a cancer/Leo cusp sign so I get the bad mood swings and last weekend I had a bad one. I’m super stressed because of stuff at work, my ex and my child support, and just a lot of stuff going on.. I asked my Aries man for reassurance and honestly I just wanted to be held. He couldn’t do it.. I don’t think he understood what I was asking for? Idk but he ended up just asking me to take him home which made me feel super rejected after already feeling depressed and so I got upset and when we got into the car I said “I don’t think this is going to work.. you and me” I was trying to say “it’s not going to work if you can’t provide me with the small amount of emotional support I ask for every once in a while (because I typically do not need it very often. Most of the time my Leo personality is in the front so I like space and doing activities and having fun)” but before I could get the last part out, my Aries guy reacted to the first part only and completely blew up!! loke started yelling, almost cried.. threaten to call the cops on me.. told me to stay away from his children. Then his daughter got in the car and he loudly told her I broke up with him, to which I replied I didn’t break up I was trying to talk to you, and then he said “well I’m breaking up with you” and threw a few treetrunk you’s my way. So we ended there. I’m miserable. I tried to text a few times to explain my side and apologize. All were ignored so I left him alone. He then asked me to bring him some of his stuff 2 days later so I did. When I got there he looked sad and asked if I wanted to still get the kids together one day and hang out. I told him sure, he also asked to hug me and I let him. And then I left. I left him a note with his stuff with another apology letting him know that I’m not perfect but how I reacted to my stress was wrong and that I’m going to start some therapy to deal with my past stuff so I won’t make statements that try to end things so quickly anymore.. I recognize that in my moods I can become self destructive but I didn’t want to end our relationship. He didn’t respond to me at all that day or the next. Then he texted me today asking for me to come over with my son and he would have his son there so we could try the hanging out thing.
Does this mean we are getting back together? Am I just his friend now?
I love a taurus man who is married with two daughters. And I am divorced without having any kids. We were friends since 2011 and at that time we both were married. We were friends on Facebook and we chatted since then. Although we met at a tour before becoming friends on Facebook. It's a long story. I won't say I only loved him, because I loved/liked other men before loving him, and he also had lot's of affairs which I he told me. I never thought him anything other than friend but I always cared for him. I thought he will be by my side always. But gradually I felt that he liked me more than friend but I didn't give much emphasize on it cause at that time I liked another man, and I think he knew it because we have mutual circle. We both are doctors. Anyways, last year he expressed that he loves me, told me to get married but I didn't say anything. Cause he loved many women in his past and he has lot's of female friend. He is always connected to his all ex. And most importantly he is married till now. So I was really confused regarding future of this relationship. And I also wanted to take my time whether I will be able to love him forever or it's just a fling. I know that he liked me as more than friend since 2014-2015, but that year i got divorce, and liked another man at that time but that relationship also failed. I was so depressed that I didn't want to marry or love anyone since 2015 to 2017. But he was always in contact with me and always told me to have a settled life by marrying to another man. But I wasn't ready. By August 2017, I started to think of marriage again. But I didn't know how to find anyone who will love me. And at that time we both were close enough like chatting all the day, roaming after duty in town, even I went to his office as I was bored. But still then I didn't think him anything else than friend because I thought it's impossible that he will love me. But he expressed his interest in me like to hang out with me, to feed me by his hand, to take my photographs etc and I get angry each time. Even I told him that he is a polygamous. I was angry because he did it with all his female friends. He got upset, became distant then I apologize him. He is too much sensitive and also too much stubborn. Anyways, he told me that he loves me and we dated for one month only after his declaration. We kissed, after lot's of his efforts because I didn't want to get physical before marriage. In my past relationships, i got physical and each relationship was a disaster, so this time I tried not to repeat same thing. One day he took me to his home with another friends and there were his wife and kids at that time. But he asked me to come to his room and we kissed again. But this time I wasn't comfortable. I agreed to go to his room alone because of his stubborn nature, as he told me that I have to give him whatever he wants. After a few days he wanted to come at my place as I was alone at that time but I refused. And since then he got distant. Even i apologized after that but he didn't forgive me and was getting distant day by day. I tried to calm down his anger but it didn't work. I tried whatever I can do but he didn't reply or gave only short answer. At the same time his job location was changed and he moved alone there. Then after 2 months, I went to his new office and he told me that he is so much messy now, . That night he posted pictures of his recent tour (at first he asked me to join with him but i didn't agree) and also posted pictures of his and his wife. In past he always told to everyone that he doesn't love his wife. After seeing his post i got angry and upset and I just give and "wow" reaction to that post. Then i didn't contact him for 1 week. But my anger again fades and I travelled again to see him. When I reached there I called him and I was shocked that he had blocked my number. I was so depressed and angry that I decided to ask his colleagues about where is he now. When he saw me he was disgusted that I came to his new office. Anyways, I returned with grieve and while I was travelling he unblocked my number and contacted me several times where I am now. When I reached,he again become silent. Two days later he gave me a message in my number saying that "we had a simple relationship which he ruined, now he felt guilt about it and can't bear this load. He wants to go back to the past, just wanted to be as friends" and I said "lol". He replied " ok let's take some time to rethink, I will contact you later" and I said "ok". Since then it's been 3 months, i didn't hear from from. He blocked my number again and remove me from Facebook. He also unfriend my best friend from Facebook as we were mutual friends.
Recently one week ago,after 3 months, I posted a card to him saying "sorry, i want to make things better between us". And when he received my card he unblocked me again and asked me whether he can call me at evening. I said ok. Then he called but as I was busy due to my night duty so we talked less, he gave me msg before going to bed, just casual msg. Next evening he texted me again, and we talked for 2-3 mins. That night I texted whether he had his dinner, addressing him as "darling" and next day he became silent again, he didn't contact me. Then next day I texted him that each of my words and acts give him doubt, i feel guilty. He replied that you didn't do anything wrong,no need be guilty, he has limitations, you have to understand this,now nothing feels good as before. I replied that i knew his limitations and that's why i didn't want to turn it into anything else, I thought he would be by my side till end, I can relate only one word to him- TRUST., If he wants to go,then ok.if he wants to stay then do it. He replied that Trust was in past, is in present and will be in future and i should not think much about it. As he had experienced reality that's why "love like talking" doesn't attract him anymore, he told me to give up this thoughts for now. And I replied ok. Since then we didn't contact. One day has passed without any communication. I saw him online at 3.45am but did not ask him anything.
This is my case, sorry for long msg. I know that I should move on but I can't. I want him to be with me till my last breath. I am not that much crazy this time but really want him to be mine. I don't want to share him with anyone.
My birthdate is 4th October, 1987 and his is 8th May, 1980.
He has taurus sun, aquarius moon, gemini venus, taurus mercury, virgo mars, aries asc.
Mine is libra sun, pieces moon, libra venus, Scorpio mercury, virgo mars, sag asc.
Sun Cancer / Moon Taurus / Mercury Gemini / Venus Leo
First of all I am glad for more answers. Thank you! I'll consider every opinion! It is not that I want only my opinion to be confirmed! But I don't want accept answers as a clear-cut truth that are not written after very careful reading and considering. I apologize for the long text but I have seen much longer ones in threads.
I am here bc I am genuinly interested to hear your opinions, especially why someone shows interest in a clear way without words but doesn't answer texts what remains a riddle, riddle, riddle to me (argh!). You people did not experience the real situation and did not see his behaviour and body language, of course. Therefore you have only my insufficient description. That is the problem with threads. But I hoped to find out something about Scorpio behaviour and opinions regarding the texting issue. I heard some Scorpios hate texting and see it as a superficial mean of communication. True? Maybe I should have asked these questions directly in the first place.
WarAngel1 said "A woman will know when a Scorpio man is into her". Before the break he behaved in a way that I had absolutely no doubt that he is into me. I left out some details in my story bc it was already too long. So it was not everything work-related between us, Ellygant. My consulting is actually language teaching and we continued his lessons on a private basis after his contingent was exhausted. 50 % I taught my language, 50 % he taught me his language, without money. And he wanted me to meet him at the weekend. But we were unable to manage the appointments at the weekend (see my first text above). He also made up elaborated stories to let me know details about his life, e.g. he did that very elegantly to let me know he is single finally. During our last talk he said he could not marry me bc that were his plans with his former gf who died and the thought hurts him too much. Just a few examples - I don't want to produce more text.
Btw, my hypothesis about the texting issue is that he wants to force me to walk up to him and speak to him in person bc that is the way he can vibe whats going on between us now. And this walking up to him would be a real fight for me because it scares me to the extreme. But it also either scares him the same way or he is not ready. Maybe emotionally unavailable like Ellygant said before.
Furthermore my fight is to be tenacious towards the Scorpio man bc I felt that his reaction was not completely honest as I told him that I like him. He wanted to protect and hide his feelings I think. As he asked for a break I told him I would not easily give up on him. And now I want to keep my word.
What is your idea of fighting for love or friendship, PhoenixRising?
@sweet_cancer and @Gemitati Thanks so much you two! Gemitati, you describe exactly how I observe the Scorpio behaviour, but I would not have found your words for it.
I hope someone with Venus in Virgo experience will pay attention that he has Virgo in Venus (also Virgo in Mars). You know not every Scorpio is the same. It is said that Virgo in Venus is picky and likes to test the hell out of their potential partners, more than all other Scorpios with a different Venus. It is said they want to be chased looong times and that they think their love must be truly deserved.