Aries man broke up

He broke up. He sent me the message via text, and our lives are not exactly collided in order for me to appear around and show him any improvements or 'new beginning' as all the astrology sites are saying. Basically, if we break up and there is no inte
tinoMay 19, 2018 12:27pm
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  • tino
    Pisces sun, Sagittarius moon, Scorpio rising
    @Brittnie I've messaged you Brittnie, check your inbox okay
  • Brittnie
    ♒️Sun.♏️Rising.♈️Moon.♓️Venus
    30 years old female
    Posted by tino
    He broke up.

    He sent me the message via text, and our lives are not exactly collided in order for me to appear around and show him any improvements or 'new beginning' as all the astrology sites are saying. Basically, if we break up and there is no intertwining, we won't be seeing each other and appearing in each other's life anymore.

    He went out with a woman last night, and he said it was nothing romantically involved. For many previous times, he didn't exactly show his trustworthiness, I - a Pisces - couldn't give him any credit and asked him 2, 3 times about the event. He didn't want to explain so he shut down completely and became angry with me. He ignored, and actively told me to go home. Then, when I drove home, he texted a break-up message. We have been dating for 2 months, and last week he was so in love with me. Lots of texting, talking, everything he initiated. He asked me if I was okay, he advised me with my job issues, and he cared for me. I too, cared for him and rarely made him angry before. But after this one incident, he broke up just like that. He said we were not great for each other regarding to romantic relationship, he appreciated things I've done for him and he welcomes me to visit him but as a friend only.

    His angry is not like shouting and verbally insulting, only silence and actions. So now, just this one incident, he wanted to break up. I still hung the break-up text don't know what to answer in order to get him back.

    @Brittnie fyi, thank you for everything you have advised me. but I guess this is the end, I can't think anything to respond to him and get him back properly. This is a quote in his break-up text:

    "We need to stop being like this. Your behavior doesn't fit with me, and I extremely hate that kind of behavior. Even though you were always nice with me, but I don't think romantic relationship fits you and me. Don't try to push me answering what I don't like, I basically didn't do anything wrong to explain myself. I still like you, and welcome you visit my place, but not as my lover. Everything you have sacrificed for me, I know, I'm sorry if I can't do anything more for you. You're smart, you can handle everything."


    I'm really sorry, your break up sounds a lot like mine. You are beautiful and YOU CAN handle it. Do you want him back? Or do you think it would be better to move on? Sorry, I've been busy all week handling my own drama but message me back, I need to know how you are doing.

    much love dear
  • I'm glad you got yourself together and in the process of getting over this Aries. Aries has a short attention span in relationships and if a new pretty face draws their attention just be ready to say good bye. Don't ever contact him again, ignore any contact you get from him and let him know how strong you are. Good luck!
  • tino
    Pisces sun, Sagittarius moon, Scorpio rising
    YES @AriesJo, I absolutely agree, trust depends on people. Some give it completely in a rship and some decide to slowly hand it to their worthy partner. But either way, trust is not something guaranteed or has a rule to put on it, depending on rship and people!!!! Why can't people figure this out I don't know Sad(

    And yes, I only allow rship with fun matters in it. Such waste of life time to be dramatic, even though people judge me in my own thread, believe it or not, I never want any drama seriously. I'm just afraid now that he will think hard about the compability thing and even though he cares, he won't be back, and nothing I hate more than being friend with the one I loved and seeing them having new rship.
  • tino
    Pisces sun, Sagittarius moon, Scorpio rising
    No no @besarlalluvia, I can understand what you're saying. It's different from all the flaming trust issues some people are giving me and those past 2 pages are in Sat and Sun when I was still in my emotional outbursts. I'm getting better now, my moon sign is Sag so I'm not always upset and sad you know. I do love fun in love, life and everything. So thank you for giving me piece of advice okay, I'm really grateful.
  • besarlalluvia
    fishy caught on a hook
    you really need to stop justifying everything u do as a pisces thing. if you are really rational you will observe this without astrology. everytime you describe what you do you say “as a pisces”.

    i’ve noticed pisceans always say this after some bullbutter, like, “hahaha i stalked him after work everyday and i KNOW he’s cheating it’s just that piscean intuition and my love is SO real nobody loves harder than water signs so you better love me back or you’re a bad person haha”

    i promise you will learn things when you get out of this pisces mindset. we get things wrong too. embrace the change we’re supposed to be so good at.

    also, when aries men come to pisces.. they like the soft nurturing aspect, but also the air of carefree fun we can give off. acting paranoid and controlling isn’t fun nor nurturing and pushes an aries away. before you get defensive with me - i’m with an aries man. it’s been insightful
  • AriesJo
    Aries Sun, Aries Moon, Capricorn Rising
    This is great news. And you did the right thing not responding straight away.
    Do not come on too strong now, hide your feelings a little, he needs to make it up to you. It has to be fun, don’t waste time talking about the past with him, always keep it fun and lighthearted and focused on the future.
    I don’t understand what’s happened here, why is everyone flaming you. I’d ignore the comments about trust, this is early stages of the relationship, shouting over trust issues seems a bit mental to me. And btw guys are not stupid, if being attacked by a woman, the “you don’t trust me” card usually gets them out of it, it’s just become a subconscious thing now. I doubt there are guys out there that actually worry about whether the woman trusts them. It’s a feeling thing, women say, guys repeat when they are in trouble. Well at least most of the guys I knew in my early twenties did. When guys grow up it kinda disappears. Not saying it is this, but it’s a possiblity, so stand strong, trust is not an issue. Don’t let worry or doubt set in, expect things to go well for you and they will. All this talk of don’t get your hopes up seems a bit intense, relationships should be fun, so keep it fun, don’t overthink it, don’t worry, and if it stops being fun for you, then that’s when you walk away. For now, you think of yourself. Remember, he makes it up to you, never the other way round.
  • Posted by tino
    @GemFallOut Yes I also had a 2-year and a 3-year relationship with both Gem May and Gem June, and I've always adored and cared for them, until now. I know it's the problem of all Piscians, we can either see the smallest piece of a puzzle or the biggest picture no in between, and I often blame myself for being so small like that.

    And yes, my past relationships with my Gems, they are young and flighty so I had quite many heartaches. Entering this rship with my new Aries, I gave him the benefit of a doubt but then I saw his fun text and few flighty clues. He said sorry and adjusted himself several times, and I moved on. So basically, trust is not completely shattered at the moment but it cracks up a little you know. Like when you give trust to someone and one by one they have uncertain clues leaving you with worries and stuffs. But I know deep inside I love him more than that, so I can forgive but no one can forget. In this specific incident, I just asked him why he had not been clear about the woman's identity (first he said friend, then he said a woman, and then he said the whole theatre that they 2/3 were women) and that was it. I did not accuse him of anything, just need explanation and he wilded up, thinking I was accusing him. Aries can sometimes be so impulsive like that.

    If we give ourselves a chance, we will work on it definitely. It's a real big lesson to learn, and I always keep hope though everyone keeps shattering theirs and mine. Hope is not really a great option and I know in my guts he misses our time together, though hope is a two-sided knife, but then again, I really appreciate your useful advice from the beginning. If I can do or help with any matter just say it okay, I will return the favor as much as I can.


    You will be fine. Just give yourself and he some time to grow together.
  • tino
    Pisces sun, Sagittarius moon, Scorpio rising
    @GemFallOut Yes I also had a 2-year and a 3-year relationship with both Gem May and Gem June, and I've always adored and cared for them, until now. I know it's the problem of all Piscians, we can either see the smallest piece of a puzzle or the biggest picture no in between, and I often blame myself for being so small like that.

    And yes, my past relationships with my Gems, they are young and flighty so I had quite many heartaches. Entering this rship with my new Aries, I gave him the benefit of a doubt but then I saw his fun text and few flighty clues. He said sorry and adjusted himself several times, and I moved on. So basically, trust is not completely shattered at the moment but it cracks up a little you know. Like when you give trust to someone and one by one they have uncertain clues leaving you with worries and stuffs. But I know deep inside I love him more than that, so I can forgive but no one can forget. In this specific incident, I just asked him why he had not been clear about the woman's identity (first he said friend, then he said a woman, and then he said the whole theatre that they 2/3 were women) and that was it. I did not accuse him of anything, just need explanation and he wilded up, thinking I was accusing him. Aries can sometimes be so impulsive like that.

    If we give ourselves a chance, we will work on it definitely. It's a real big lesson to learn, and I always keep hope though everyone keeps shattering theirs and mine. Hope is not really a great option and I know in my guts he misses our time together, though hope is a two-sided knife, but then again, I really appreciate your useful advice from the beginning. If I can do or help with any matter just say it okay, I will return the favor as much as I can.
  • tino
    Pisces sun, Sagittarius moon, Scorpio rising
    @Pandora101 No of course not, the funny thing is I've accepted it and moved on hahaa, Pisces is emotional and loving, but also when I understand I understand. He asked about my work I had told him the day before we fought, which is nice 'cause he paid attention to the details. But I need you to know I really appreciate your advice back in page 2, those were my heart-breaking moments so I really appreciated having people besides me.
  • Posted by tino
    I really like and appreciate your advice, @GemFallOut. Unlike others, you realize how one-sided my stories are and instead, you go for our compability and I'm really enlightened by that. I can feel it, he can feel it, that somehow our miscommunication happened. As a Pisces, I think too much, sometimes my thoughts are too toxicate and in order not to jeopardize this rship with him, I may respectfully take a while before saying it to him. He always spots it and wants me to be blunt, but it's a dilemma you see, I was just trying to protect him cause I did not want to hurt anyone and accidentally our miscommunication was there.

    Besides from that, we have so much fun and always exchange ideas, knowledge and stuffs. Normal days, we would not stumble on miscommunication, just when some new schedules came up and I needed time to adjust but that was it, no nagging no questioning. As I wrote, this time was specific cause he hadn't been clear at first about his friend's identity so I was caught up with my workplace and his hanging out. So maybe he thought I wasn't understand him, so his first idea of dealing with anger was to break things off?

    As you predicted, he texted back this morning to ask me if my work was okay since the day before I had told him about my workplace. And I don't know how to say this, but I can feel his care, is that weird? And I know he probably is over with his anger, but why cares now why contacts back? He has a lot of watery signs in his natal chart - Pisces kind (that's why somehow we're connected) - so I know deep inside he's feeling something. But I still don't understand this care, what's his end game, what's he trying to do..maybe I need to give time on this matter. But I'm happy he's not angry anymore, and secretly hope we can overcome and get back and work on ourselves more the miscommunication thing.


    No problem at all smile

    I've known a few Pisces and I truly adore you guys. The head thing though, I do see this a lot with your sign as a whole. The main issue? Focusing on the small and minor issue, when there's a whole picture to be seen.

    I understand where you are coming from. Changes in schedules can be frustrating and it's not easy, especially if clear communication isn't had. Again in love and care I say, that if your first instinct is to have toxic or negative thoughts, you may need some time alone to yourself to sort out why this is. Is this from past relationships and repeated patterns of those relationships or your own fears of how things in this world work? At the end of the day, it is all in your mind until he brings them to life, which if he isn't, he's not the problem here dear. :/

    I'm sure you both care about each other, and in all honesty, not to get your hopes up, but I'm sure he regrets breaking it off. I'm sure he does miss you, but you already know this deep down. You want to be told this is such so you don't feel foolish to believing what you have hope in, which is a reunion with this guy. If you have hope he's coming back for you, do so with pride and realness. If you have doubt, congrats, you're human. I can't say for sure that this will work, or won't work. I'm sure what you guys have is real, but the truth is still that there is communication issues and I'm guessing it's stemming from how you process your emotions and thoughts. You have to be clear with him and even more so... yourself of where things are going if it continues this way.

    We all want the best in life, but sometimes... we find that when faced with it... we aren't exactly as ready as we thought. Nothing wrong with that, but I do ask you in love to draw inward and reflect on this yourself and be honest with yourself. I know you are capable of it and if you need anything else, you can DM me smile
  • Pandora101
    Sun Aqua, Moon Canc, Venus Pisc, Mars Aries, Mercury Cap, Asc Scorp
    female
    Posted by tino
    I really like and appreciate your advice, @GemFallOut. Unlike others, you realize how one-sided my stories are and instead, you go for our compability and I'm really enlightened by that. I can feel it, he can feel it, that somehow our miscommunication happened. As a Pisces, I think too much, sometimes my thoughts are too toxicate and in order not to jeopardize this rship with him, I may respectfully take a while before saying it to him. He always spots it and wants me to be blunt, but it's a dilemma you see, I was just trying to protect him cause I did not want to hurt anyone and accidentally our miscommunication was there.

    Besides from that, we have so much fun and always exchange ideas, knowledge and stuffs. Normal days, we would not stumble on miscommunication, just when some new schedules came up and I needed time to adjust but that was it, no nagging no questioning. As I wrote, this time was specific cause he hadn't been clear at first about his friend's identity so I was caught up with my workplace and his hanging out. So maybe he thought I wasn't understand him, so his first idea of dealing with anger was to break things off?

    As you predicted, he texted back this morning to ask me if my work was okay since the day before I had told him about my workplace. And I don't know how to say this, but I can feel his care, is that weird? And I know he probably is over with his anger, but why cares now why contacts back? He has a lot of watery signs in his natal chart - Pisces kind (that's why somehow we're connected) - so I know deep inside he's feeling something. But I still don't understand this care, what's his end game, what's he trying to do..maybe I need to give time on this matter. But I'm happy he's not angry anymore, and secretly hope we can overcome and get back and work on ourselves more the miscommunication thing.


    wait wait, Tino, " he texted BACK this morning"

    what happened? you texted him after the break-up text?
  • nikkistar
    My baby moon is sensitive
    Posted by Arielle83
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    https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/a-fascinating-story-i-just-encounter-a-cap-man--8810094/?checkpg=1


    “I’m a rational Pisces” click to expand
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    Oxymoron. Lol
  • Arielle83
    Soup nazis
    Posted by nikkistar
    https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/a-fascinating-story-i-just-encounter-a-cap-man--8810094/?checkpg=1


    “I’m a rational Pisces”
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    My baby moon is sensitive
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