Posted by Damnata
Hello Aries folks
Long time lurker, I reply on this board from time to time
I ask for your help with a very special friend of mine. She's :
We've known each other for some time now and I consider her to be family. The last 2 years were hard on her and I felt her sinking into depression. She's lost a lot of weight due to stress and she barely keeps in touch with anyone but me and her boyfriend. It started when she finished university, she doesn't find work in the field she's qualified in and it made her worry about the future. It's like all her energy and sparkle is dwindling away and I don't know how I can help her. I try not to pester her, allow her to contact me because she's grown tired of people asking her why has she changed so much but I need to find ways to make her happy again.
She loves owls so I sent her a present with a plush owl from ikea she liked when she came visiting. That made her happy for a couple days but then she drifted away again. We live in different cities.
I'll add more info if it is needed. Any suggestions or advice are appreciated
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Oh and I find what you're doing for your friend very sweet. I hope to find a friend as good, caring and awesome as you one day.. Thanks.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Just curious, what are your placements?
Sun sign, moon sign, mercury, mars and Venus
Posted by wateryram80
I'm also Aries Sun, Pisces Moon, Pisces Mercury. I like to figure out my own problems. She's in a cocoon stage and will emerge when she's ready. Just give her time. I don't like people trying to fix me or figure out what makes me tick. I'm very aware of what's wrong and right in my life. Give her time.
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
It's ok. We know everyone thinks we are crazy.
Basically I find it a complete waste of time to speak to someone unless they can help.
"talking about things helps" is not part of the Aries vocabulary.
We like to DO things. Sitting around talking seems like a waste of time when we could be DOING something.
Can you ask her out for a coffee and brainstorm job ideas. Go through the Want ads together.
If she needs a job, she needs a JOB, not some counsellor (unless they have heaps of good ideas.)
Keep being proactive about catching up. If we are in a bad place it is very hard for us to reach out and admit that we are in a bad place and need to know someone cares. It's not one of our super powers.
Posted by starlover
Would your friend talk to someone, a counsellor or therapist maybe
It might help her to put things in persepctive. It always helped me
over the years and with all the challenges life brings
Aries people are quite prone to depression and low self esteem and it
is wonderful she has you, but maybe encourage some help too