Help with an old Aries flame
Wondering if any Arian women can shed some light.
I was in a year long rship when tragedy hit my family. My brother passed suddenly, unexpectedly. Hit me and effected us really hard. This happened 6 months in. 5 months later and we split.
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By doublesidedGem — May 17, 2017 7:06am — 25 replies
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Posted by toxiccotton
Posted by doublesidedGem
Gawd she's relentless. I've never understood how she can roll things so easily off the tongue. She's blind to the fact that she accepts my position and still says I'm wrong and made no points. This woman actually believes she's does nothing Tonadd to a situation and that I created it.
She tells me she's uncomfortable with memes, yet doesn't stop or pull away when we hug her close or run my fingers through her hair. She told me she wants to go on holiday, when I mentioned it she accused me of lying and saying that I mentioned it! I've sent her some holiday screen shots of some good deals, she then says this morning sending her these without her saying yes is weird. I said you asked me and if you don't want go say no and I won't send them. Do you think she replied to it, no of course not. She wants to tcall the shots and because I call her and blatantly honest I don't think she likes it. But I think she does. Weird but I treetrunking like her so much, which is annoying.
Sounds like she has aries mercury (I do too). It's a bytch sometimes. We don't listen to reason.
I don't know why she's throwing such a fit, when she could easily choose to cut all contact with you, if that's what she wants. Maybe she's desperately trying to re-establish some control, because you were the one in control in your relationship back when you were grieving. I think she likes you around, but how can she go back to someone who hurt her. Gotta have some self respect, after all, right?
Your relationship sounds very dysfunctional at the time, and I think the reason she is being so melodramatic is because she wants to feel like she's the one in control this time. And yes, we like when people are honest with us and call us on our crap. I'm sure she respects you for that.
I honestly think the only thing that could fix this is if you tell her you still have feelings for her. But tell her when she's calm... Right now she doesn't know what you want, right? So she doesn't want to get in too deepclick to expand
She'll reason to a point, then still tell me I'm in the wrong whilst acknowledging things she could've done. I liked her up on butter which got her angrier. You're totally right though, I don't expect her to come back without her seeing that I've moved on the grieving. I'm trying to keep things so light at times, I guess that's where her need to gain control comes back as she feels this should be in her terms!
She knows I my feelings for her, which I haven't brought up randomely unless she's mentioned. But she's adamant nothing will happen. But like yourself I think if she isn't remotely interested even staying friends as she put this morning, cut me off. I've given her no indication my feelings towards lessened. She still wants to be friends but nothing more ... Crazy.- Actually I think you're spot on regarding gaining control. She's been spiteful with her words thinking that will shut me down. She's backed right off and said we shouldn't be in contact with that I say fine take care. She doesn't block me or completely cut me off like before I think because she knows I'll carry on.
So she'll message me when she's ready to meet and talk like before outside of dating! I'm starting to read her I just can't act on the reading of her just yet. As much as we clash at times we do have a great friendship. - She hasn't even wished me happy birthday - not the end of the world, but still ?
Posted by IamAries
Let me be a little mean here and say that if you want her to think about you, don't send her a message.
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message.
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
Nah man. You gotta stay in the crosshairs. Aries are all about what's right in front of them. If he disappeared, she's not thinking of him.
My advice (if you want her back) is to keep it casual and no flirting via text whatsoever. Shoot her a msg every few days- It sounds like you're spot on. We've spoken since and she's so melodramatic that she's asked me not to contact her. She knows my feelings and has figured out that I'd like to get back with her at some point. She's adamant it won't happen and has said she genuinely doesn't find me attractive... and to close any door and we will only remain friends. Kick to the ego for a while but I'm ok looking so whatever. I've said you never know wha happens in time and she agreed. But right now she knows what she wants.
She said that it's clear I need time to get over her, even though I said this ages ago! She could easily block me as she did before. I never seeked her friendship or conversation when we wasn't talking. Posted by doublesidedGem
I just think it's strange that I told her I can't be simply friends as my feelings are too much. It was her decision to block us. On the first night we met up she's asked me to go away and we've planned to meet up this public holiday.
I sill think there are feelings from her side, definitely from me. I'm not pressuring her. And have told her that I missed her, and these feelings came back. I'm in a much better place than I was. She can see that. I've said I want to rebuild our friendship first, and where possible put the past behind us and move forward.
She's going away tomorrow for work, I wanna send her a little text, nothing heavy. Or shall I just leave for her to contact me?
Text her. Make her happy.Posted by Gemitati
Posted by doublesidedGem
I just think it's strange that I told her I can't be simply friends as my feelings are too much. It was her decision to block us. On the first night we met up she's asked me to go away and we've planned to meet up this public holiday.
I sill think there are feelings from her side, definitely from me. I'm not pressuring her. And have told her that I missed her, and these feelings came back. I'm in a much better place than I was. She can see that. I've said I want to rebuild our friendship first, and where possible put the past behind us and move forward.
She's going away tomorrow for work, I wanna send her a little text, nothing heavy. Or shall I just leave for her to contact me?
Text her. Make her happy.click to expand
It's not as simple as that sadly. I know she'd like to be friends, even given what she said. She clearly wants it on her term and not mine hence her bringing up me needing to time to get over her before we can really establish a friendship. I don't need more friends if we didn't meet as friends. I've never stayed friends with an ex, she knows this, I told her and never gave an indication before this last month otherwise. I even told her the night after we first met that feelings had come back. But agreed to try and respect her and see it as nothing else.
I'd love nothing more than that but whether that happens is another story and ultimately not down to what I just want ?- Soooooo! Long story short I met another Aries lady, my age and amazing! We’ve got it off like a house on fire and things are going so well.
This Aries that this post was originally about has come on the scene ten fold. I’ve told her I’ve met someone else and that we’re dating. I told her I spent New Years with her. Not out of spite or to get one over. She just keeps messaging me and asking about things I’m doing or done.
It’s so funny. I’m going to ask this new lady I’ve met to be my girlfriend. We’re already exclusive and I know she is waiting for me to ask as she’s dropped hints ☺️!
Happy 2018 everyone 😁 - So happy for you!!
Posted by Impulsv
Posted by IamAries
Let me be a little mean here and say that if you want her to think about you, don't send her a message.
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message.
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
LIKE HIS brother just died
He doesn’t have time to play treetrunked up gamesclick to expand
Dude.. you are 7months late.
OP already finished that book and started reading a new one.
