Posted by saggirl64
Update: We've been hanging out and she's been contacting me a lot. I always wait for her to contact me first because I don't want her to think I'm ready to just jump into this again without having some serious conversations. She's opened up to me twice in the past three days telling me that she has been hanging out with her ex and texting her ex and she even admitted to having sex with her ex in the two weeks that we didn't talk. She says that she will always love her ex but she doesn't want to get back together with her because it was a bad relationship. At the same time she's told me how much she likes me and how much she has missed me. I told her that I can't do this if she doesn't want this to go somewhere serious and she said she agreed. She even texted her ex and told her that they can't have sex anymore but she did tell me that she can't/will not stop talking to her/hanging out. I asked if I could meet her ex and she said yes. So I don't know what to do. I like this girl a lot and I want it to work out but I'm nervous about the ex situation. I told her that I can't do this if I'm going to be left for the ex and she told me that wouldn't happen. What do you Aries think? Do you think she's being truthful or do you think, given the opportunity, she would go back to the ex? :/ She also told me that the way she felt when she first started dating her ex is how she feels about me. Good thing? Help!
Posted by Gemini530
I heard many Aries are "flash in the pan."
Posted by Geminivixen
So who's the 'stud'? Or are you both 'Femm's' ? Seriously.. just asking..?
Posted by feb16aqua
hmmm. I don't know what to say. I think you should consider walking away from this one...
I knew an aries who would do that when he lost interest in a woman but did not want the drama...just a slow fade out, and maybe a hook up here and there.
I'm really sorry. Hopefully I am wrong.
Posted by Gemini530
I'm in a similar boat with an Aries Male....and I don't claim to be an expert on Aries, I'm just as confused as you, but one of my best friends is an aries woman so hopefully I can shed some light.
My Aries guy is also insanely busy with work...he won't text me what is goin on there, but when I see him (which isn't much) he does open up. My friend is also rather ghost when she is busy, but she at least replies. Aries are concerned about their money and their future. The women seem a lot more considerate of others than their male counterparts, but aries men just don't think much outside of the realm of their own noses. Mine yesterday mad a comment that made me furious....It was Valentines day and he didn't mention a thing about it til we were talking about pornography, and he said this porn star he likes was his Valentine. I took that as a giant eff you, though, I think maybe he was joking. They seriously lack any couth. My friend and I weren't even friends the first few years we knew each other...she legit scared me. So, I'm also kind of baffled about this guy. I'm tired of being the first to make contact so I'm leaving him alone, and If I don't see him soon he's done. I like him, and understand this is partially Aries traits but that doesn't mean i have to like it/
Ah I knew she had feelings for you .. she wouldnt be back texting you if she didnt ... I think you should just go straight to the point and tell her how confused you are, how you know she was hanging around her ex and how you feel stupid when all you tried to do was be there for her... and see what she says.... just say you want to be there and be a part of her life but you need to be honest with each other first. What you wrote .. your last sentence to me above is perfect... but say that you feel like she is playing with your feelings... that's how it makes you feel... there is nothing wrong with telling someone how they are making you feel... I know I wouldnt like if I hurt someone .... especially someone i care about...