Posted by Stardeath
Hi, I am a scorpio girl. And my bf is a Cancer, which broke up with me last May 4.
It was an ugly breakup, and not a mutual decision. I don't want the breakup, but what can I do right? He said some nasty things, told me "treetrunk you", called me a toxic, disgusting, possessive, manipulative, double standarder, and guilt tripper.
I owned the blame. I said sorry and told him I repent all the things that made us split up. And I want to be in good terms. I love him so much and tries to reconcile on him but he is responding to me like I am not a person at all or like we didn't had a past. He is my first LDR and online relationship. He knows I am pretty scared of all of it but he made me feel safe so I gave it a go.
I feel like the whole breakup is so unfair because he didn't gave me a chance , and he said nothing will change if he will and I won't change. He said he gave out a lot of chances during our relationship already. Which I also did for him, and yet?
Idk what to do. Like, I wanna win him back and hoping that he'll realize all the things I've done for him. Because he admitted I did lot of things for him that he never experienced in a relationship before and it makes him feel special and loved.
But now I see him being so close to our mutual friend of mine which is like his "little sis" (according to him when we were still okay). But i saw him posting I love you so much to her wall, and I love you to her posts. And it hurts me much.
I don't know what to do. I am pretty destroyed
Posted by Aries4
My Cancer guy is driving me crazy. I'm an Aries woman and I'm trying to patient with him but it's hard.
We've been dating for like 3 months, we really hit it off right away. we just naturally clicked. the attraction was always there since we met. However, during this period we 've dealt with the problem of his mood swings when he had suddenly changed or disappeared for no apparent reason. But we went through it all thanks to my doing the first step, which led to his coming back and being as caring and loving as possible. So recently everything was just perfect, he would always tell me he loved me, that he had never felt like this before with anyone else, he always took me out on dates and out with his friends... I met his family. he always referred to me as his girlfriend. we spent a lot of time together, he always made time for me, even when he had work all day he came to see me afterwards. We've even been intimate together and he was my first, so it was a big deal for me and he knew it. However, this past week he has been very distant with me. He doesn't call or text like he used to and when I do he ignores my texts or responds with short answers without any enthusiasm. I asked what's wrong he said that nothing was wrong that he is loaded with work and is very tired. He actually is busy, since he's been working like 24/7 but being busy did not stop him before, and anyway I believe that if you care for someone you can find time for just one small sweer goodnight and good morning text. And his behaviour is very strange considering that he was completely different before and we were talking every single day. why this sudden change? I am very confused!!!
Posted by Pisces7733
I’m new here. I'd like to have your opinion (cancerians) about the situation I'm currently dealing with.
I met this cancer man 2 months ago. We have seen each other twice (I know it's not a lot but I went on a holiday twice during those 2 months). We had good chemistry and we talked nearly everyday. I know he needs his space sometimes, and I do to. When we met it was very lovely. He gave me lots of compliments, I gave him compliments too of course. I noticed that he looked a bit shy when he gave me compliments. He also hugged me a lot of times and wanted to hold me (sometimes it seemed that he wanted to hold me, but was holding back). It clicked and it felt just natural. We had a nice flow.
He is going through some personal things, and lately has been distant. The first time he was silent he didn't tell me anything, I didn't pressure him even though I was making up all kinds of scenarios and was ready to move on (this is my first time dealing with a cancer, so please bare with me). He messaged and apologised to me for being silent after 2 days and explained that someone of his family has fallen ill. I told him I was there for him and he went back silent, which I understood so I gave him his space and sent him a nice gif once during this silence. After 4 days he contacted me again right before I went on a holiday. Everything was all good and he seemed to be doing better. We met up after I landed and had coffee (this was so thoughtful of him).
Fast forward, we were supposed to meet up. We made plans even though he was going through some issues again and was a bit distant. He has some issues at work so I didn't push him, but he still wanted to meet me. He seemed excited. He was home alone and we decided to do some cooking together. He lives in another city so I told him I will come to his. He again apologised for being a bit distant and that he would tell me what has been going on when we would meet (the next day). We even agreed on a time. The next day I texted him I was on my way, but no response. I was like whatever he will respond later. I know that the night before he was going out with a friend (I saw posts of them two). He even asked to reschedule our time to a bit later the next day which was okay for me. When I got there he didn't show up. My messages didn't come through as he didn't have internet in another country (we live close to the border). He messaged me once” hey did you leave your home yet because I don’t have any signal here and phone is dying”. I interpret that as “just so you know my phone doesn't work but ill be there”. His friend then posted a pic on IG later that day that they were super hungover and eating pizza. At the same time that we were actually supposed to meet.
I was gutted because I drove nearly 2 hours to see him. We agreed on the date and time. He was not there. His phone wasn't on, I do believe him when he said he didn't have a signal. I sent him a couple of texts with “where are you?” After waiting for an hour I went back home. I was upset to say the least.
When I got back home I sent him “thanks a lot”. And went back to bed. I needed to calm down and didn't want to go all crazy on him so i thought it was best to sleep on it. Later that day my messages came through but didn't reply.
I noticed he tends to make “poor” decisions when he is with his mates and likes to be with them since they don't see each other that often. Which I can somehow understand since he has been in a mood lately. He probably “needs” this.
I gave it some thought and texted him the next day. Not even angry but I said “ I want to be honest with you, what happened last night kind of hurt me. I hope you can look at it and understand me from my point of view and see that it wasn't a nice experience for me. I'm not saying this because I want a fight with you.m nor am I even angry with you. It just hurt my feelings because I do think you are sweet and nice. And I have been a bit worried about you lately as well”.
4 days has passed and no apologise which I don't even expect, no nothing. He has been in his shell a lot lately and I bet he still is, but this is a bit crap to be honest.
What do you reckon I should do next?
Thanks a lot
Posted by Dreamy88
I still love this thread. I’m always excited to read the new stuff when it gets a bump
Posted by HouseCleaningPosted by AngelGrace
So I'm with a cancer guy,we've been together for 9 months yh,yh I've had emotional distress and happiness from dating him,the distress because I don't understand him at times.
So now,for about 3 weeks,he says he's been busy I've been asking for a hang out,finally we saw yesterday night but he promised me today so we could be with each other for a longer time,but today it flopped, now this is not new to me because he says he can't make it sometimes.
Yh we've had a few sleepovers and I don't know it didn't turn out that lovely.
But a sleepover is when I get to be with him for real, I'm asking and he's not responding.
I've cheated on him for these same reasons and he's forgiven me.
First I don't know what to do
2. I feel like cheating again (I cheated with a sag).
3.he's a politician, and there's inauguration on the 26th.
4.kindly help a Leo out and tell me what's going on that I can't see,will ya?
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